Hey! Ok, well, here's the situation. I met this guy online a while back...like a year ago when I still lived up in a lil city called Rialto I talked to him online a few times, he seems really cool, he's sweet and all that. Well, like 11 months ago, I moved to San Diego (2 hrs away) and I was talking to him the other night online and he asked if we could hang out one of these day, so I was like "Alright, that'll be cool". I gave him my number, and he called me yesterday. He's supposed to call me today and see if we're gonna meet up one of these days. BTW, I'm 16, and he's 20. He's gonna drive 2 hours to get here, and yeah. I've NEVER met a guy in person that I've first met online (outside of school) so yeah. I dunno if I should go through with it. I've talked to a couple of people, they just said not to be alone when I meet him... if I meet him. i dunno, what do you think?

I would definitely say to not meet him alone!!!

DO NOT MEET HIM ALONE.
don't ya think it's kinda scary? might be some kinda...weirdo messed up guy. take a guy that's big and buff so nothing bad may happen or just bring a couple a friends? iunno.

ur frenz r rite. its ok to meet hym jus make sure that ur not alone cuz u neva noe.

its ok to meet him but bring someone with you, u never know what he'll do and wait till he gains ur trust

what if the guy is not wut expect to see

no offense, what if hes 40 year old rapist. please, be carefull, bring some friends along.

hmm. you can go meet him if you really want to :D but like how every here said.. DON'T YOU DARE GO ALONE!! that last i'd want to see on tv is something about a sixteen year old getting raped by someone she meant on the internet =p i'd be like, SAY IT AIIN'TT SOOOOO!!

if you really want to meet this person dont do it alone anything can happen im not going to lecture you because you 16 not 5 your old enough to make you own decisions and your not foreveranoutkast because id lecture her until her ears burned. anyway i dont like the idea of meeting people online unless i realllly know them for over a year. but even then its dangerous because hey u could get hurt

girl! i know u r smart enough to not meet him alone, but i think u should get a picture or somethin' before u meet him, this might sound shallow but wha if he's ugly??? or worse...wha if he's a 20 yr old that lives with his parents, watches porn all day and fantasize bout 16 yr old girls?!?!?!!? jsut be careful...

Seriously, Do NOT go alone. Always go with a friend and tell him to go with a friend. U never know what he's capable of doin. If u do go alone with him... meet him up at a public place like the mall. Do not go in the car with him. Cause he can just take u somewhere... oh let's say the MOUNTAIN. Well, anyways... what ever u decide always bring some kind of pepper spray with u or a gun. which ever works for u..

Oh yea... haha i met my bf from online too... and we been together for 3 yrs. But i did not get in the car with him... i just met him up at star bucks.. hehehe I brought my pepper spray..

I don't think you should go meet him. If he's someone you can't talk to your parents about, odds are the situation will not go well. Please, whatever you do, think first and be safe.

Meeting a guy you met online is something I'd never do ... I'd advise you to bring at least 20 friends with you

flatout NO! atleast..... i wouldnt..! it could be a 70 year old.. WOMAN for all you know??!

If he says he's 20, he's 40

If he says he's 40, he's 12.


Sorry baby...find another man

Wear a disguise, and go with your friends to said location, if you see a 20-year old (riiight...) then scope him out for a few minute and then leave! Never meet him!!! EVER!!!! EVEEER!!!

If you truly trust him, then you can go through with it, but bring like a at least 1 girl and 2 guys with you. I mean, not EVERYONE is bad online, but you have to be sure he is the real thing. There are ALOT OF FAKERS online, as you can tell. I am one of them. jk lol

But anyhow, just know what you're getting into. And make sure you're with him when there is daylight in a public place. Everyone's saying to be careful and probably not meet him, but there's a really slim chance he could be a true person. You have hm.. I'd say a 25% chance. I say this because there STILL is a high number of people who are kind and are true about themselves online, but there is STILL alot of FAKERS out there

I live in San Diego too ^_^ WOW, 2 hours to meet you? O_o" wow lol my bf probably won't even do that for me ahhas. Well okay, he probably would.... SOMETIMES lol

ahahah there is a chance he actually is 20
i've met people online that i turned out to know in real life, 1 of them went to my school, another goes to my school, and another was friends with my cousin
ahahahaha
like everyone else said though, be sure that you take a few friends

Lmao!! That is sooo true

hmm...20 yrs. old with a 16 yr old?? i dont think its a good idea to meet him. i mean how well do u know this guy u know?

jackie

paranoid people, i swear. she's know this person since before she moved. if you want to meet him - go for it. but dont make it clear that you're waiting for him. just walk around the block, if you dont see him, walk around again. if hes not there in 20 minutes, leave.

Can you say statutory? But seriously, be careful. Don't go alone.

LOL... some of you guys are hilarious with the whole "he says he's 20, but is really 40" thing You guys are cool. Well yeah, I'm pretty sure he is 20, and he's not a fake. I talked to him again today (he actually called). And yeah. I'm pretty sure i still wanna meet him, but of course I will not be alone. And don't worry, I can take care of myself ...ooh, but then again he is a boxer lol... well yeah. I'm still getting to know him in the phone conversations, and he seems pretty genuine. Thanks for the advice... keep it comming I'm still not 100% sure if I'm going through with it

Yep don't be alone with him. Meet at an open place like Starbucks. Bring your friends along. Then sit at a table with the guy and make sure that your friends are sitting at the tables near you. Just make sure the guy doesn't find out. :D

just bring your closest friend with you or something...

becareful wen u meet him!

OMG! How did you know? Hehe... Just kidding...Bring the biggest guy you know to go with you and pretend he's your brother... If the guy seems good, tell him the truth... But don't go anywhere without your "brother"..

bring your best friend, and a trustworthy "big" [MALE] friend. you'll need a pair of trusty nunchucks, good sneakers (incase you need to run). wear something that cannot easily be taken off (dont wear sweats). Oh I have this down to the very last detail, but thats all you really need. have your best friend have a can of mace on her. your big male friend should wear something that makes him feel comfortable incase he needs to rumble.

yes bring a close friend if anything. but pleaseeee becareful!

have u known this guy for awhile now?

just please b careful!

i kno this one girl who met a guy online. that guy is one of my friends, they talk 3 weeks online, and he bought a plan ticket for her to come to NEw york...they f**ked..and she got pregnant the next month..now they have a baby...!! weird right?

omg, she had a baby?? Wow... ooh, no, I'm not gonna do that

Well, I'm not gonna do anything like that. I still haven't met him or anything, but we might meet up this weekend. I've been talking to him like a lot the past couple of weeks, so I'm getting to know him a lot better... he's reallyy innocent so I don't think I have to be too worried about... stuff

gosh i can just see this instance in a pbS commerical...whatever you do don't meet him alone you never know what can possible happen, my friend met someone online and i don't trust it at all. i think you should meet him maybe but definately with a few friends!

Very true.

For all you know, he could be a 68 year old raper.

Bring FRIENDS...Big GUY friends... friends and a cell phones.

I might sound like I'm joking, but you should buy pepper spray, just incase, and be sure your wearing sneakers.

BRING BIG GUY FRIENDS!

i've heard so many bad things happen to people who went to meet people online, but i guess if you feel that you need to meet him, then take precautions. one of my friends met this guy she met online in the middle of the night. i would say she's crazy, but she did bring her dog and a big knife =x.. and she's pretty big and diesel. but turns out the two of them clicked and i think she's still going out with him. but then again, the other side is all the rapes, kidnappings etc.. so just be careful.

okay to me...meeting people online and then meeting them in person is super dangerous since a couple of people i know went to jail for it....but if you talk to him longer then a year then i think it is cool....but other than that you really don't know what he is like in person or even how he really looks....but to you the choice is yours....its just that i don't want to see someone getting raped or anything because of meeting someone off the internet

Bring a gun.
or your dog

Go with like two other friends, and have your cellphone and pepper spray with you. And...do you really trust this guy? Seems so shady to me...

ehh ive met plenty of ppl i met online, none of them have harmed me, i met a 21 yr old once, but that doesnt mean im for this, dont give him accurate details bout wat ur gona wear or how ur gona do ur hair, cuz then he can easily pick u out, if he asks, tell him u change ur mind a lot n that ur undecisive bout ur clothes [thas wat i always sed] ^^ exactly n make sure ta check him out first, ta make sure hes by himself n that he wasnt lyin bout age, u sed that he was innocent or sumthin ta that degree, keep in mind that ppl arent always wat they seem

one thing that bothers me is that hes willin ta drive 2hrs jus ta c u....ta me that means he wants sumthin....most likely sex

bring friends n jus b really careful

don't go by yourself .. be very very careful .. you never know .. when you meet people on line they may be something completely different from what they make themselves appear to be .. play it smart and take precautions ..

itd be kinda scary going alone, n for all you kno he might be an old gray haired weirdo! come with a friend just in case, if you REALLY want to see for yourself.

i would definately not suggest meeting sumone u met on the internet....... dangerous stuff, like i mean even if he turns out perfectly normal, better safe den sorry rite?

if u do insist on meeting him, then meet sumwhere public, and bring a friend or 2, and a celly if u can

erm... how long have u known him since? thats scary...if u knew him only 1 week-_-;;...or 1 month-_-;; not enuf~~ u hab to get to kno him more...cus thats wat i did~~ lols hahaha.. me and justin^^;; we met online the very first time~~ haha... lalala

bring a friend or a knife! but seriously. u shouldnt go alone if uve never met him!

i went with my best friend wen she met this guy she didnt kno and it wuz all fine even tho i wuz a litle scared my self b4 i met him hehe but im sure it ll b ok if ur with sum 1 hu can punch as well as me

yeah bring a friend. you can never be too sure :)

hmm... i'd meet him if i really wanted to... just bring more than 2 friends with you,... just in case. and you should check him out before to see if he's good-looking... if he's not, ditch him and say sorry about it afterwards.

THATS MY DREAM!!! To be way older than my girlfriend. kinda illegal but i like my girls young. i can get one my age right now but not my style. im kinda wierd like that. not fair mexicans can do it.

lol, what's that supposed to mean?? lol, well yeah, I'm weird like that too. I prefer older guys, just cuz they're more mature, and smarter(most of the time)

Indeed do not go at this alone, be careful, stay somewhat alert (not a whole lot or else you might not enjoy your get-together) and if you suspect something, consult your friends.

haha this sounds like stories my mom would tell me to make me stop using AIM...

if you really want to meet him that bad, then go in a group! and bring pepperspray...

i recently had a similar situation as yours......
but i strongly and personally dont recommend you two meeting together. That person may even be 40, or even a gurl, based upon what is happening these days...