last summer i liked this guy. and he said he didnt like me back so i believed him. and i stopped liking him cause i figured i didnt like him much.

then the next may or something i find out he likes me. and i don't like him because i like this other guy. a LOT. and i'm not going back for that guy. i have no feelings for him.

and now i find out he might transfer to my school because his school is shutting down. at first, i didn't mind. i brushed it off and didn't care. BUT NOW.. i just found out he asked evry friend that i have that he knows for my phone number. of course, and fortunately, no one gave him it. but he keeps asking me for it. he keeps asking 38473 people omg. and then he went through his old phonebook so that he could find out my home number cause i gave it to him when i liked him. and then i told him not to call because i barely pick up, which is a lie, and he asked me for my cell. of course i dont want to tell him. but i dont want to tell him off and hurt his feelings.. he even keeps saying to me "if i come to your school, and i'm better than the guy you like, would you like me?" i dont know if he knows.. but i won't get over the guy i like right now jsut because he's better(which he isn't).

this is getting far beyond i expected.. i'm sorry if i sound like im bragging because someone likes me, or if i seem immature because im acting like this but i'm not usually like this. this guy is freaking me out. he acts so desperate. he thinks i like him although i told him i like someone else, and wants my phone number so desperately. and i can't hurt his feelings but i kinda need to. and if i do, its gunna be akward if he's in my school. idk what should i do? and don't just critcize me for being harsh, i know i am but i cant help it..

so what exactly should i do? how can i tell him i dont like him without hurting his feelings? has this ever happened to you?

it's never happened to me
i think you answered your
own problem
when you said
you wanna tell him you dont like him
but dont wanna hurt his feelings

just say how much you like that other guy
and tell him that he missed his chance

^lol, thanks. this guy is scaring the crap out of me

kick him where the sun dont shine

lol no just keeding. i have a stalker. but an actual one who lives down the street from me. hes given me his number, and my boy friends have called him and threatened him to leave me alone, but despite that when he sees m in the streets he'll come running after me and try to talk to me. when i walk by his house, he'll all of a sudden come running out cos he watches for me at the window. he talks to his mother about how i have "a big booty" and how he likes my ass. his dad tries to get me w/ his son. his dad will stop me in the middle of the street and say "have you talked to my son? you two should get together" EW.

anyways just TELL the dude you dont like him anymore, that you did but your feelings faded. i know you dont want to hurt his feelings but SOMETiMES you have to be just a LiTTLE harsh to get the point across.

that is just creepy I would die if some guys father came up to me and said that. EW is right.

Juhs tell say, "I don't like you that way." instead of saying, "Your awesome but I don't want to go out with you." then he'll think he isn't awesome.

Just say "I dont like you, back off."

My most recent ex would NOT leave me alone.He kept spamming my email, IM-ing me with like a new sn everyday etc. etc. I got my brotherand my friends to get onto him at once. He was a jerk. He called me fat.

Seriously. You just gotta tell him to back off.

You can always move away.

That boy and his father are creepy.

And I'm sure someone has helped you with a good answer already.

I do have a comment, though! There's this phone number to give to people like that... Since it's serious, I wouldn't suggest it, but it's called the Rejection Hotline. You give it to someone who wants your phone number but you don't want to give it to them and this recorded voice picks up and starts going on about a whole bunch of stuff...

Here's their site, just for kicks.

Rejection Hotline Page

That wasn't advertising, I hope...

lols just tell him to stop. hes mature enough to understand that right?

tell him to F*CK OFF. Hes a loser and you dont like him so tell him to get over it. Id rather be a b*tch and being blunt bout it all then keep leading him on like tht. just tell him to fist himself and move on.

hrmm i kinda have a stalker too ... but i never actually liked this guy ... and yea he`s creeping me out too !! >< all my friends say i`m too nice cuz .. like you, i don`t wanna hurt his feelings .. but now DUDE i can`t take it anymore . sooooo yea he has my # but .. i might like not pick up my cell .. and i kinda blocked him on AIM .. he`s creepy !! but yea .. try ignoring him ?? try to stay away from those kinda people ..

well tell him that he already turned you down and that you've moved on and be done with it. don't let him bother you forever...because that just sucks for you...

Just tell him you don't like him anymore and he's gotta move on..

But when he transfers to your school and IF he starts to like seriously stalk you from one class to the next.. Tell the conselor. Restraining order? Possible.

i hope your summer is going great

just tell him...he hurt your feelings first...i don't see why you can't do the same

QUOTE(nosuntoday @ Jul 13 2005, 3:40 PM)

i hope your summer is going great

Dont spam. I told you like 38402958938592 times read the guildelines please.
Dont date him. Stalkers are scary. This guy doesnt seem very nice he very stalker like asking for your phone # and all.

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just tell him...he hurt your feelings first...i don't see why you can't do the same

That is very smart. Do that^

Right there is the problem.

Unless you don't want him to stop bothering you, just nicely say, "I'm sorry, but I like another guy now," and ignore him.

If he still bothers you or anything, then it's best to tell an adult you trust or whatever about this guy that stalks you so they can do something about it.

beat him up..smack him silly..kick him...

^he'll get the news and he'll leave you alone

You don't want to hurt his feelings but yet he's begging you for a phone number. Give him the number, but when he calls don't pick up if you don't want to talk.

tell him in a nice way to "FALL BACK!!" lol that all i can say

It's not that bad. Yet.
He just seems a bit on the obsessive side. Really, just tell him straight up (but nicely) that you're over him cuz of the way he treated you before. He said he didn't like you, and now you don't like him.
THE END.

LOL..
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I had something like that kind of happen before..
Just tell him you don't like him and he lost his chance already...
If he doesn't stop, tell him more harshly..If that doesn't help, ignore him..Ignoring him would probably work best..(from experience i know that..)

Ahh! I have the same problem, and I hate guys that are like that and I'm not oing to dumb my sad sad story on you guys but, tell me NOW to leave you alone, you're kinda leading him on and let me tell you, not good at all. If you get a boyfriend that mgiht be a problem, the stalker for me got his ass kicked because of his idiocy.