My friend like three guys, I like one of them. She doesnt do anything about her crushes, and she told me not to date that guy, she told me to turn him down if he asks me out. what should I do if he does? I dont want to ruin our friendship, I know no boy is worth that but still, is she out of order, or am I?

ur friend is selfish, go out with the guy. Forget your friend if she is that selfish since she aint gon do ne thin about her guys.

she's being selfish... and if he DOES ask you out, then she still has those 2 other guys anyway

tell her she cannot control you, and she really has no right and your not taking something from her, because she obiviously never had it

shes your friend; but she should not be the one telling you who to date and who not to date just because one of the guys you like she likes too. thats not fair. Tell her that.

0h goshness.. drama . Anyways, girl, even though she's your friend, she's not acting like one, if she claims all the guys she has a crush on is hers. Which btw, is totally unFAiR! Personally, i wouldn't listen to her.. Because she hasn't really done anything to even let them know she likes them ...(well that's just me). But on the reals..yea your riight sayin "no boy is worth losing a friendship", but you know, don't let her make decisions for you and your life. Because simply its YOUR LIFE, you can do anything you want to. haha So, yea i would say "yes" to the guy, b/c you like him..and you shouldn't hide that kind of feeling just for your friends selfish sake. [erm..sorry kind of harsh]. So yeah. But just a warning..if she does get mad at you for sayin "yes" to the guy..tell her,
-don't start drama!
-its my decision not hers [in the nicest possible way]

or just plainly talk it over is the best..but if she's still mad from what you did, she was never a friend . aiight hope i helped!! ^.^

i think if she's a true friend then she wouldnt be so selfish and tell you who to date or who not to...... she basically doesnt care about what you think...... and who you wanna go out with is your decision.... she cant tell you what to do

say that if he asks here out she has to say no...and see how she feel sbaout that

well; if he really does ask you out first of all, you should say yes and just tell your friend that you two actually like each other, and she could stick with her other two if she is that desperate.. i dont see a point of hogging three guys that dont seem intrested.

wow no offence but 3 PPLZ!!!!! omg tell her to go for 1 guy n if 1 of em askes u out go 4 it

thanx peoples

The friend is being selfish. She cant have every guy she likes to herself. If you like that guy and he ask you out then go for it. You have a mind of your own and dont need anyone telling you what to do. And if she was a true friend she would respect that.

she's not a friend if she can say that to yooh. someone needs to put some sense into her head. who does she think she is, asking yooh to turn down other ppl like that? i mean, if she does like him, she'd want him to be happy, and if he does ask yooh out, it means that he believes being with yooh would make him happy. so she'll let yooh. actually, she cant let yooh, because its not in her control at all, she cant stop yooh from going out with a guy yooh like and likes yooh back!

She's totally out of line. There's a complete difference between situations in which she's in a relationship, and she doesn't want you to help her boyfriend cheat on her (which she shouldn't be worrying about in the first place) and a situation in which she likes THREE different boys, none of which she's garunteed to get, and tells you that you're not allowed to like him.

What if he likes you? Then she never had a chance with him in the first place. If he asks you out, you should go out with him. She may see it as you ruining a friendship, but if he asks you out before her, then he never wanted her as much as you anyways, and even if he ends up going out with her, he's still going to feel attraction for you. If she's stupid enough to try and limit your relationships with boys, then you don't need to try and heed her.

Your friend is out of line. First of all, since she isn't dating any one of the guys, therefore she cannot set restrictions on them. Tell her honestly that if you like him and he's going to ask you out then you will say, "yes" and go out with him. Tell her that she's being selfish and inconsiderate. If the guy asks you out, go for it.

Dayyyhuuumm...you're friend is seriously messed up. She has NO RIGHT to say who you can/cant go out with. and if he likes you, and not her, then, go out with him. She's so out of line and messed up that really, if i were you, i would say to hell with her.

that sounded mean. but i would.

she's being selfish. if she's your friend she should try to be happy for you no matter how hard it is.. just go out with him

So? It's not like she's your mother, is she? Evenmore, she has no relation with the boys.

YOU and only you can control yourself. [Except for authority figures, you know?]

Wow, I hate it when that happens. But seriously, if she never does something about it and just sits on her butt and thinks about them and doesn't even like talk to them, that's really dumb. If the guy asks you out, you should go out with him anyway, because I real friend would not hold a boy against your friendship. Goodluck =]

Since when the hell is she telling you what to do?

thanx

no offense, but you're friend's kind of selfish there o.o she has to learn that she can't get EVERYTHING that she wants. besides, she doesn't even do nething to her crushes! if the guy likes u, i say go for it, if she's your friend, she would understand

thats a hard one, but you gotta figure out whats important to you. Does she really REALLY like this guy? If she's crushing other guys than i'd say probably not. Maybe you should go for it. i mean maybe nothing happens between you and him, then everyones ok right? It all really depends on you and her, and of course you know her, and we don't so the call is yours. Just don't wind up loosing friends over boys. cuz trust me, boys come and go, but your girls are the ones that are there forever (if they're truly your friend) and friends care about what you want. It seems you care about her feelings. but if she doesnt care enough about yours then you shouldnt be worried about hurting her. But like I said your the only one that can make the choice, It shows how nice of a friend you are that you didnt just go for it, you asked for advice...go you...seriously!

Don't worry about this until he actually asks you out because you might be having a nervous breakdown when it may never happen. If he does and if you really think you can pursue a successful relationship with him, just accept.

If your friend has a problem with it, maybe she's being too controlling of you and you should just talk to her about it. If she can't handle it, perhaps you should reconsider your relationship with her.

simple:

she's not acting like a friend nor does she seem like it so therefore if you go out with this guy it won't ruin your so called friendship with her.

she probably just wants him for herself.

if you like him, its your choice, unless shes got a good reason why you shouldnt date him, go for it.

Woah-she's def. the one out of line. She's being selfish, besides she's got two other guys to chase after. If you really like this guy go for i-okay wait. Talk to your friend first. Tell her she is way out of line. She can't tell you what to do.

Well... it depends. Did you know she liked this guy and has she liked him for a long time? If thats the case then you shouldn't have told her and should have kept it to yourself... and probably should say no. My friend did that to me with this guy that I liked for 3 years. She knew I liked him and if he had asked her out (which was highly unlikely) she would have said yes. That would have made me soooo angry. But if you had no idea she liked the guy and she hasn't liked him for a long time... don't worry about it. Espessially if she has 2 other crushes. Real friends won't care.

write "beggars can't be choosers" in permanent marker on her foot while she's asleep and take him.

^ i agree. even though she's your friend, she can't keep you
from going out with someone. just tell her it's your choice

If you two start dating and she gets jealous, it isn't fun for the relationship when she tries to break you up or flirts with him even more or starts kissing him, even if it's just a "friendly" kiss.

I don't know if your friend would do that... but just in case, I wouldn't suggest it.

However, then there's this case that she has three crushes already..... is this the guy she likes most?

you should talk to her and tell her that you deserve a chance as well. obviously if he wanted to go out with you then he probably doesnt like her. tell her to get over herself and go for the other two guys.

ugh~ she`s not your mother?! she seems very selfish. if she really was your friend wouldn`t she understand and let you date him? anyway she doesn`t have the right to tell you who to date and she could always go for the other 2 guys. go with your gut, but if she`s a close friend, maybe you should find someone else??

man are you freaking serious? what kind of a damn friend is that?! im sorry but if she is a true friend, she wouldnt mind at all b/c shes not doing anything to make them like her back right? so if the guy that might ask you, then go ahead girl! i mean, if guys feel the same way, then why let this one guy slip away from you just because a "friend" isnt doing any attempts to get him?

Seriously, she doesn't do anything about it. Why can't you go out with them instead?
Go talk to her about it. If she still doesn't allow you to go out with the guy, just do it. Who does she think she is? Your mom?

Your in order, she isnt so like the other said, are you sure shes a friend? I'd say go out with the guy, make your own decisions.

Your friend is completly out of line saying something like that. She can't decide who you date. Talk to her, she seems a bit controlling if you ask me