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Since this is the relationship forum, let's think about the two most contradictory "theories" for relationships. Maybe the word "theories" isn't quite... right for describing these two ideas, but just hear me out.

In this forum, at least 80% (probably around 95%, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt) will obey the "reason" rule. They will find which solution to their problem is most "reasonable" and follow that choice. In reality, however, reason will be completely forgotten once emotion takes over. You think this is not true? If it's not, why are there so many cases of infidelities in the world right now? Isn't it "reasonable" to stay married to the same person so you do not jeopardize your life, and the lives of others that are involved in this relationship? (ie. kids) But that isn't the way reality works. Emotion takes over and soon you will find yourself waking up in the bed of your lover. That there, is emotion. Is there any reason for you to cheat on your husband/wife BEFORE getting a divorce? No. This also applies to relationships, and seeing how young this forum is... it most probably only applies to relationships and not marriage.

Conclusion: Stop giving responses to ideas based on reason, base it on emotion.



Disclaimer: I write this message purely for the enlightnment of the members of this forum and no one is forced to read and/or agree to it's concepts.

Yes, you're right. But sometimes when we let our emotions lead us, it just doesn't work out, if you know what I mean.

But that's his point. We can't control "when we let our emotions lead us" and things are always harder than they seem because when we give people advice we are never in their shoes. So, yeah, I agree, a dose of advice that takes in to consideration emotions is probably the most helpful.

i agree, completely. i think that emotions definitely runs our lives and the choices we make.

i completely agree. i myself am an extremely emotional person...and i tend to give in to such emotions quite a lot. sometimes its good...but sometimes its good and bad at the same time - like the consequence isn't exactly good but at that momemt, what i was doing seemed right.

ooh i really think you're right. people give advice.. and like its really great and all but we don't always follow them out.. well becus emotions take over.

wow. i usually listen to my heart. cus life without love is empty o.O

SO true. I was thinking the same! People give me advice and stuff & I end up not doing what seems reasonable, I just do what my emotions tell me to do.

the ones who have been able to suppress emotions are the ones without the meaning of life essentially.

I agree with that. But if you come asking for advice, reason is the only thing I (I don't know about everyone else) can give. I don't know how the person asking would react emotionally. And often times, emotional responses are not well thought out, and are not always the best choices.

The best advice you can give involves reason, while acknowledging emotion.

What you feel is right for yourself isn't always what's best for you.

Your heart is not always right.

People are often attracted to things that are not good for them.

Take for example Hot Cheetos. Do you remember when you first tried those? They burned like hell. But you kept eating and eventually your mouth was so numb with pain, it no longer hurt. And even after your mouth was numb, you kept eating.

That anology might not apply to everybody, but it illustrates my point.

Humans are naturally ruled by their emotions. It can be good or bad. I know my emotions have powers over my logic.

Hm. I would say, it is 'morally' incorrect because of religion and all that blah-di-blah. But, is it truly emotinally satisfying for YOU to cheat on the one that you are in love with. I'm basing my response as if the 'person' had actually been in love with the person he or she married. Would it really be satisfying to leave that person so you can go f**k around? I don't think it would satisfy your emotions. I know two singers, whom, once they almost got famous, ditched their spouses. In the end, they were left with total nothingness but depression and a great voice. That is why reason is something mixed into emotion, for without emotion, there is no reason, and without reason, there is no emotion.

You have no offended me. I delighted in reading this and replying. Good question, too. ;]

I think I might need to restate what I put as the conclusion... what I really mean is... advise can't be given based purely on reason... because if they're so ... confined to reason, they may be so unrealistic ... that the person being advise is unABLE to follow the advise given... So just take consideration emotiosn WILL affect the true outcome and include that into the advise. Just my $0.02.

umm..you have a point...? Is that what you wanted to hear?

i think that you need a good amount of both... and it does depend on the situation sometimes

I believe if there is emotion there is no reason... why do people go on feelings.. But there are those reason people.. but I think emotions should triumph over reasoning.