okay, so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 10 months now, and we really -really- do care about each other, and people know that. and everyone is always asking us if we've had sex yet, and no- we havent. and people find it hard to believe, but i dont know if its them that are just shallow, or if im really that pathetic. we're both only 14, and its not that i dont 'love' him enough, i just think im still young. i doubt ill wait until im married, but i think 14 is young. im pretty innocent actually, i mean we've done things, but not over the top. i just dont know if we're ready, or if im even ready. or if he is at that, we really respect each other and i wouldnt want to screw anything up.

i just wanted to know what anyone else thought about it. i know hes worth it, but i wanted to get other peoples point of view. what would you do?

well since you think 14 is too young to have sex ( i think so too) then wait. don't care what others say, just do what you think is best for you.

i hope i've helped

awe sweet puppy love. I think you should keep it that way for the time being. If you don't know if you feel ready, then you're not ready! What are your bf's view on this? You should talk to him about it. Because yea 14 is young to be having sex in my opinion. It could lead your mind to wonder about other things.. and at your age you should be focusing on school. Just talk to your bf about it.

awws =] well, its considered to b a young age, but many at this age already had it. i guess its better off not having it yet when you're able to control and keep it that way. since you seem to believe you're too young, and he respect that, then you should just keep it the way it is, dont have sex yet.

i wouldn't so early on. maybe it's because i was brought up that way, or it's so uncommon around here (small town), but..i think that's too young personally.

i think thats good of you to wait. yes you're young, and if you and him aren't ready, then don't do it. its simple. who gives a rats ass what everyone says. if you don't want to, then don't. its your lives. i'm almost 16 and i've been with my boyfriend just over a year now, and we certainly haven't had sex. and we won't be very soon i can assure you.

i think its good that you want to wait! i agree 14 is a bit young... but on the other side since he is worth it that isnt bad either. whatever you decide to do juss make sure its really what YOU want to do!

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if u both feel that its right, then go for it. but after yall break up, u will feel sorry and wished u saved it fo someone else. maybe weait a couple months?

You know, you might regret it. That's the downside. There are people who do regret it. I mean, even if you care about him. Do you believe in premaritial sex?

You know, there's this girl who dated a guy who was a little older than her. Actually, i'm nto sure how much older lol. Anyway, he tricked her and made her believe that he was still a virgin. So he dated for for a long time and then he said that he "loved" her and then he said that he loved her so much that he wanted to have intercourse with her. And bleh some other stuff happened and then she and him had sex. She was still a virgin, but she really thought he loved her and turns out, she was a "hit and run" victim lol. He had sex with her then broke up with her. Turns out, he wasn't a virgin and yea she was really angry about that.

I know this isn't really that much relevant to your case, but I mean, you never know. You should save it until you and him have bee together longer. Yes, you both are only 15. Ask yourself this, do you honestly want to have sex at such a young age? People may think differently of you once they find out that you and your boyfriend had fooled around and had sex. If you truly think you'll be together with him forever, then go ahead. But remember, things can change. So don't do something you'll end up regretting. You have your whole life to enjoy the beauty of love.. and sex... lol. Don't rush into something. :] Just some advice.

just KNOW that you wont regret it later on... like EVEN IF you broke up u'd think it was worth it cause it was "him" your 14 your old enough to take ur own respnsibilities.

pshht my old best friend and her boyf have been together for almost 2 years now but her boyf has never even fingered her. she was born '90 and he was born year '89. so yah. not everyone has to have sex.

ever read the book "what happend to nancy?" Be careful.


Anyways, 14 is to young, im sorry but..14 u can hardly get your permit its, in my honest opinion, and yes i can be wrong but, to me 14 is way to young to really know for real if you love him that much to lose something that u can never give to anyone eles.

Sex isnt needed to make a relationship great if your with some one you truly care about. sex just adds to the experiance, but true love doesnt involve a bed or a table counter, true love only needs the heart of 2 to be intertwined when looking into their eyes, feeling their embrace, or savoring their kiss. Sex isnt needed in a realtionship at 14, and if it ever gets to the point where its sex up or break up, just end it because its not worth getting a desise or the emotional hurt.

so anyways..yeah..14 is to young..i say wait till u get married or u get older, but i mean, 14? no way

Love is worth it..but errr..thats a kinda big step....and it should be sacred.....not should should..but why dont you wait a few more years...like say two or three..and see waht u tihnk then..i mean...there are consequences to these things...so i guess time will tell you more than i can.

ok so ppl r like " OMG U HAVENT DONE IT YET"... rigghtt.. like THEY HAVE?..seriously... 14 is a bit young... im 14 myself... n i havent done n e thing wit a guys yet... I GOT MY FIRST HUG TODAY FOR GOD'S SAKE.....so if u think YOUR pathetic... then what am i? lmao i dont really care what other ppl think though... id rather die a virgin than do it when i dont want to.