me -n- my bf broke up recently...-n- it was a mutual thing since we're both happy -n- whtnot...-n- we promised to remain "juss friends" but we're like....ignoring each other...has this happened to neone else out there? neone able to accomplish to still remain friends? ---

P.S. we broke up 'boutz two days ago after going out for a lil ova 6 months...if that helps

aww, don't worry. it's natural to feel a little iffy about each other right now. u two just broke up, and u both need a little distance. i'm trying to be friends with my ex, but she avoids me like the plague because according to her "that's how i deal with it". so whatever. a little distance is all good.

oh..dun worry. he's probably feeling the same way as you. It's all very normal. ButI HAVE seen a few who has managed to be really friends. Most of us aren't like them.

Well thats just how it is! After sharing so much with each other, its hard to just be friends all over again. Just give each other time to not be so awkward.

something like that happened to my exbf and i. we broke up after a 4 month relationship and we ignored each other for quite some time but now we're friends and kinda close ones too =) but its just not the same..

One phrase that guys hate most is "lets just be friends".

Wow. I can understand 2 weeks and then ignoring...but 6 months?

Yeah it happened for me htough. We ignored eachother for like 2 weeks then just got over it. And it's not a good way to go, you should just confront him.

who broke up with who?

i mean, if you dumped him, then its natural that he might wanna ignore you...

if he dumped you...then if u still wanna be friends... i spose he should allow it.

ah, i dont know what im saying, but i hope it all works out for you two

Its hard to have the same friendship you have before you go out, its possible, never happened to me yet, but its takes adjustment and after that the friendship can blossom....

my ex and i have broken up for like 2 years by now, we went out for about 8 months and he still doesn't talk to me. he blocked me awhile ago too.

i'd like to be friends again but from the way he talks those rare times we talk, i guess he's not over me -__-* i think he's just ridiculous, it's been 2 f*cking years

well since you both were in a relationship for half a year, you can't really bounce down to friends that fast...give him some time, he'll probably come around...if not then just let it go.

After a while, I think it'll be ok again....give it a while more....don't worry...

my ex (i've been with him for only one week, so he doens't really count as my real bf) broke up 10 months ago, we didn't talk for like a month but now we're like best friends

give it time, it feels awkward after breaking up, soon everything will be back to normal again

being just friends is possible... but it takes time, i am still friends with alot of my ex bfs. just let the pain heal first and you have to take it slow if not it'll jsut complicate things.

thanks to everybody that posted! well...as it turns out we are able to remain friends..and very good ones actually! ^_^ lol...I'm glad I'm able to adjust eaisly! haha...but yea...thanks again guys!

My sister Frankie, had a boyfriend and they were dating for 2 years and a half, they broke up, they remained friends for about a week and then he started slagging her off, saying stuff about her and she didnt know hy he was doing it. It was pretty sad, cause she still loved him even though they had broken up.

it works best if you guys were friends first. I know any bf I had that I was really good friends with, I stay friends with after we broke up. So yeah. It works for me.

well it kinda depends.. i had a gay friend, and i was just friends with him (duh) untill it seemed that he wasnt gay and he actually likes me, when i dont feel a thing for him, so i just ignore him a bit.. because i dont want to give him the feeling i like him.. its really sad o.O
ok that was a pointless story :P

I can be friends with a boy, as long im not even a bit atracted to him.. :)

well.. in the beginning.. it might be hard for both of you to be "just friends" cuz after everything that just happened.. it might take a while to settle down and get over those feelings between each other.. When my Bf && I broke up.. we talked a little.. but it was really akward around each other for awhile.. Just take it slowly and show that u want to be friends`.. try not to avoid him ^_________^

to break up after going out for six months? That would definitely be difficult. I can't give a definite answer because I've never been in that situation before...

-Kevyn

yeah thats kind of hard.To go on still being frinds after you were "involved" with someone.Mainly because it feels wierd to think of someone you thought you liked as a friend so you'd rather ignore eachother then talk and risk the fact that it might have been wrong.

It always depends on how you break up. Ifit's a fight you two won't ever talk to eachother anymore. If you both agreed it was time to end you will probably stay friends.
But sorry to hear that. My ex is a total jerk to me!! Atleast your ex doesn't call you a dumb f**k because you misunderstood him.

yeah it happened to me, it's cause i guess you dislike them since you guys broke up. and it causes less pain for you.

Same thing happened to me, it's hard, I'm not gonna lie. The problem is since it was mutual there is no one to blame, if there was someone to blame than it would be easier to just get pissed off at the dumper and move on. But since it's mutal, neither of you quite know what to think of the sitatuion. Things are always awkward after a relationship, especially a six-monther. If you two are truly meant to be friends then you just have to give it time to heal, it's still too soon. The feelings don't just magically go away just because you broke up, sure they are faded, but you still care about eachother a lot and it's hard to make the transition from boyfriend&girlfriend to just friends. You'll both get over it soon enough, just be nice to eachother.

bleh

I know how you feel, I'm friends with TWO of my ex's...One I was with for 4 years and its hard just being friends with him. But I cant stand to have him completely out of my life.

well i broke up with my gf the other day. we were going out for about 5 months... it still hurts abit to think about it... she wants to still be friends with me, but i told her at the time, because i was pretty pissed off and upset and a bit confused, that i didnt want to be. now, only two days after, i want to be friends with her. but i dont know if i want to be friends with her so we could be friends.. or because i still want to be with her.. because i do...

That happends to me everytime. Its like, once you cross the friendship line, you can't go back ><" me and my ex used to be best friends, now it seems like we hate each other and its so tragicc.

^^ ahhh desperately hoping that won't happen to me...

when me n my bf broke ^, it was kinda awkward @ school, so yea- we pretty much avoided each other. after a while it all kinda passed, n now we're pretty close again [as friends]...gl~!!

my friends that went out for over a year broke up and they are like freaken awesome friends still. Also i still remained friends with like ... a semi boyfriend. so it IS doable. Just depends on like time you konw? to wash away the awkwardness so ya.

its okay things will get better

I have seriously not held another ACTUAL conversation with any of my ex-boyfriends for at least 6 months. Yeah, I mean small talk is cool. But never under the surface.. I don't know what to tell you. But if I were you I would try to talk to him. Just as friends. Otherwise, you will regret it.

ok see my EX boyfriend...and i..(HAH see that grammer alex? ) broke up a long time ago..we said we'd still be good friends. but then he started going out with my best friend..and i got really mad at him. then as time past we're friends now=) so everything's good

oh n p.s he got dumped by my best friend toooo. =)

It's...akward being friends after a break up. It's reason #632 (yes I have over 700 reasons) I don't take too many girlfriends.

It CAN work, it's just hard.

happens to me ALL THE TIME. every relationship i end up not being freinds with them 4ever. its a weird thing.

Never had anyone but I think it all depends on how you break up.

i dont usually become friends with my exes. as they say though "friends could be lovers but lovers cant be friends."

there are only two exes ive had that im not friends with anymore the first, is cos he THOUGHT i was cheaintg [ i wasnt and i never would] and called me a slut and the second one was cos of him trying to rape me. i hope he dies.

anyways usually a day or two after we break up i'll just say hi to them and keep a conversation up its awkward at first but im an easygoing person and yeah.. it goes good after.

it can work out.

after all the hating and stuff is over, me and my ex get along (relativley) fine.

it just depends on the person you were with though.

i've got two perfect examples of me with my two ex's.

my first ex, i've known since for about 8 years now (since 2nd grade) and, after we broke up, we've still managed to be really good friends (could be even better). but while we were in our relationship, we weren't that close.

but my second ex. we were always all touchy-feely in our relationship. after the breakup--it was just horrible. at times we'd ignore each other and at times she'd be mad at me for the weirdest reasons. so we went from being so close in our relationship to just--flat out nothing.

so my rule of thumb is, the closer you are to someone in a relationship, the harder it is to remain friends afterwards.

ive remained friends with a lot of people ive gone out with. its really not that hard if you feel mutual about some things

That's rough.... The only way that's possible is to spend some time away from each other. It's the hardest thing to do...but if you guys want to be friends...its the only way. It'll never be the same but you have to accept that fact. I haven't been able to yet to become friends with my ex...but...Time will tell...

that is quite interesting, i was in the same kind of situation. cept we dont talk anymore, but we're different cus it wasn't mutual. he liked another girl..but yeah, i see it happen.

uh... this happened to me. i broke up wif mai bf for the reason to be friends and the way he's been acting .... and then we didnt stay as friends. he disses me a lot in front of his friends, crowds of pple. he starts being a jerk to me. yeah... how do u juss overcome not hating each other?

always happens... its juss the shock of it all afta a longg relationship... it juss feels awkward to talk to that person for a while... but start up small talk n u'll b friends again

happend to me. we broke up and didnt speak to eachother for about 4 1/2 months but now i guess we're friends....just not as good as a friend he used to be i guess lol

Yeah, it happened to me. I don't really give a fck'. If they want to be friends then they would talk to me. Try talking to him, like about anything. If he doesn't want to talk back then don't even gotta' try. He doesn't want to be your friend.