eloCiN
Feb 16 2005, 03:40 PM
how to get this girl to stop smokin cause she depressed
EmmalieV
Feb 16 2005, 03:44 PM
tell her to stop.
bravodancer04
Feb 16 2005, 03:48 PM
Tell her that you'll never talk to her again if she doesn't stop smoking
ghjgfkgfk
Feb 16 2005, 04:03 PM
^wtf?
(no, this isn't spam b/c that post was complete bullshut)
Angel_Cece
Feb 16 2005, 04:10 PM
tell her how much you care and how much you love her.. if you do ;[ why is this in the girls locker? thats okay not quite sure where it should be nvm. =D good luck
urbanychic
Feb 16 2005, 04:36 PM
you can tell someone to stop, but it is up to them to quit. and telling them you aren't going to be their friends is sort of superficial, at least i think so. make a compromise, have her not smoke around you, and seeing you said she is depressed and you are her friend (im assuming here) do things with her that will make her happy. go to the park, make your own play/musical, make soap together. be there for her!
lovescream
Feb 16 2005, 04:45 PM
IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE EVER AGAIN!
mouse_3k
Feb 16 2005, 04:48 PM
Oh well, her lungs she screwing up so let her learn her lesson in about a couple of years.
urbanychic
Feb 16 2005, 05:04 PM
QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 4:45 PM)
IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE
EVER AGAIN!
ive know people whove smoked their entire lives, NEVER getting cancer and died from natural causes .. so yea. correlation doesn't necesrrily mean causation. meaning, because the amount of people havign cancer and who are smokers doesn't mean that it is the actual smoking that caused the cancer. there could be other variables that affected or influenced the cancer cells other than just tobacco.
YourSuperior
Feb 16 2005, 05:05 PM
You've got to let them do what they think is best for them.
lovescream
Feb 16 2005, 05:13 PM
QUOTE(urbanychic @ Feb 16 2005, 5:04 PM)
ive know people whove smoked their entire lives, NEVER getting cancer and died from natural causes .. so yea. correlation doesn't necesrrily mean causation. meaning, because the amount of people havign cancer and who are smokers doesn't mean that it is the actual smoking that caused the cancer. there could be other variables that affected or influenced the cancer cells other than just tobacco.
That is true. But just say that to ermm. kinda scare herrr..
my mommy smokes. a lot. and for a long time. She hasn't had cancer yet or any sign.
But cancer will damage your lungs. it'll be harder to breathe and cause your whole body to probably go wrong. when one thing is wrong, the whole ermm system isn't working correctly, but still is working.
... ^ Confusing.
ghjgfkgfk
Feb 16 2005, 06:15 PM
QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 4:45 PM)
IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE
EVER AGAIN!
uh.
do you honestly think she doesn't know that?
pretty much everyone is at risk for cancer.
and everyone is going to die.
ThePrincessofTKD
Feb 16 2005, 07:39 PM
it`s very kind of you to care about her well-being. promise her something so that she`ll stop smoking in exchange.
lakerfever2476
Feb 16 2005, 07:50 PM
Just throw all her cigarettes away. lol ..
Keep her busy ! Go ice-skating , draw a picture, anything that will keep her mind out of the nasty sticks.
mzkandi
Feb 16 2005, 08:13 PM
tell her you care for her and that it is her best interest that she stop smoking but in the end it will be her decison
inlonelinessidie
Feb 16 2005, 08:16 PM
QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 2:45 PM)
IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE
EVER AGAIN!
Just what you wanna tell a depressed person, pft.
You cannot get anyone to stop doing something they don't want to stop. You can tell them, but they'll take it or leave it. Can't change a person.
angelshortipnai
Feb 16 2005, 08:16 PM
I think u should tell an adult about it 'cause that's really the best way to stop her/him
mai_z
Feb 16 2005, 09:07 PM
just tell her straight up that you don't want to see her ruin her life like this. The most influential pressure comes from peer pressure, use it to your advantage
tresa1992
Feb 16 2005, 11:00 PM
Tell her, "If you really love me, you would stop."
My friend always uses that on his girlfriend.
Uhh, also tell her how it could kill her and all that jazz.
Go with the truth.
yukichan
Feb 16 2005, 11:08 PM
tell her u care about her and u dont want to see her like that...tell her the facts about smoking and how it affects her body...
ItzOnlySydney
Feb 16 2005, 11:08 PM
well saying "stop smoking right now!" won't rly get you anywhere unless they're brain is made of mush

lol. but i know it took about 6 months for me to stop smokign and it took family members, friends, and realizes what i was doing to my skin to stop. these things take time no one person can stop it instantly you just gotta be there for her and maybe try to refocus her energty n somethign else but most of all its going to take HER WANTING TO QUIT. becuz you can say "stop smoking right now!" until you are blue in the face but it won't do you much good until
SHE wants to quit. remember that =).
rOckThISshYt
Feb 16 2005, 11:25 PM
i've been in this situation before with my friend jill. she used to be a smoker. i guess one of the reasons was depression.
but my two friends and i helped her quit. i guess we all came at it from different angles, though.
my tactic was to be there to support her. i don't ever think you should stop being someone's friend because of something like that. i made it clear to her that i thought what she was doing is wrong and it's not only hurting her, but people around her and that she's too good for that sh!t and the only reason our friends are pressuring her is because we care. but i also made it clear that it was up to her. i told her that she was free to do whatever she wanted and no one could force her to stop but it wasn't right. so i left it up to her and gave her as much emotional and mental support as i could.
sam and becky had different ideas, though. they threatened not to be her friend anymore and i understood that. i think they would have made up eventually no matter what, and i think their tactic definatly helped her stop smoking, but i didn't think it was right. i understood their position, but i also wanted to be there for jill to help her through the fights she had with sam and becky as well as the quiting.
jill doesn't smoke anymore. i'd recomend trying the same with your friend.
Shattered_Hope
Feb 17 2005, 12:04 AM
tell her the health issues, and tell her how it makes you feel when she does smoke around you....you can help guide her but the decision to quit is AND WILL ALWAYS BE HERS.
chongmaggie007
Feb 17 2005, 12:08 AM
Tell her that...
Smoking doesn't help much when feeling depressed, it will just create more trouble ! Do something more positive, such as doing some exercise, chatting with friends... That's help a lot !
stephinika
Feb 17 2005, 12:09 AM
tell her it'll just make things worse.
StephyLayouts
Feb 17 2005, 12:27 AM
... Tell her to stop and try to get her to get interested in something. Like a sport or a hobby... It'll take time... So if she's busy with something she enjoys, then she's
1 not depressed
2 too busy to smoke
Sorry if that doesn't help :(
_sarcastic_
Feb 17 2005, 03:58 PM
slap her in the face and ask her to stop.
jk jk
tell her to stop, tell her that she can do sth else other than smoke
lilJdawg
Feb 17 2005, 08:48 PM
Blackmail her.
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