Okay, I have this older boyfriend who's in the military (he's about 6'3, musuclar) and lately he's been getting really violent. He'll have these odd anger outbursts and recently, we got into a huge fight and he pushed me down a flight of stairs. I broke my arm.

He's had a past of violent behavior when he was 16 or 17 (he's in his early 20s now) and he's taking it out on me.

This is my longest relationship ever (about 3 years) and I think I love him. Atleast I thought I did. I really don't want to end it, but my parents are getting suspicious of my injuries. I managed to tell them that I tripped down the stairs in my highschool.

But when he punched me in my face, I had a bruise on my cheek, my parents didn't believe me when I insisted I got hit with a soccer ball during PE.

But he says he loves me and he gets so upset after all the fighting stops. I'm just really confused.

So what do I do? I really don't want to end it, but I feel that I have no choice...

i think you should end it, i mean you should before you get hurt any further :S

i think u should before u get beat up really badly 1 day...

End it.
You broke your arm?
Wow.
It could get ugly if you don't end it quickly.

well if you dont want to get beaten by your boyfriend, you should stop dating him and find someone safer than getting beaten' by your boyfriend -_-;; or maybe he's up to something like he's really mad and stuff. maybe he does really love you a lot but theres something in his mind that he wants to stop everything. so you should talk to him about it. ask him what's wrong and also listen to every words what he saying so he wont think you're just not listening to him. guys dont like girls when they dont listen to them.. well yeah of course us, girls dont like when our boyfriends dont listen to what we say and stuff. so yeah have all your ears to him. good LUCK!

he's a piece of sh*t excuse for a human being and deserves to be arested for felony assault.

you should leave him, and shoulda filed police charges

hes a disgrace to his family name, you and the military

Talk to him. If he continues, end it (unless you wanna lose a leg.)

He's not like really crazy in love with you, is he? Because that often turns out bad with violence and breakups. Don't need him threatening your life to get back together with him or anything.

It's happened twice. Remember: three strikes, he's out. Throw his ass in jail if it continues.

Or fight back.

Maybe it was only a broken arm this time, but trust me it'll get worse. I lived in an abusive home for 10 years, and my mom's relationship started the same way, with smaller things like that. She was about 20 when she started dating him. Then he finally got put in jail, where he belongs. Don't let it go any farther.

u just answered ur own question buddy. get the hell outta that relationship, he is a fruitnugget and dont deserve you. run the jinx away from that devil

well.. this is a toughfy cause u think you love him..

but i think you should end it cause he mite rape you or something... or talk to him about it online so he cant physically hurt you...

well good luck with everything..

you should definitely end it. i don't see why you didn't stop seeing him after the first incident. if a guy EVER hits you, he is not worth your time. even if he SAYS he's sorry or that he loves you, he WILL hit you again if you don't stop dating him. i know, it will be hard since you love him and everything. but if he REALLY loved you, he wouldn't have hit you more than once, if at all.

get out now.

he already has....but he says its okay since i already did it voluntarily before...

HE said it was ok? it's not. sorry honey, but to me, he sounds like an arse hole.

Raped and beaten up, get out of there! If he has decent friends, tell them. Tell the police. Dump him.

you really do have no choice.....but becareful when you end your realtionship...he might beat you up so bring backup people and also he seems like he will stalk you so be very carfeul...i'm sure he knows how to use a gun since he is on the miltary

break up with him now. and request for the mafia to watch ur back

holy crap....he's beaten you AND raped you? and you let him do that? i'd say end it. i know it's hard cause you love him and all...but really, think about it. would you want to live with an abusive boyfriend for the rest of your life? if you really don't want to end it, then talk to him about it. if he choses to ignore what you say and say " it's okay" then just dump him right there. if he really loved YOU then he wouldn't be doing these things. be careful and be safe x3 good luck! oh and btw, once you dump him...make sure you have people by your side protecting you =X cause he might hurt you there too, and that's definetely what you don't want.

You have grown attached to him, and it is hard for you to tell yourself that you need to end things with him. I think that deep down you know what to do. You know what is best for you. Sure, he may act like he feels sorry after he hurts you... but he he obviously doesn't feel sorry enough to stop doing it. You can't expect it to just end one day, because odds are it won't. You deserve a guy who will respect you!!


I love you!

-Jessica

is this a joke? How can you take this? I know you love him & everything but is it worth it. End it before it gets worse

uhh i noe u love him but break up with him hes not very nice and how is he going to treat u wen u guys get older and wen u take the hits?? call da police or somthing and or jus break up wit him or ask him Y!!! Y ARE U HITING ME??

it mite be possible that he loves you do, n' if he does you don't wanna lose him right? but, you should make him get help...n' if he doesn't...then he rilly doesn't deserve you...you deserve better

if he really loved you, he wouldn't abuse you.. or at least he would try to get some help

you dont rape and beat someone you "love"

giving him the CHANCE to change is too much

hes an animal and needs jail time and to be DIShonorably discharged from military duty

I'm still kind of confused. Every time he hits me, and I begin to cry, he puts his head in his hands and gets all depressed and sad. I don't know if it's an act or what??

Talk to him to see what is wrong. But if he does hit you or abuse you again end it....

get him some help! an anger management class is good. talk to him how you feel too. if he really does love you he would think of what he was doing... and thought of you first, but instead he took action before thinking. but hey, it might be better to leave him...

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You sure this guy doesnt have any metal problems??? Not trying to be mean but my brother is bipolar and he beat his girlfriend ad possibley even raped her too...

Get outta the situation before he kills you! It may sound harsh but someone like that could do serious damage!!!

Maybe he just can't control himself. maybe he has all this anger and he aciddently takes it out on you. and after he sees you crying, he realizes what he's doing and such. i still agree with what i said earlier. you need to talk to him. but make sure someone's next to you just incase he decides to absuse you again.

Leave him.
Now.
I've been there, done that.
If you don't leave now it WILL get worse.
I'm sorry to see it happen to someone else.
Good luck to you.

you need to break it off with him now! if he loves you, he wouldn't hurt you like this, what if he ends up killing you? think about it. listen, there's other guys out there. you shouldn't be with him just b/c you've gone out with him for such a logn time. but seriously, END IT. and he needs help.

this relationship is not worth it... read this book: dreamland by: sarah dessen.

what will happen if he gets really angry and....well....(i dont wanna freak you out or anythingy but...) kills you, i mean if he can hit you now and you go back maybe he would try more and more stuff just cuz he can get away with it, but i dunno just be careful and dont be alone with him (easier said than done but still) just try

thats horrible advice

we just had this in lecture yesterday in my Soc 350: Soc of marraige and family class

ABUSE DOES NOT STOP! it is chronic, not a 1 time thing

he WONT change, he WILL still get mad and abuse you

he NEED help and JAIL TIME


I have been a firefighter and EMT for starting my 5th year now, and every abuse case I see I see again...it is NOT a 1 time thing

I would end it. Your friends and ur parents don't want 2 c u beaten up lyke taht. health comes before luv. I don't think he'll change. people's personalitiy are very hard 2 change. Trust me on this one.

I seriously think you should end it even though he says sorry and everything....do you really want to continue to get hurt all the time? I'm sure you can do better than that. =/

end it now.

doenst matter if he regrets it after or cries about it and begs for his forgiveness.

he still did it.

I think you need to get out of there, girlfriend. And fast! Your parents are already worried about your injuries, how do you think they will feel when he, God forbid, knocks you into a coma, or kills you? Tell your parents about it, tell someone you trust, call 911, do something! Just because he regrets his actions doesn't make it ok.

ew ... wth is wrong with him. report him if i ever met him i would take a bat & beat him down .. then kick him in the balls and skip away. no offense if you love him and all, but he deserves it there are other fish in the sea. leave him asap. no one wants to learn that you were seriously injured

hm...talk to him about it first...but if he does it one more time after you talk to him..end it I'd end it right now..but..since you "love" him...talk to him......for your own good good luck

beat the shit out of himm ...wat the f.cuk u doing just taking all this!?? o_O

END IT...NOW

he might get all depressed and what not AFTER he hits you, but that doesnt take away a broken arm and a bruised cheek. he is messed up. get him counseling. he was probably abused as a child or something, and now he's taking it out on you. get away from him. and tell him to get some help. but mainly get away from him

wow... you really shouldn't take that from him. i dont see how he could to that to you if he loves you... maybe it's cuz from being in the army's affected him? either talk with him about it, go to counceling (kind of drastic but still) or just let him go... you could get even more hurt

Doesn't he have enough violence in his life already from the damn military?
But anyways.. end it ASAP. If he really wants to be with you, then he wouldn't hit you and he wouldn't rape you. You need to call the police and get his ass in jail.. and if/when you break up with him, have someone with you in case he gets violent and tries to hurt you. I'd also suggest getting a restraining order against him. Good luck

He's a really big muscular guy...He could kill me if he wanted to...

i think he loves you, seriously, like loves you deep down inside. but he really needs help. if you love him and are willing to stand by him, then maybe you should help him.. like counseling or something..

btw, no one should be abusive towards you. take action now, cuz it mite get worse.

o yea, and i think you should tell your parents. SOMEONE needs to know.

1. He might be bipolar.
2. I know you love him but get out.
3. He will never change. As much as he says he will HE WON'T.
4. Leave him for the sake of your daughter. It's the best for her.

you should end it and tell the police cuz i think the can go to jail 4 that ..... good luck!