I've been with my BF for 4 months now. It's long distance.

He told me that he loved me. I told him I felt the same. That was a long time ago. I guess after winter passed, we both matured. We have lest to talk about now and we're so busy with what's going on in our lives. So now I'm beginnning to doubt if I really do love him.

It's really been bugging me for quite a while. The rasional side of me thinks breaking up with him is for the best, then I can concentrate fully on my studies. But the other part of me doesn't want to break up with him. Maybe I'm selfish. I don't wanna let go of him in case in the end I really do love him. I don't want to be alone again after being with someone who loves me and cares for me.

I don't even know if he still feels the same way for me either... Should I break up with him? Or should I stay with him? I'm so confused myself...

See this is why I hate love. It screws me up.

well u need to talk to ur b.f and see where hes at. i know that sounds kinda stupid but it'll help a lot if u knew what was up with him. and how he feels. thats about all i got. lOL! i hope that helps a little.

jackie

Yeah, I think it's best to talk to him about how he feels with you guys not spending time and whatnot. Then, I would suggest go from there. Although, if you're having all these doubts about it, you might want to wait a little longer and see what happens (if anything changes).

well....mmm... maybe you should talk to him about it... some boys may not be as mature as girls are...or maybe he just felt shy around you after the winter break...but the best thing to do is talk to him about it, that way you know what he wants...and then you can tell him what you want.

like everyone is saying... u shuld talk this to ur bf... heh and see wat he thinks abot too.... lols...cus we're not ur guy....... lols... all we have "guesses" "thoughts" "thinking" lols so yeah ur bf needs to hear this...if ur not ready and nervous...then dont break up with him cus that means u dun wana break up with him.

Act real happy and lovey around him and even if he is at the same point your at, he'll start to love you again, and you'll know when he loves you...trust me

i think u should ask urself if u still really like him or not, if u dont u should break up cuz it'll hurt him to be with someone who doesnt feel the same way he does... and if u still like him, u should tell him that u guys talk less and its bad and maybe he'll do something about it

you have to speak with him on the matter first. see how both your feelings are and where you stand. don't be afraid to follow what your mind tells you though. if you break up then it's for the best. if you learn that you really do love him then have faith that in the end it'll lead you back together one day. take everything a day at a time and things will be a lot easier. good luck

I say break up and concentrate on your studies.

We had a talk yesterday and decided that we should break up. After my national exam and when he comes back from his Marines training at the end of the year, we'll see if we still have feelings for each other. If we do, then we'll work something up. But that's still a long time more, so iono, our feelings might change...

Isn't it weird? We both love each other, but we choose to be apart, because that's the 'logical' thing to do... I guess it figures since we're both two materielistic (sp?) people...

But after we broke up, I have all this flashbacks and they made me cry... A couple of hours before we broke up, he sang Happy Birthday to me, even though he thought he sucked at singing... He called me Ashley, his future wifey... The very first time he said out loud that he loved me... It was also the last... How happy I felt everytime I opened my email knowing there would be a love email waiting for me... The very first time I received a letter from him...

And then I realised, I was never gonna get those things anymore... And that made me cry even more...

(Winter Posted on Apr 17 2004, 8:51 PM)




aww...you don`t know what you got `till it`s gone..

thats from a korean drama, stairways to heaven. i havent finished watching all of the videos yet, but i think its true... there are too many things in life that aren't fair. :/