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missknowitall1414
I am very interested in what you think...because that is how it works for me. i am super girly, and the oppisite of girly is pretty much skater. and i LUV the skaters. and pretty much all the skaters like me...but wouldnt you think that the skaters would like the skaters?
xoxvietbabyy
Maybe they like people who aren't like them. Maybe their getting bored of the same people? I really really have no idea.
angelshortipnai
umm i don't kno wat you're talking about >.<
Im So Vain
i think they do. cuz im hella quiet, but i like guys who are more outgoing and know how o hold a convo. i also like thuggish guys, even tho i more of the girly type.
pinayprincess
yes, i have a oppisite [in a way] im nice&good, i guess lol and my bf is bad&daring
silver-rain
Yeah, sometimes they might. I'm really shy, but I would go for an outgoing guy. And my boyfriend and I are kinda opposite in that way; but our opposites compliment each other.
banthisaccountnow
Yeah, I think opposites attract

me and my ex were almost complete opposites and yet we went out for 8 months..
cocoalightning27
Think of it this way....if you fell in love with someone with everything in common with you, don't you think that the relationship would be a little boring???
freeflow
i think they do because my friends have been with many guys but the guys that are diffrent from them tend to last longer in a relationship than the ones that you have way to much in common.

and i agree with ^ it would get boring if you were in a relationship w/ someone that has alot in common with you.
HoodieObsessed
I think they do to a certain extent.

like I'm pretty shy, not relaly really shy, but pretty shy, and I'm a singer an stuff. and I gotta tlel you guys who sing do not atract me...but hten again..must guy singers are gay so tongue.gif and uhh I like outgoing...but not TOO outgoing, othwise I feel like so dumb and shy aournd them, lol.

but I do see alot of couples where they are complete oposites, but somehow ti works out...you alwyas need one optomistic and one pesimist in the hosue...that way they complement each other.

same with my mom and dad, htey are pretty different, but they fit together quite nicely.

hmm
ghjgfkgfk
QUOTE(angelshortipnai @ May 14 2005, 4:07 PM)
umm i don't kno wat you're talking about >.<
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did you at least read the topic title?
'cause it would pretty much give away what the topic starter is talking about
mickybeans
i voted yes. a LOT of goody-girly girls have this fatal attraction for bad guys. and sometimes, bad girls tend to have a soft heart for smart guys ;)
_sarcastic_
it can happen sometimes, my bf and i have our similarities and our differences. i guess that's what makes the relationship interesting
Paradox of Life
Um skating is just an interest. Just because you're a skater doesn't make you preppy or girly. I mean, I skate and I care about how I look. But.. I don't think the whole opposites attract thing applies for all because I find absolutely no interest in jocks and stuff. _unsure.gif
sweetest-emotion
yea sumtimes they can work, but with the couples i see, its more of a clash of lifestyles that's keeping them apart. i'd say that yea, they can attract if there's comprimise b/w the ppl, but other than that, it can be hard to really feel the same about a relationship.
shushh
my boyfriend and i are opposites. not complete opposites but sorta. we still get along fine. if you really love someone, you'll have that in common!
JustAnotherTeenageLoser
_unsure.gif I hope opposites attract in some cases. My crush & I are opposites wink.gif tongue.gif
Vozedale
Absolutely postively NOT! My psychology book says no, proximitity, attraction, and SIMILARITY play roles in our relationships. It is better when a couple love many things together, instead of just each other.
Vozedale
Myer's Psychology book, read it, its great! I mean there are differences, and in some cases opposites have to attract, otherwise you know, everyone would be gay or lesbian. But when it comes to extreme opposites with what we value the most, it doesn't work. I hate war, it is senseless, stupid violence, and I think it should be avoided more often. I would be completely disgusted with someone who glorfied war. I have a friend that doesn't really like war either, he doesn't feel as strongly as I do, but we still have disputes on the topic. I say it should be avoided more often, he says that sometimes we don't really have any other choice. I say what so patriotic about getting your guts blow out all over the place, that the horrible ways people suffer and die over there is not worth being patriotic for. He says it is patriotic. We argued that one for awhile. For example, you have a guy, he loves kids and wants to make some babies, kinda like me _smile.gif , but his wife hates kids, they are little shits and she doesn't want to go through the whole giving birth thing. In this situation you have a big fight that probably means the end of the relationship/marriage. Same is true for abortion, you won't find a child-hugging hippie like me with a girl who is pregnant and wants to murder the innocent and adorable life that is forming. We have to work out our differences, with opposites you got a lot of working out to do, and if it comes to our highest value it simply will not work.
muffingirlsays
When they talk about "Opposites Attract", it's not talking about "Sterotypical Opposites". "Personality Opposites" is what it's talking about biggrin.gif

My friend and her boyfriend are total opposites xD My girl-friend is a cheerful, positive person, and her boyfriend is a quiet, broody and negative person. They argue a lot, but they fight like a married couple, so it's okay _smile.gif
FailedSense
depends. the girl that I'm sort of seeing right now and I are a lot alike. It just depends.
waitwaitwait
Nobody cares what you are.
Whether you're a "skater" or a "prep" they only care if you're hot or not.

It's the truth.
mzkandi
I am usually attracted to people completely opposite of me. I am quiet so I usually go for guys that are loud (not stupid loud) and sponteous
heyyfrankie
it just depends on the people. like whenever i was watching maury one time, they had the most opposite people i had seen and they were desparately in love. hehe.gif like i said before, it jus depends on the people.
xlaydee_v
sometimes it depends
yycleo
i like the opposites !
bonluvdan
magnet~ hug.gif
SSJ Kenshin
My gf and I have a lot of things in common, but a lot more things between us are polar opposites.
bang_head
QUOTE(SSJ Kenshin @ Jun 5 2005, 5:03 PM)
My gf and I have a lot of things in common, but a lot more things between us are polar opposites.
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yeah my boyfriend and i are really, really different in some areas. like the other day we were walking down the hall talking about english class and i was like blah blah blah, AP next year and he was like blah blah blah failing level three... and i was like, well. that's peachy. who are you?
but we have a lot of serious stuff in common.

anyway, if you mean "attracts" as in a realtionship... i think it definitely depends on the people. relationships are work, you know? and i think if you like someone enough you become extremely comfortable with them to the point where you're so used to the things about them that are opposite to you that they don't seem so strange and different anymore. i'm sure that made infinite amounts of sense. aye.
mzbbc
yes, i think opposites attract. maybe not all the time, but at least always for me.

see i can be pretty quiet sometimes, and i get so caught up in what other people want, and i'd rather hear about other people's problems than my own. but i am in NO WAY attracted to guys like that. NEVER. not ever. stubborn.gif

see i always end up falling for obnoxious, loud, cocky guys. i think it's because we balance each other out, you know? but i can still understand guys like that, so it all works out i guess... ermm.gif
steezahh
sometimes...
NgocQuyen
i voted sometimes...because i think that you can't really help who you have feelings for _smile.gif
sharpandcuddly
they totally do! me and my boyfriend are super opposites.
hes jewish, im agnostic
hes nice, i'm a super bitch
he hates fighting, i love it
he likes chinese food, i hate it
he has dark hair, i have light hair
hes tall, i'm short
he likes pepsi, i like dr pepper
he loves animes, i think they're kind of lame
he loves videogames, i only like pokemon! XD
he cant draw, i draw all the time
he likes oldies, i like metal
seremela_culnamo
I was going to chose yes, but then again, it's not a definate for everyone. Like my first time to having a relationship, and my last ><, we were completely different. It seemed like things would work out, but in the end, it didn't. & it was only for a month and we hardly did anything. Then I realized that we were just too different. Like he was not the type of guys I usually go for and that time, I did. But we didn't like the same thing and such. He was totally fobby and I'm a CBC. It doesn't work for me. Then again, he would speak in Cantonese and I would speak in English, so I guess it was partially due to communication and interests.
Simply_unique
QUOTE(missknowitall1414 @ May 14 2005, 9:24 AM)
I am very interested in what you think...because that is how it works for me. i am super girly, and the oppisite of girly is pretty much skater. and i LUV the skaters. and pretty much all the skaters like me...but wouldnt you think that the skaters would like the skaters?
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well i'm kind of girly i guess i;m not really into labels but hey whatever goes. Um i guess i;m the unique type then i;m a little of everything. and this skater guy likes me... but yea opposites attract because sometimes if u guys like the same things it gets boring thats how my friend and her bf broke up after a week but sometimes it doesnt work out like you may be WAY too different so yea it differs..
Kay-
depends who you are
Tramatize
Think about it, if you date someone thats just like you, you'd be dating yourself, whats fun there?
So of course opposites attract, it makes it fun to be around someone different.
Just_Dream
My current relationship is practically the whole "opposites attract" dealio.

I mean I'm sure two people could still have similar interests (minor things), but seriously, it's more fun with people who are different. You'll learn more about different interests and you'll also see different perspectives on certain issues.
Serendipity
Landon and Jamie in A Walk to Remember. happy.gif
marzipan
I'd say sometimes. It may not work for all people.
I think it'd make the relationship more interesting, though. There'd be a nice balance, and it wouldn't be as boring as if you both liked the exact same things.
JokeInsideJoke
i really hope so because me and the guy i like are TOTAL opposites
berrypop90
I think relationships of any kind have nothing to do with labels. That shit's so stupid. If you're attracted to someone, it doesn't matter what they wear or who they hang out with. Doesn't get much more complicated than that.
thatonegirl143
i think it could go either way. everyone always "wants what they cant have" right?? so..in my opinion..youre attracted to the ones who are opposite than you since you dont have that quality in yourself. thennn it could also go the other way, where you two are SO opposite that you dont agree on anything, you dont get along, etc..
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