does/if your boyfriend's parents dislike you and don't want their son to be with you or anything like that.. how would you feel? what would you do?



i'm sorry, but i can't help it.. i just can't stop feeling sad. i love him so damn much but i just couldn't stand the thought that his parents dislike me. i think it could be an obstacle in our relationship.

i don't understand!! how can parents be that way!!!

parents want whats best for their kid, they are really picky, don't worry

My recent ex boyfriend's mom was kinda like that. She would always have his sister follow me around and constantly talked about us.. but I couldn't take it anymore so I asked her about it and we had a talk which improved our relationship! Try to talk to her..

Try being as nice as possible. Be the best you you can be !

since you have so many "obstacles" with your b/f..why dont you just break up with him? you're really picky..what with his parents...and his best friend...christ..if you really want this to work, you'd try harder.

If that happened to me, i'd be very sad but then i'll let him go because if they don't think i'm the best for him & i don't think myself is the best because you want the best for your boyfriend. That's only my opinion. I hope you feel better & maybe sit down & talk it over with his parents?

try talking to her about it, make her feel secure about the relationship. just be yourself

yeah...be nice to his parents and try to find out why they don't like you.

maybe it's the way you're dressed?...if so...don't wear like anything too showy of the skin
be like really really nice and polite OFFER TO DO DISHES!

but then again..what do I know?

Most parents think their son/daughter is too good for a certain someone...

my boyfriend's parents hate me ...but he doesn't care and i don't either

as long as there's love between you and your boyfriend or if you two are at least dedicated into the relationship, it should somehow work out

Actually, my boyfriend's sister, mother, and sometimes his father dislikes me. Actually his sister doesn't hate on me tht much now... But I know deep down she doesn't like me. The way she looks at me.. I just know.. Sometimes it's a dogging look -_- And his mother too.. But his mother's somewhat nicer to me. His father is really nice to me, but sometimes he doesn't like me... :/

I know how it feels... It's okay though because Tony is still with me.. It's been 2 years, 2 months, and still counting... We've lasted for so long. I don't care what they think because deep down, I love Tony and he loves me. I know he wouldn't sacrifice our relationship for his parents. If your boyfriend really cared about/loved you enough, he would NOT let his family be an obstacle. And if they continue to be a problem, then he wouldn't care because he cares enough about you to stay with you.

Take it from someone who knows.

id be a little sad but then i wouldnt care. his parents not liking me wont stop me from going out with my bf. idk if his parents dont like me though. i havent met them

if i were you, and if i were as picky as you, i'd just break up. from best friends to parents. gosh. >.< anyways, i think you should break up.

there are always gonna be parents who will dislike you from time to time. but they're just parents...like its been said before, "they want whats best for their kid." but the only people that you should worry about is you and your boyfriend. that's all that matters really. friends & family aren't apart of your relationship. so just focus on u and ur boy.

i mean if his parents don't like you because of say a bad attitude or your "trouble" as some parents see teenagers as then just yknow lessen the attitude and be less reckless. lol. but if its something that they dont like about ur personality then i say f**k it. you shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone. plus, they even aren't ur parents so dont worry. :D

jackie

pshh. when did i ever say i had these obstacles with my bf? we're doing fine. and i don't hate his parents, i just think and feel really sad because they don't like me. i'm asking for help here, ain't asking for ppl to tell me to break up with my bf. that would just be dumb and very ignorant.. why the hell imma break up with him just because i don't like one of his friend?

and how the hell am i picky? i was before i met him, and after i met him, he's just the right one.. what else would i be picky about? and plus.. being picky on finding a real boyfriend is just fine. i wouldn't go with just ANY guy.. that's just stupid.

you don't have to like all his friends, you know? i just don't like ONE of his friend. and that's because i don't like his personalitiy and his "cheating" on his gf. understand?

and i do want to and i am working on our relationship. when did i ever say i wasn't working on it? don't assume when you don't know it.


and for all those ppl who replied, thanks. i guess his parents wouldn't be a big factor, but it would matter in a way.. it'd just be nicer and easier for us if they like me. i'm avoiding them right now.. well not avoiding.. just don't want to meet them for a whlie, so his parents would forget about it and think differently about me by learning about me and who i am.

It wouldn't be the best feeling in the world. Try talking to her about it, maybe? Maybe if you ask her why she doesn't like you, it could clear some things up. Maybe she thinks you have some "bad habits" that you don't have. She could also not really have a reason, and if you draw it to her attention she could let it go.

its most likly their parents dont know about me lol

Yeah..I agree with most of the people in here..except for the people who had the "picky" comments...maybe you should try and talk to his mom..work things out if it's possible..cause it kinda sucks to have the feeling that someone doesn't like you for something dumb..well I'm not sure why she doesn't like you or both of his parents whatever..but you should definitely try and talk to his mom or whoever is hatin..good luck!!

i`d hate it a lot and i`d wonder why they hate me so much. i`m just in love with their baby. i would try my best to get them to like me, but if my boyfriend wouldn`t mind them hating me, then i`ll be okay. as long as we love each other.

ha, my first ex's parents didn't like me because i didn't say hi to them!!! that's so ridiculous, it's not like they said hi to me either

try spending more time with her. or, act extra nice when go over to his house or sumthin. prove to his parents that you're good enough for their kid. ;)

they're probably just being overprotective & just want the best.


just prove to them that you're good enough.

i belive most parents are like that cuz i always heard it before especially t.v shows. well i dont have a relationship w/ anyone cuz i'm too young.

i think you should talk to his mom .. help around more often and be around to support her. Start a conversation w/ her or do something about it. If ur not going to do anything then she'll hate you and might cuase problems.

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I agree.

go out to dinner w/ his parents and just talk. chances are they don't like you cuz they didn't get a good chance to know you.

language problems.. i can't really "talk" to their parents..

but i find it easier now to deal with it.. although it still hurts extra much when i get reminded that his parents don't like me.

sorry, i dont have a bf
but maybe you can adjust to what they're more used to,
ask his mom what she would like to see/adjustments

I would feel bad , but I dont have a bf right now.

omg!! thats terrible! i feel bad for you! that would be bad if that happend to me. infact i wouldnt know WHAT to do.. hmmm wait...let me think for a second............................ well mabye i guess lie to your parents and then meet your BF in a certain place and then set a time for your parents to pick you up and then make sure that your BF isnt by so that everything could go okay. or you can do the opposite and ask him to get his parents pick him up...i dunno if you just understoo a word i just said tho :/