hrmmz...so this is sorta new for me...being a member and all..but i guess i just need some "outside" advice. my bf..oops..ex bf and i have been together for about 10 and a half months. we were THE couple of our small korean community. on top of that he was my first serious relationship. then wen skoo started (different skoo) i was worried about him talking to other gurls. and he did. he flirted and stuff while i was going to skoo being faithful to him. he started hanging out with a different group of ppl and started changing. he was the perfect bf. he was smart, goodlooking, nice, had respect for everyone, had respect for me, also a tiger woods wannabe =) he was a great golfer. but one nite we were both invited to a party and i didn't go. thinking to myself why the hell would i sneak out for. instead they came by my house and dropped off some b00ze for me ^^ and we just talked for awhile and he left. he told me we had to go pick up two other gurls. and those gurls happen to be girls that go to my church. i had no particular problem with that and they were planning to sneak out. i slept smiling...and i woke up with the worst feeling. then it was out. everyone knew. and i heard it before my ex told me. he told me that he had ALOT of fun and that he thought he drank alittle TOO much. and then he told me that he was sorrie. he told me that he fukked one of the gurls that attend church wit me. she's fukin 13. and he fukin 16. and the ironic thing is that her name is the same as mine. i was sad...and so i stopped talking to him for about a week. and he never even tried to call me. !!! so i called him one day and told him to tell me wat exaclty happened. turns out he wasn't that drunk after all. since he told me detail by detail. muthfukin bastard...and on top of that ppl started accusing me. rumors have it that i told the gurl to go fuk him. and that im telling everyone he raped me and sh*t. so i bitched at him once. telling him that i don't need all this sh*t cuz he's the one that messed up our GREAT relationship. and all he sed was im sorrie i messed up. blahblahblha...and these ppl are calling me telling me that everyone HATES me. so...lately i just lost touch with everyone and im hoping things will quiet down.

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i already dumped him (im not THAT stupid)
i told him that we could if he wanted to
and i stopped talking to everyone.

plus. i am not fat. nor boring. and i am def. NOT going to call myself pretty cuz...that's just wrong =) wanna see a pic? IM me. krnbabyr0se lataz
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after the incident with my bf..i stopped talking to him. i stopped talking to everyone...yet...really..its more like everyone stopped talking to me...i feel...useless..like no one cares...never knew that one person can hurt me so much...yet again...he doesn't even know. he's stupid i know. but why am i the one having to be...alone..why do i feel so lonely..... i just want my frends back..guess they weren't my frends...but..then there's no one else here to be fukin frends with...i wanna dig myself a hole and die.

man....leave me comments will ya?...

I'm sorry....i don't really have advice...but just try to make new friends....don't worry, i don't think you'll feel bad like this forever.

oh my...

girl...i`m here for you..

that`s really the most sadest story i`ve heard...and it was real..

that guy was and IS a loser...

it was never your fault...and that`s a fact...

i don`t think that guy was smart at all...to screw up like that...damn...he makes ALL guys look bad...

and i have to say...you misjudged him...he didn`t have the loyalty of a "perfect" boyfriend...

point is...

you need to forget that sh`t...move on with your life...don`t let that memory be the reason for you to have a bad day...i imagine one day...you`ll be happily married with two kids...and you won`t regret that one bit...

`cuz expierencing that was something you had to go through and figure out by yourself...you did a good job of that...you became stronger...i`m proud of you..

those "friends" you used to have wouldn`t be able to do that on their own...they would be cryin` to you begging for answers...which is really sad..

and if that guy comes running to you again...slap him for me.

and if he assaults you...imma get all my girls and beat the f`ck outta him..

oh dear im soo sorry that something like this has happened to you. and losing ur friends as well. that really sucks the big one. but i think everyone has it wrong. its like ur b.f did nothing and ur just overreacting. when really ur b.f cheated on u and u wanted answers. thats totally understandable. i really have no advice for u. but i hope things smooth out and that u make new friends who'll stick by u thru anything.

jackie

geebus! i know violence is not the thaang here, but.. do you happen to know where your bf lives?

anyways, i'm sorry that that happened to you..
whenever you need someone to talk to i'll be here :D
and you're boyfriend pisses me off. because he lies, and then he rapes a girl. (mohaha, it's called rape to have sex under the age of 18. aka ILLEGAALL)

but dang.. that's some serious shizz..
i hope things turn out for you, which they most likely will :D
since all good things happen to good people.
not everyone hates you :D (aka me and your supporters at createblog)
and and.. uh.. there are better fish in the sea.. =]
and i hope you feel better :D

woah thats a sad stori. i hope ur not feeling to bad about it

omq!!! that sooo sad!! 10 months...and suddenly somethin bad happened-_-;; omq... hehe im worried bot my bf wen he does that too haha... he says stuff like "im having fun with these girls that are next to me" T_T...there wasnt any girls...he was jus scarin' me..makin' me worrie more...haha... well i did that to him too...so i guess hes doin' that to me too hahaa... well newais....awwww hope ur friends talk to u agen!! i feel bad for u girl!! man ur bf...that was a messed up thing... aww... so he say that he f**ked one of ur church friends? man... thats messed up.... even tho he wasnt tellin da truth..tsk tsk...thats bad.... aww...jus hopin' that u feel better...and good thing u dumped him fo' sho!!^^;; hehe aww hope ur not lonely no more!! be happy agen !

oh man... i really hate players! and goddamn flirts. she was only 13? gosh. what a biatch. good thing you ditched him!

haha..forgot i posted this up...thanks for the words of courage =) im doing alot better these days..found myself a new guy. sorrie to say everytime im wth my new guy i wish it was my ex. geez..i need to think straight..he'll be moving to florida soon..do you think it'll be wrong to see and talk to him one last time before he moves??

im glad ur feeling better of course u should see him one last time, u should do something to make him feel stupid and that its his loss for losing you make him feel like a total jerk and a Loser with a capital L

it won't be wrong :) it's just gonna be like a friend visiting a friend. besides it might be the last time you'll be able to see him.

i know its a cliche, duh.. but.. "whatever doesnt kill you only makes you stronger".. its not always true.. but its something to think about!!!!

i guess it's a korean thing. why stuff like this never happens to walruses.

cheer up gal =)

I'm sorry to hear that happen to you... Well look at the bright side.....you still have us around to chat with!

lolz! good point...thanks for da word..

wow good thing u dumped him... i thing he was like so into other grls.. .that crazy boy.. lol.. hope u find a better b/f them him..

that's one reason i don't get into relationships. i'm scared of getting my heart broken. but i can't believe he did that to you!!! god you should have bitch smacked him so f*cking hard his monkey ancestor felt it. i know i would have!!! hell. i'd beat the shit out of him. i mean if he kissed a girl, i'd just say bye. if he f*cked one, no matter how drunk, he'd get his ass whooped personal by me!!!

that was long but i thought it would be worth reading... and it was... so how old are you?...

anyways your friends we not really friends i guess, and i know how you can't just make friends like that... start saying hi to ppl you wnat to be friends with and eventually it start into a conversation right?

anyways that ex of yours that was just so wrong, guess he isn't the great bf u thought of him, since he didn't try calling u or explaining why and stuff...

if he loved you he would def. not fudge another girl, sowwies girl..

i'm here for you!! i'll be your friend!!! =)

OKay bleh I jsut saw this topic and decided to bring it back up, Sorry if I wasn't supposed to.

I just wanted to say I know how you feel when you fele liek all your friends and everyone ditched you and talk smack behind your back, blaming you for things you don't know about or never did. Yea, sure, I haven't been in the situation you did, but I remember rumors started about me, fake ones, in fact, they started for no reason. And now, I've become stronger from it and also, I've come to realize, that TRUE FRIENDS stick around. And all I got to say is at least you know who your real friends are which isn't really any since they all ditched you. AT LEAST you didn't have intercourse with your ex because that would've been a big mistake. He's a sleazeball. And when he leaves or IF HE LEFT), you shold've said good riddance and yea something to make him feel bad. Because he is a total jerk!

holy crap that effing sucks. boys boys boys...
well glad to hear you're doing better

WOW WHAT A DUMBASS HE WAS!!! But don't worry... you seem like someone who can make friends and be open... so just don't listen to what people are saying and try to make some new friends.... ones who will be there 4 you no matter what happens... that's all I can give you... I hope everything turns out 4 the best!!