Daym im only 15 and i have a 3 month old daughter my husband divorced me. i dont know what to do and i know this isnt the place to talk about it but i cant find any other place i need advice. i really do.

well, you are in the wrong place, but maybe i can help. go in the lounge and ask

could someone in the xanga staff or the admins maybe move this to the lounge forum or maybe even the girl's locker?

thanks =)

And also, REI, if that is even your name (lol), how CAN you have a husband that divorced if you are ONLY 15?! You can marry at 15 years old... can you? O_o"

moved to girl's locker.


Just_Dream: Thanks ^_^

I'm sorry to hear that. Can you obtain help from your parents? Or maybe welfare...it sucks but have you thought about having your kid up for adoption? This is a tough situation, because I haven't really experienced it. I know it's hard, but because you now have a child, just try your best to have a really good home for your child. You are really young, and you have to live your life extra hard because you have a child, but you need all the help you can get. Try seeking help and finding information online about teen pregnancy. I'm sorry I don't really know how to help you but I wish you the best of luck to you and your baby.

wait... is this true? because i mean, its kind of weerd... ;blink: well er... i dont noe what to say hah except that this seems a bit like a scam. but, if its true, er... go get another husband? i mean... they easy to find... guys= swarming everywhere*i think* so yea...?

how do u get married at 15???

people can u try giving her helpful advice!!! yes u can get married at 15 all u have to have is a parent with you!!!

ok now.. im sooo sorry that you a mother at the age of fifteen, im fifteen and i cant imagine having a child at my age. r u going to school? if u are stay and get your degree, and if u arent GET BACK!!! (as soon as possible) do your parents help u??? i dont know if i can say this on here but im gonna!! u need someone that i know and if u want to know who He is then IM me. He will give you comfort in you troubled times. He will give you strength and will to go on!!

MY SN IS: MARTINCHICA07

wow .. so very young to have been married and have a child. =/ .. there isn't much that any of us can do to help .. is your family helping to support the baby now that your husband has divorced you? you have to be a bit more specific with the situation here. a baby is a huge financial burden so unfortunately, as the mother, you have to make a lot of sacrifices -- further education, job, etc. unless you have someone help to watch the baby for you. try to be strong and do what you have to do to get by. that's really all i can tell you. it's going to be hard. hopefully the father will be responsible enough to take a part in the babies life and do everything he possibly can as well. i'm sorry to hear that you're going through this at such a young age. best of luck :(

well...raising a child at 15 could be difficult....honestly i think the best thing to do would be adoption or maybe you parents coulld adopt him or something like that...=[

yeah. ..i left something on ur xanga...yeah...never been thru that... so...

hmmm...how come ur xanga is linked to another one...hmmmm??

Are u For real?!?! How do u get married in 15. r u even from this country? maan. Im really sorry about that. daym must be really hard to raise a child by urself. ima holla at ur Xnga.

wut yall talking about? linked to another site? . . . . . Oh! Yeah why is that? to Bkye....Something like that iono!

im not lying i really am married and divorced and i really do have a child.

im sorri =[

yall...

you can get married at any age under 18 as long as you have parental permission...

didnt yall watch LIAR, LIAR??

girl...you remind me of another girl i saw at da mall...she was around yur age and pregnant..

i mean...(some) ppls look down apon girls like dat..

dey assume they're sluts, whores that have no life..

i can only give you my condonsolence...(is that how its spelled?)...or sympathy..

some parents would abandon their child fer having a kid at an early age..

dont you feel regretful?..fer what hap?

its a cruel world out there..

but God made it to be a happy ending..

so if yur not happy...its not the end..

look fer counceling maybe...if yur parents abandon you...

look fer guidance of yur friends..

there is always someone out there to care..

jus remember that...

Under 18: If either the bride or groom is under 18, at least one of the minor's parents,
or legal guardian, must appear with the couple. Certified copies of birth certificates are required. The couple must also schedule an appointment with a counselor and then appear before a superior court judge.

i see no reason why this can't be true - only unusual

depends on where u live.. in some states u can be a wifey at 14

In most states you must be 18 to marry without parental consent. With such consent, many states allow marriage at a younger age, typically 16. In some states, due to special circumstances such as pregnancy or the birth of a child, the courts may allow marriage at a much younger age.

ok, im gonna try and put myself in your shoes because i have said things about teenage moms in my xanga and blah blah blah but ok most teenage moms are on there own they dont even get funding from the family. what i want to know is what exactly is your problem besides the fact that you have a child to take care of. is the father still willing to contribute to the well being of the child? do u get help from parents or gardians? i wouldnt feel right critisizing you and giving advice when i dont know much about the situation but im willing to give advice where ever needed (especially if its a kid involved)

Aww, well maybe you should've gotten an abortion or something. But then, did Bush ban abortions? I heard he did.. but I'm not sure.. I'm not up to date these days I don't know whyb but i ahve to agree with someone else here that YES, this seems sort of like a scam. You haven't really replied back either. Well anyhow you should go through all that stuff that helps yo with teen pregnancy. Since you're 15, YOUNGER than me, I can't BELIEVE that you could even deliver the baby. I know that if that happened to me, I'd die from it O_o

but anyhow, you need to talk to people for help. If your parents love you, they'd help you. And plus, there are people who are in your shoes as well, talk to them. I believe there's a website about it. Good luck

i'm just wondering.. sorry if it's person.. but.. were you by any chance raped? If so and you're still taking care of the baby, wow O_o

um ok..its sad and all but why did you post that...what did you expect to get out of that...sympathy???

YOU GAVE "IT" now its time YOU DEAL WITH "IT"

.... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life?

why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me.

>__<

lets hope its not a joke.

heh...i dunno about that...did u see her xanga??its connected to another one

im sorry but i dont have time and my friend made tis for me. she said it was a skin she got from here. but im not lying really.

Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey.

Woa...way to go!


Anyways...If you can't support the baby, I seriously recomend putting him/her up for adoption. If you really want the baby to have a better life, and if you can't support him, it may be the best choice.

I think she should give birth and put them up for adoption...so you know, they can have the best life possible with someone capable of taking care of them..

Thas Tru.

sorry, i didnt know. ill pray for you.

Well, like a lot of people here say, put the kid up for adoption. You obviously are too young to support the child. Unless ofcourse, your with your parents. In that case, you're in the clear. I mean, even if you got pregnant and everything, your parents will still love you and their grandchild.
And how'd you get married? Isn't it illegal? You're still a minor.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi
PS: Podomaht's already praying for you, so I don't think I need to do that anymore.

I don't really recommend adoption, just for the fact that you might regret it later

You seem to be trying to put your life back together, so I'm getting from that that you wouldn't want to give up your baby.

I don't know you at all, so these are all assumptions, and I could be completely wrong.

But my opinion is that should really look inside you, think about things, think about how you got in this situation. Talk to your parents, talk to your ex.

You're korean, so I'm guessing your parents are typical rigid Korean parents, but you're their daughter, they'll help you through it all =]

I think you should ask for real help cause most of the people here are still young and haven't thought about getting married... Anyway, rei, sorry... Just try the best you can in life and never give up....

Best I can say is, Put your child up for adoption, or maybe let your parents take care of him/her for awhile? I really don't know . . sorry if I can't help

yea, that's true. I'm sorry that I said the abortion thing. I wasn't htinking. The baby does deserve to live, and yes, adoption seems like a good choice. But the thought of the baby never having his/her real mother... =( But anyhow, try to take care of the child as much as you can. If it fails, then put him/her up for adoption. Even if the child "might" hate you forever, at least you know the child might haev a chance at having a better life.

ps: I'm not a big fan of children..

adoption seems good. but then again if you bonded with your child ( sounds corny i know) then i would think it would be too harmful for you to give it away. like silver said, you might regret it soon. talk to your parents about it. if they don't really respond the way you want them to, talk to a friend. ask your parents if they can take care of it. if they can't for some reason, ask another adult to help you out. you'll find a way to fix this problem soon.

wow ur onli 15 n having a babii u should get a nice job

O_o

adopton would be the best thing to do.

i just want to let every know that i think you guys are all great people for helping out this girl and you don't even know her. that's why i love creteblog. you can ask anything and a ton of people will relate, help, or just plain listen. sometimes thats all you need. thank you.

rei: i am praying for you.

you got married and divorced already? are you sure that you even legally married??? anyways so your 15... it was your decision to have the child, cause if it was tooo late and u realized that u were pregnent, you could of have had an abortion... its more simple than having to take care of a child, especially when your still in high school!!! so its too late for an abortion of course lol... but now since u already have it... go to your ex-husband's family and demand to get a certain amought of money from them each month, like have your family talk to their family... if he wasn't going to be responsible for a baby than he should not be having sex with young girls in the first place, and his parents has got to be respnsible for their son who cause a teenage to be a mother at such a young age... no girl at that age should have to worry about a baby... they should be out having fun not having to take care of a baby... and ain't your parents there for you? to support you?? okay i'm typing too much...

you should not get a job, you should stay in school and get a good education and put the child in daycare while your at school...

Yea, I said that thing about abortion too, but thedilenquent told me that the chid does deserve to live, and well, I agree with her on that one. The baby should get his/her chance to live. It's not the baby's fault. =T

she quitted now even her xanga.

thats what i was thinking...it doesnt even sound believable

Posted on Apr 24 2004, 3:29 PM
QUOTE (waccoon @ Mar 23 2004, 3:27 PM)



i agree shes da one whoz askin fo help so if it waz tru den she would have came and replyed

oh my god. i feel so bad for you. you are so young. did you have to drop out of highschool. why didn't you put your kid up for adoption or get an abortion? i sure as hell know that i would have!!! i feel so bad!