how do you know if your making the right desision by having sex with someone....i feel like shes the one for me but im only 15...and i want to make sure that i loose it to the right person...everyone says to wait till marrage but 50% of marrages end in devorce anyway so...yeah...

You should learn how to spell before you have sex.

That's so weet of you It's a rarity to feel that. Question is though, decisions like when/with whom to have sex requires more than a feeling. Sex is good o.o I mean, it's exercise for one thing and well, at times it's a way to express emotions o.o But.. intimacy and romance could be expressed in many other ways too. (Not just by saying stuff o.o) For a 15 yr. old... don't you think it's too soon to even think of that? When I was fifteen (which wasn't very long ago, mind you ~_~) I had more stuff to think about o.o;; Like cars xD and other stuff not concerning sex o.o; Imma girl btw o.o; I think.. just to be practical, sex is a normal day-to-day thing nowadays. For more mature people, that is. I just really think 15 is too soon, and really, "feeling it" isn't reason enough. There's a possibility it's not even an emotion, maybe it's just your hormones talking. So maybe give it some time, and really think about it o.o

Why are you asking us?
You should ask her.
I mean, sure it'd be great to have sex with you, but you know, I don't swing that way.
haha

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

I hate to be the bad influence here...But Sex is awesome..start having it as soon as you can...And don't stop till your wanker falls off. But be safe about it. If you're gunna have sex with this girly, make sure it's with her only, and that you're going to have a lasting relationship with lots of sex everyday....Or something like that... Bottomline- Have sex. Keep it to only one partner. Use protection or get her on the pill. Make sure she ain't a skanky whore like my ex.

um, are you ready to take on big responsibility? what if she gets pregnant, think about all consequences possible, and stay safe, its pretty much up to you after that..

i always thought its better to have sex after marriage

there really isnt a way to know you're ready.. i mean dont expect you're ready to have sex coz you started growing hair down there.. you and a your girl should definitely talk about it first.. have a deep conversation about it and asked each other questions.. it isnt that bad actually..

Sex after marriage.... Yea go to a teen and say DONT DATE TILL UR MARRIED. Anyways thats totally up to you. Im to busy worshippin God to be worried about anything yet. I jus go around making every1 feel better

Don't ya think 15 is too young? maybe like...i dunno..when you're 17 or something...that's only two years, right?

iuno, i think 15 is 2 young, and even if it were like 21 watever, my point is i think sex after marriage is better and safer, but we cant tell u or force u wat 2 do, gotta make a good choice, its a big one in my opinion

You are only fifteen years old. No adays condoms can't really control stds and pregnancy-it's not 100% safe.



Come on, you are only fifteen, you will have plenty of people that you will be interested in afterwards, she is not going to be the one for you all your life, as hard as that sounds. And when you do break up it will be twice as painful. Trust me, it's not as simple as this guy thinks it is. Start having sex when you are fifteen and you will get bored from it pretty soon, buddy.


Besides...think of the emotional outcomes as well. Sex at this age can only lead to being unstable emotionally because you are so young and not mature enough to handle the concept. If you really cared about your girlfriend then I would advise you not to pressure her into something like that...it's enough being fifteen years old-you have other problems in life (like all other teenagers), don't make more for yourself.

...unless she is pressuring you, that is...

I started when I was 14..I'm still disease free....And I've only had 4 partners total...I'm not bored...I still enjoy sex as much as I did before...

well, you are one of the few people that I have heard of.

I guess it depends on the person, but I only want to have that kind of relationship with one person in my life. If you still feel fine about it then that's good, but I considor it as something sacred and meaningful and powerful enough to actually hurt people when abused. I know I wouldn't feel fine, and I'm not going to reccomend it for anyone to take that risk. Sure sex is good, but there are other good things in life without having to take risks.

Personally, I'm glad that you don't have any STDs or gotten anyone pregnant. You are one of the lucky ones.

Each time i thought I was with "the one" and i thought I was in love. I was ready as many others have been at my age so I did it. Now I've had many "ones" and I've realized that each person is different and you can love someone just as much as another yet have the love be completely different each time. I personally don't think sex is that meaningful...It's more like a release of all the aggresions I have to everyone else. And it IS AND ALWAYS SHOULD be fun...if it ain't fun...Then you ain't doin it right. As far as risks go...Sure, it is a risk, but most things in life that are worth doing have a risk...And I'm ready to take responsibilty for anything I do, thats just part of life. Risk is part of life..It's the part that makes things interesting.

It makes things interesting until you lose.

And sex is meaningful. It's intimate and it consists of giving a part of yourself to someone else. With too many people...you will have nothing to give any longer.

That's what I believe in, but I'm not objecting to what you have to say when it concerns being meaningful or not. That is your own decision.

However I do think that you are wrong by implying that it is safe, because it isn't. And this risk isn't worth taking. Maybe to you it is, but not to me.
There are certain necessary risks in life that one can take that can actually turn out to benefit you in the future, but as far as that goes, I don't see the benefit.

[COLOR=red]It's like you think that person is the "one" and then you come to find out that that person isn't the one. And you come to realize it after you've did it with them and usually what happens next is that they people together end up not being together no more in life....So keeping it or losing it doesn't matter...people make there own decisions

if u luv her, feelings won't change right? then y have sex? i mean, 15 is YOUNG.. i noe this is a bad thot, but wat if it doesn't work out in the long run for the rest of ur life? do u really want to have the thot that u had sex, which to me is sacred, w/ sumone else be on ur mind always when u have a diff gf? if ur scared to tell people about it, then it's prob not the right thing to do

how do i noe? i've had sumone very close to me, younger than me, lose her virginity, i hated the f*ggot that left her, cuz to me once u have sex, ur permanently bonded to that person

if you're having doubts... then you're not ready. simple as that.

i lost my v when i was 16, 15 to me seems really young but my bf and i werent like living in the same area at the time but if we were i think i would have lost my v at 14.... so.. i dunno.. i mean there isnt just one person for you, love chooses you you dont choose it, so honestly i think its young but im one to talk, if you feel in your heart and your soul its the right thing go for it. if not then no hurt in wait, besides you should consider the consequences and you only do it for the first time well once.. =) im sure youll make the right choice

wow this is a good topic. well for me im still a virgin at the age of 19 and im trying to keep it that way. since i was a little girl ive always said that id save it till marriage. it was always my choice because of my faith. but i dont have sex also because im not responsible enough to handle the consequences that could come along with it.
but i think ppl who do decide to have sex just somehow know. i know thats such a vague sentence but it cant get any less vague than that. lOL

jackiep

I dunno. It's you're decision if you wanna go through with it or not. Yours and hers only. So do whatever you think is right. If you want to, then go for it, if not, then don't. You should really take into consideration your feelings for her, the length of the relationship, and the consequences that follow, and all the responsibilities you have while you're "active"...lol... like protection and stuff

I think you're a little too young to think about those kind of stuff but I mean if you're having your doubts about it then are you really ready to do those kind of things? If worse comes to worse like what if you find out she's not the one? What would you say to your next gf? I mean you can't lie right.. So I think you should take your time in life because you have a whole life to get that serious. Kissing isnt that bad is it?? So why take it to the next level so fast?? Just take your time and talk.. Like what K-Ci and Jojo's song from a few years bad "Dont rush"..

is she pressuring you to have sex with her or something ._. 15 is a young age to have sex.

but if you're planning on already doing it, then all i can say is

use protection

Yeap, that's true.

it's kinda something you try not to plan, but when u find the right person.. u just click. if ur really happy and ur both prepared to take it to the next level (safely) then do it. hopefully, it'll make ur relationship more enjoyable.. and try not to think of it as a burden sometimes.. it's fun, really. whatever you decide, just make sure it's the right choice.. sex changes you. you might not be able to tell at first.. but realization will hit you.. hopefully in a good way. just try not to doubt it and talk to you girl..

i think u should stio wait till ur married to do it

is it true dat when u loose ur virginity u stop growing (gettin taller) ?? or is it juzz one of those sex myths??

keep it... i think you would feel so much better about yourself

Save it for your wedding night - makes it all the more special.

yes...Save sex for your wedding...So the first time will be painful and uncomfortable... Last only a few minutes...And then you guys can just sit there and pretend like it was great...GJ!

lol, so true! ok, maybe...

well..it depends on how long u've been together. U should really wait a couple of more months.days.weeks.hours whatever. If you still feel that "she's the one" then go for it. But it's always great to be certain so you won't lose your "v-card" to a big b*tch.


But you know, It's always great to wait. no harm in that. and ur just a baby urself, you don't need to be makin a baby! (and that's a possibility)

thanks to the words of this man, my inner beast has come out...

but anyways, i think sex is a good thing if there is feelings and emotions involved man. Don't do it w/the first guy/chick ya meet. Know what im saying? cuz then you regret it.

man. ur 15? dude. im 14 and i had to geta lesson from nick on how to masturbate (which i didnt even read i would like to stay pure thank you very much) keep ur virginity!
just cause you think she is the one gives you NO RIGHT to sleep with her man! its illegal! and not to mention, if you REALLY love her and if you TRULY think you are unworthy for her because she is so damn awesome and stuff, then you shouldhave s3zz with her at such a young age because i mean, if you tink u are unworthy and ur thankful for her, then you shouldnt take away her virginity, you noe? even tho she may enjoy it for a moment, its like... later when she thinks about it if you guys happen to break up, dont you think she's going to regret it? thass only my opinion.

i've always thought after marriage

keep it. when you get married your husband is going to appreciate and respects you more.

lol @ sex is great but this is something you need to decide for youself if your really ready to loose it then go ahead just make sure you use a proper birth control method. i cant say saving it for marriage is the best thing.

he's asking us because he wants us to watch.

That's why they invented the ultrapowerful condom.

now, don't forget the pills, patch, and needle injections

or the withdrawl method... but that can get messy, lol

well, i'm really the wrong person to ask because i already did lose my virginity (when i was 11), but if i were you and had that much self-control then i would dig deep inside myself and find whether i truely was in love. i think you're getting to be old enough, and you should make the right choice... but in the end, it's all up to you, man.




and dude, it is so not illeagal to have sex. the only time it's illeagal to have sex is if someone is leagally and audult (18) and has sex with a juvinile (17-). the other time is when it's rape. duh. but, leagaly, you can have sex at two if you wanted and it wouldn't be considered illeagal.

LOL i lost my virginity at 15 yrs. old

okay... now... if any athority feels they should close this, then by all means, do so. i just don't know what you guys think about it so please don't like.... warn me!

but just out of curiosity i want to know how old everyone was when they had sex for the first time. i'll start... i was technicly elevin, but it was like a week before my twelth birthday so i guess you could round it.....?

pee ess: i regret it, cuz it was a one-night stand. i had never met him before in my life and still haven't seen the guy again.

i lost it when i was 14

i knew i loved him, but i wasn`t sure he loved me, but i still did it anyway since he was leavinq for thailand for 2 months .. heh i couldn`t help but feel used, especially since we broke up after he came back

but, i don`t reqret it. kuz i love him, even til this day.

i just recoqmend you to think it thouqh completely with her.. not just by yourself. see if shes ready .. kuz yeah, it can do some phycholoqical damaqe iph she isn`t

use a condom.. it`s you`re best friend!! .. nd maybe if you can qet your hands on a "morninq after" pill

of the marriges that end in divorce, you wonder why? premarital sex, the wife was like whatttt??

yeah, keep your virginity, hands down. if i can do it, anyone can. i mean, look im from rio de janeiro, brazil - sex party city of the world. so i was suppose to be done with that when i like 5 years old, but i made a choice. and its healthy too. you dont gotta be stressed about pregnancy and all that std and ew what the hell and etc etc. and if you already have, doesnt mean like "oh might as well continue!" - no not at all. then start waiting then.

but i swear when i get married... OH ITS ON LIKE DONKEY KONG.
nobody needs to know that...

im not sure if someone already pointed this out but, isn't sex under 18 illegal? its so sweet that you think shes the one and everything, but if thats true, then i think you can stand saving yourself until shes ready, and your not..erm breaking any laws (if thats true)

i think if you honestly think that she's the one then you should do it if you both are ready, but understand that there are many regrets that come along with having sex, what i'm saying is don't be sorry. you want the first to be special and you don't want to look back at it and regret it

I think teens these days get too Hor** too quick and that ellicits their reaction to have intercourse, instead of slowing down and thinking beyond physical pleasure. Some might start thinking cognatively and emotionally before engaging in intercourse.

lols...dont tell me u gona have sex at the age of 15...lols wait how long have u went out wit her? heh if shes the one...and u kno her reallie well...and u kno her family really well...plus if her family knows ur family well...then thats settle...shes the right girl for u...but it doesnt mean u have sex with her at the age of 15...i knoe lots of ppls end up having a divorce when they dont marry, but...still......... u think it will happen to u? then that means u find girls that are not respectful and a girl who likes to flirt with lots of guys... so yeah...that means ur girl is like that too....... she jus wants it? lols i dont kno, but dont go for it yet...jus wait...haha... like for me, i think justin...my boyfriend...is the one for me...but... u kno...im waiting...hahahaha...i trust him...i have known him for like the last 6 yrs...but it doesnt mean i have to sex with him haahahahaha...lols... i have education and u too~~ being a father...is a big responsible...so yeah.. so yeah..i knoe when u grow up... u have a job...a business...and it's so hard to be a father too.. a big responsible...but u knoe if ur ready for that.....ok...good for u...but still... u need to think before u act^^...heh