I'm really irritated. My parents got divorced just under a year ago and my mom has a boyfriend (HATE HATE HATE) and since they started going out me and my mom have gotten on really badly.
My mom went behind my back and booked an appointment at the psychologist in the for me and then one for her. I really don't want to go because I don't like to share my feelings, it makes me feel really crap and because I know my mom is going to try to force the psyhcologist to tell her what I said . I really don't wanna go and I've told her but she keeps saying I'm going whether I want to or not. I told her I was just gona sit there and not talk and she just said OK and didn't believe me.
I'm going to talk to my dad about it and try to get him to talk her out of it but knowing her she'll make up a lie. I really don't know what to do!
Sara
P.S. I'm not sure if this is in the right place. if it isn't please tell me, I only hang around here, in the girls locker.

Dont worry , the psycologist cant tell your mom what you say because professionaly , its confidential , so dont worry.

Well, its illegal for the psycologist to tell one patient what another patient said, so you don't have to worry about the psycologist telling your mom what you said. :D

I know this but just the fact she's going to try and do it really irritates me all the same. I really don't wanna go I've just been crying and begging not to go but she insists.

It is illegal to tell what one patient said to anyone else. However, if you're really that worried, only tell the psychologist things you want your mother to hear.

And if you really want to, just tell the psychologist that you don't intend to talk, and you don't need to be seeing a psychologist just because your mother has taken to her new boyfriend to well. And then, don't talk. They can't force you, and you don't have to.

It's no big deal, really. You don't have to say anything you just have to show up. Bring a book, or a game. Talk about what you want to talk about. You don't have to answer questions. Just read, or something. It's not as though they can take a book away from you, it's your property. Just accept that they can't make you do anything you don't want to, and go peacefully

Thanks . I just don't see why she's still forcing me to go...

My mother has been trying to find a psychologist for me for almost a year. Luckily she hasn't found one, but I don't know what she thinks is wrong with me.

I don't know why your mother is forcing you to go either, but it makes it a lot easier on everyone if you just go peacefully, and explain that you don't want to be there and you don't plan on saying anything terribly insightful to your "problems." Make sure you explain nicely.

People will begin to react to you a lot better if you act nicer towards them. Be polite and all that. I'm not trying to say you're not polite, but your mother may back up some if you start responding more nicely to her when she's doing something mean or bitchy.

My dad has talked about sending me to one, but i really dont understand why. They always want me to talk to them about my life and i dont want to.

my boyfriend thinks i need one lol. but he's not forcing me to, he tries to help me and is more comforting about it. i want to go, because i feel like i kinda need one. im always depressed alot. but i don't know if i would feel comfortable telling someone who i don't know everything about me. heh.
i think you should just go and tell the psychologist what dragyn said
"And if you really want to, just tell the psychologist that you don't intend to talk, and you don't need to be seeing a psychologist just because your mother has taken to her new boyfriend to well. And then, don't talk. They can't force you, and you don't have to."

my moms tried to get me to go to a psychologist for years. i actually did go to group therapy for a year...but i managed to get out of private therapy. try and talk to ur mom, so that she knows that u dont need a psychologist because ull talk to her. if u cant, then just deal with it. if u prove that ur ok quickly, u get out of it quickly.

my mom took me to a counselor *twitch* I’ve never been the same since lol. but seriously unless she thinks you're going to run away or cause yourself harm or someone else harm the physiologist won't tell your mom a thing =).

ugh.. i would hate that. idk its kinda embarrassing having to go to a professional to handle this. don't you think? :T just don't say anything.. but they're not allowed to say anything to other peopel anyway

I feel that if you don't want to go, you don't have to go. I think is should be based on your opinion. Maybe your mother thinks what she is doing is best for you...

I've been going to one for about a year and a half. It's not so bad. I'm used to it, though so don't listen to me. Just refuse to go. Put your foot down. That's all.

my mom forced me into therapy too.
its okay. i dont talk about anything really. but so far my pyschiatrist has figured out the main problem in my life is my mom. my mom tried to blame all my problems on my dad and friends so i loved it and i enjoyed seeing her get that nice kick in the ass when my therapist informed her she was the main problem. and the therapist WONT tell your mom ANYTHING unless your harming yourself [i.e cutting or drinking smoking] she'll tell. buh anything thats botehring you boyfriend problems how you feel, anything she cannot and won't tell your mom.
you can just sit there and not talk. my therapist lets me do that. i just sit there for our sessions. i'll talk occasionaly. but rarely. its really just a waste of time. i feel exactly like you do, i dont want to share my feelings expecially with a total stranger. but sometimes its relieving to get out your feelings. try that ONE session and talk to her, and see how you like it.

If you're holding things in, it might be nice to share it with someone who will listen. They're not going to share it with your mother because all sessions are supposed to be confidential. Goodluck.

she cant FORCE you to tell the psychologist anything

however, it can thurt to try, can it?

I've seen two therapists... for about 2 years. Like you, I was very reluctant at first. I thought to myself, why would I want to talk to a complete stranger? One who could care less about me? It's really not that bad... and it does help. Sometimes it just feels better to rant, to cry, to let it all out to a complete stranger than to a friend. Because a lot of the time, a friend couldn't possibly understand anyhow and because you may become a burden to them which may push them away. And if you're like me, perhaps you don't trust anyone else enough anyway to talk to them so it just feels better to talk to a stranger about it who won't hurt you or betray you for sharing your feelings with them.

And don't worry, your psychologist won't share anything you've said to them with anyone else. It's completely confidential.

if you dont want to go, DONT GO.
but if your mother makes you, and the psychologist tells you to do things, just go along with it.
and be like "yes i understand. thank you so much". and leave. lols. thats it.

your mom probably just wants the best for you. and you can tell the psychiatrist to keep it confidential (like someone else said^)