me and my bf have only been going out for a couple days and already people have been saying that he is doing stuff with other girls... i dont know if i can still really trust him. what do you think?

What sort of stuff? If he's doing bad stuff, then break up with him. YOU CAN get better. Don't let him use you.

I wouldn't know much about this because the only other love that my bf has is cars and/or games. So basically, hahas, I can trust him. Games and cars are mainly all that he thinks about O_o"

people have been saying that he is trying to get "some" from this girl and that he was rubbing lotion on her and stuff like that

i know thats right and like i heard in a play if you have to sit and wonder if yo man is cheating, if he gives you reason. he just might be. and then again it could be a harsh rumor designed to break youse guys up. you might want to do a little observing before you take drastic actions.

(edit) i mean dont get passive and let it slid i hate to see women being played by guys that they think love them but just use them... shit isnt right

dont put ur trust in him yet, its only been a few days lol trust takes time to gain... well if he does other stuff with girls that means u can do stuff wit other guys and if he lets u do that then break up cuz there woumldnt be a point anymore

Ask him face to face.

i've tried to ask him face to face but he always denies it and says it is all just a lie.. but i dont know who is lying, him or them.

hmm... make sure he doesn't use u for something :/

U cant trust everyone even the closest of friends or family.I dont trust anyone but still have fun with friends and family...

Well, dont just jump into conclusion... u have to see for yourself. CAuse your friends could be lying too... soO yea.. find out the truth first... before u will regret what u will do.

a couple days? doing stuff with other girls? i personally wouldn't get too attached YET, untill he would show that he's more dedicated to you and he truely wants to be ur bf. but then again, who are these people? close friends of urs? cause maybe these people just dont like the idea that you two are toghether. it maybe seems that these people are just trying to start stuff.

i'd think, if those 'people' cared about u and knew ur bf was up to no good, then they woulda said something better than "he is trying to get "some" from this girl and that he was rubbing lotion on her"

is he takin dem out??cuz if he is den end ur relationship.

keep lookin or mayb even ask, if he is break it up, he's not worth it if he does that.

grab 2 or 3 of your most trusted friends, and tell them to go on a spying mission. dont make them kill your boyfriend, just have them keep an eye out to see what he's doing with other girls. if hes just talking to other girls, dont qurk out. but if hes like touchin and huggin and being less than 6 inches away from the girl, oh you go girl. you get in there and emberrase that man.

Man it seems to me everyone is giving you some so what not good advice....i mean like how do you know?? I mean are you going to sit there and believe what people are telling you?? Or are you going to believe in just yourself.....i mean i deal with this kind of stuff all the time...and like people say things so you don't get with that person....and i mean...i dealt with that and where people were telling me that my boyfriend was cheating on me and he wasn't because i asked him and i said don't lie to me because they truth will show....and comes to find out people where just talking smack...so i wouldn't be with him.......I mean a lot of people will do things just to get you guys separate....and i say you go and ask him.....and beat the shiizzz out of him and say i want to know if the rumors are true....are you cheating on me....and freakin ask him and beat him up....i mean not literally....but i mean like basically people say things just to ruin your life...and like sometimes that isn't good at all.....

but that is my advice....

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grab 2 or 3 of your most trusted friends, and tell them to go on a spying mission. dont make them kill your boyfriend, just have them keep an eye out to see what he's doing with other girls. if hes just talking to other girls, dont qurk out. but if hes like touchin and huggin and being less than 6 inches away from the girl, oh you go girl. you get in there and emberrase that man.

If you do that then it will show how immature you are...and also....sometimes you need to be the bigger adult and talk things out.....not make a scene.....cause stupid things like spying and sneaking is no point and shows what kind of person you are....and hey i'm just saying like i said before

this is my advice to you...

you gotta build trust.. i wouldn't trust him. especially since its only been a couple days. but you're the one thats with him.. we don't know him or his personality.. so trust your gut. just watch out for yourself.

yeah i hab to agree with seon ho..talk to ur bf about it...-_-;; hes prolly flirting with girls or jus hanging out with them jus fo' fun, but hes prolly acting like a single man and jus be a playa around otha girls.....cus thats wat my ex-bf did and he was cheating on me-_-;; hehe.... so yeah.. u gotta see if hes the one to take ur heart for granted...u jus cant a guy's heart....cus hes cute or nice... u gotta see more of him, so u can hab better relationship with him^^

talk to him, and if he says he isn't, trust your instincts, if he says yes well...... i think u kno wut 2 do...

woah. ok if you've only been going out for a few DAYS and hes cheating on you, then you CAN and shoudl do better. cuz thats just stupid on his part

yeah talk to him about it. just be honest. don't believe anything you hear from others first, cos it might just be gossip...

i wish i have somebody....

haha omg same! its like... my bf could spend an ENTIRE week infront of his PC or PS2 x.x.. aanndd.. he knows too many darn stuff about cars he outsmarted me into allowing him to get the car I wanted lol buh anyway... its all cool.

Uhmm... about the cheating thing... well.. see.. are those "people" worthy enough for your trust? Coz they might just be making things up, you'll never know. So double check... you could stalk him or sneak into his house and tap his phoneline. And if your conscience eats the hell outta you just say "Just in case" always works for some people

Wow two days and you're already hearing this stuff... I don't have much experience with this but I would second krnxswat's approach. Just look at him in the eye and ask if these rumors are true. But just one question, does your bf seem to be the kind of guy that seems to be prone on hitting on other girls?

omg. with mine, it's his band and his guitar.......

you need to speak with him on it.. find out for yourself if he's doing you wrong .. don't go by what others say .. and if he is .. drop him .. he isn't even worth it ..

maybe the person who told u is jealous on you
u hav 2 check it out urself
if ur bf really do very bad stuff u shood let him go

You shouldn't take everything u hear to ur heart. My homegirl's bf had news goin' around buh that was just cos` of tha guy he was before he met her. There's word goin' around still buh they've been together for about 5 or 6 months and she's with him 24.7 so that's nothin' but a grip of bull. I'm not tellin' u to forget what everyone says though. You gotta make sure for urself.

GIRL! u need to go talk to him! if he be doing that to u then u need to go up to his face ask him an if everything is true u need to dump his a##! believe me some gurls in my skool really value themselves that low as to keep being wid dere bfs even tho they KNOW they are cheating on them i just hate it now! i mean we gurls are worth alot to settle for guys who cheats on us like that! the best of luck to you and dont let any guy use u like that or even cheat on u.

BEST OF LUCK!

i think that other grls like him thats y they r saying that stuff.. so if u break up wiff him ur friends might take over her.. lol... maybe they r right..

just talk to him about it

ask him for real. and if he says yes, of course you have to dump him or something.