I read this book at Borders. It's a #1 New York Times Bestseller. It's called "He's Just Not That Into You." If you haven't read it, you should. If you don't have time, I summarized it nicely for you (:

So this is to:

All the girls out there who haven't met the perfect guy yet; the ones who got dumped by the perfect guy; or to the ones who are soley convinced that the entire male race is nothing more than a pack of well-groomed chimpanzees. (me)

Guys are not stupid. My dad's company, Northrop Grumman, had their quarterly settling up thing and they have a net worth of 29 billion. Yeah, billion. Their executive panel consists of 8 males and 1 female. I'm not adressing the competency of males vs. females so don't call me sexist. But I do have a relevant point here. As much as we (females) would like to believe it, guys are not stupid. They know when they're being manipulated, they know when you like them, they know when they've got you so blind that they can play you, and they are intellectually and emotionally sensitive creatures.

GASP. SURPRISE!

But above all, they know what they want. And subtlety is not an issue here. Most guys make it clear exactly what they want. Therefore, take everything at face value. Don't read deeper into things and search for subliminal messages that simply aren't there. You'll go crazy. Literally.

If a guy wants to be with you badly enough, he'll do anything it takes. There is no such thing as a guy that simultaneously likes you, and yet is not with you. A guy who really likes you will figure out a way to be with you. He'll make the first move. And if he dosen't, well then he's just not that into you. Either that, or he's just a really stupid incompetent loser. And why would you wanna date someone like that anyways?

And why on earth would you waste time with someone who's not that into you? You deserve a great guy who loves you with all his heart and would do anything to make you feel happy, loved, satisfied, and content by his side.

Anyone who tells you anything to the contrary is full of....

yup, you guessd it...

BULLSHIT.

So if I have not clearly stated it. Or you simple minded, delusional, obsessive psychopathic people can't figure it out:

If he's not with you, he dosen't want to be with you. If he broke up with you, he dosen't want to be with you. He's not really that into you, and he never was. There's no other reason for it. And unless he comes back groveling and says something along these lines, "I made the biggest mistake of my life, please take me back.", he dosen't want you. And even then you should reconsider very carefully as to what your answer is, because a guy who really loves you will want you by his side no matter what.

Humans have a bad tendency to do the least of what is expected. Which is bad. So set high standards, because there is someone out there who will give you everything you ever wanted...

and more.

And if after you read this, you're still mooning over that loser who dumped you 3 months ago, remember this:

"You are exceptional, but you are not the exception to the rule."

In otherwords, all this shit I just wrote applies to you, so pick up the sorry pieces of your oh-so-pathetic broken heart and get the f**k on with your life.

*takes a bow*

wow.. that's really good advice!! haha. helped me now actually... thanks!

maybe this should be pinned? -maybe-

but i think there should be a point made that this doesn't apply to EVERY guy out there....actually not just a few, but quite a bunch. just like all those "girl rules" dont apply to every girl. because i know this guy who doesn't really act like what that article-summary-thing said he should, but i know he feels that way (no, not about me - about another girl)

haha, yeah my friend has that book and i raed it.

actually, yeah - it doesn't apply to every guy lol.. so it's an okay book.

well said

Thanks for the advice...

I read that too! I learned so much..

i wanted to read that book.

i love that. dude, i`m totally gettin` that book!

That's actually some really good advice and reasoning.

I realized I started crying halfway through that because it was so true...

haha that`s some good stuff ;]

Some damn good advice.
Now i want to read the book.. heh.. without my mom finding out.

ive heard of that book before..my friend recommended it to me..

Wow.. haha I read that to my mom it was that good. I must go check out this book. Thanks for sharing this with us!

Amen =P Men aren't stupid-just blunt. Got it.

Nice tips.

::goes to Borders::

At first i was feeling it but...i just got dumped today... sorry but it ain't working. I'm hopeless.

aww good job. but yeah, it can't possibly apply to every guy i hope you know. well done though!

Thanks for all the replies guys
My Bf&I broke up awhile ago and this book gave me a lot of insight and perspective, so I'm glad I could help some of you!



Aww I'm sorry
But remember...
It's not that he dosen't want you,
It's that you're too good for him!

haha..i made a post about this book in entertainment a while ago..my sister bought it for me on my 18th bday because i had just broken up with my bf of 4 years..i read a couple stories..but not the whole book..from what i've read..its alright..

that guy was on oprah like last week

that's a little harsh isnt it? i mean maybe the guy wanted to take a break, see how it would go or w.e. and lots of guys, from my experience, have no idea of the people's emotions around them...

that was simply amazing..

sounds like a good book

Wow. That sounds like a really great book. *goes to borders*

crap they got us!
(sry im a guy im so sry dont yell at me)
my aunt has that book
darn that guy who wrote it.

wooot, that is so true.

haha, same here. Whee.
Sounds interesting! It really opened my eyes.

*applause*

i want that book.