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angelic_grl
So..um...4 ppl that want 2 know wut true luv REALLY is, here it is: (i got this off myjellybean.com , so yah)

1. Did this thing happen all of a sudden?
Real love does not happen all of a sudden. When people say they fell in love "at first sight", they mean they found each other very attractive. Sometimes we have a picture in our head of the perfect guy, and then when we meet someone who looks, talks and acts like our ideal we think it's true love. It's not! Attraction can develop into love, but it takes time to grow.


2.Would you be very jealous and upset if someone else made a serious play for him?
Jealousy is not a sign of love. Jealousy is more about a person's own insecurity than how they feel about another person. As a result, we can often feel jealous or possessive of someone we don't really love, or even someone we don't really know.


3.When you aren't together, do you find yourself mooning around, unable to do much except sigh over him?
Spacing out and sighing are signs of infatuation, not love. Real love is centered around the other person - you get happy from being with them, and you're happy when you're on your own too. Infatuation, on the other hand, is self-centered. You get wrapped up in your misery at not being with a guy. People doing this are more in love with the idea of love than with a person.


4.Are you more in love when you are together than when you are by yourself?
Love shouldn't get less strong when you are away from the loved one. If you love a boy more when you are with him, chances are that your judgment is being influenced by the charm and excitement of his presence.


5.Do you honestly feel that the boy is just about the Most Perfect Person in the world?
Love is not really blind - it's about knowing a person's faults and loving them anyway. No one's perfect, so if you think your guy is a saint, chances are it's infatuation, not love.


6.Are you generally unhappy at home with your parents?
Believe it or not, an unhappy home life can trick you into thinking you're in love. It's tempting to throw yourself into a guy's arms to escape from the pressures of a bad home. But if that sounds like you, you're not in love - you just want out.


7.Do you know how your sweetie feels about his future, and what he plans to do with his life?
Two of the most important things in a lasting relationship are knowing and respecting each other's views on this topic. If you haven't talked about either of them yet, chances are your romance hasn't reached the real love stage.


8.Do you find that, when it comes to this boy, you get very nervous and anxious about appearing your best - that you are much more conscious than usual about what you say and how you look and act?
Love doesn't make people uncomfortable about themselves. If you're that worried about making a good impression, you haven't reached the real love stage yet. When you do, you will know you are loved for who you are, and you will feel relaxed and yourself in the boy's presence.


9.Do you share a lot of common aggravations, about parents, school and other things in your life?
Being companions in misery is not the same as being in love. People in love should be able to share miseries, but that's not all it takes to equal love. It's easy to get confused and feel like it's love if you're clicking on what you both hate about the world. But what's really happening is you've found a partner in sadness -love is about finding a party in happiness.


10.Suppose the guy in your life went on a long trip and wrote you beautiful and affectionate letters. Would you show these around in your group?
Love is a private bond between two people. If you rush to tell your friends every intimate detail of your relationship, you may get some status in your group but you're also proving that it's not real love.

There was also a quiz on this..i'll put up the syte later...
HelloSunshine
hm..I think true love can be defined by the people in love...well...that's myopinion...
sharerol
Personally, I don't think love can be defined. I mean, I don't know the actual meaning, so yeah. But it will come, so you just gotta wait for it. Oh btw, I didn't read any of that except for the first paragraph. tongue.gif
angel-roh
true love means showing sacrifices to that person. giving everything you got and also forgiving what they have done in the past period
cleec
I don't think there is any way to define true love, it is an emotion that each person feels differently. That person is the only one that knows if they feel that true love for someone else, there is no dictionary definition, nothing. It is a feeling, it just exists. You gotta discover it on your own.
mouse_3k
The only way to define love is when u fell it. Nice definitions though.
dani41790
wow. i guess thats true O_o
KingdomHeartsFan
When it comes 2 love we r our worst judges...but if we look wuts truly inside our heart, we will see the answer in front of us. oh my gosh. sumtimes i cry wen i say things lyke that....
teenprincess
I don't think they're giving a definition they're just telling you that if you act a certain way then your not truly in love.

But I kinda disagree with that, people are different, and act differently when in love.
xo b0o b0o
cute. _smile.gif
yoohgotpangd
I guess that that thing is somewhat true but hey, what do I know ? >.<
ComradeRed
Love is like pornography: I can't define it, but I know it when I see it.

What a messed up analogy.
weirdness
i think theres more than just one kind of love. mellow.gif

in this case i agree with angel_roh. i think love means sacrificing things for the other person
DorkFahSho
love is mysterious..love just happens....
br0ken smile
I don't think love can be defined / explained. It just happens and you know it when you experience it
sweetdreamsx3
Have you ever experienced love? If you have, you would know it's none of that BS up there.
MrElsewhere
love cannot be rationalized. it is possibly the most abstract thing ever. the person that wrote this was obviously a girl. Those things up there are ways to tell how you aren't in love. but none of those tell the reader how to tell if he/she is in love.
rockmyx
LOVE throb.gif

Their is no universal definition of this term. It has a different meaning to each person thought out history. No body has really undestand why a person become attracted to someone and not someome else. ohmy.gif


My own definition of love throb.gif

Love- it means falling but not strumbling, being constant but not too persistent,
sharing and never being unfair, understanding and not trying to demand_ hurting without keeping the pain wub.gif
sharerol
I don't think you can define the meaning of love until it actually happens...
bibliomania
Symptoms and definitions of love differ depending on the person in love.

Love is a mystery.
stephinika
yeah lists like those are partly true, but not for everyone. every person(s) different. it all depends. there is no actual "set of rules" for love.
Rachel
QUOTE(stephinika @ Dec 6 2004, 12:48 AM)
yeah lists like those are partly true, but not for everyone. every person(s) different. it all depends. there is no actual "set of rules" for love.

exactly.

and please if your going to make another topic about love, spell it correctly...how could it be true love if you dont even know how to spell.

luv=childish
love=correct =)
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