Premarital sex is perfectly OK, just don't do it when you're like, twelve or something. Or with someone you just met.

My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and we haven't had sex yet (apparently he won't till I'm 18, whaaatever), but if we do, I'm not gonna punish myself over it. Besides, I wouldn't want the most awkward time in my life to be on my wedding night...the first time is weird, so I've heard, especially if neither person knows what they're doing. I kind of want some practice so the wedding night is niiiiice.

Knowing about your partner's sexuality is also a huge bonus.
If you're going to marry someone, if you're really going to make that sort of legal and philosophical commitment, then it would probably be best if you knew that person as well as you possibly could. That means everything. That means trying to understand their sexual identity. Have sex before you get married, it only makes sense.

I mean, what if your significant other happens to be an emetophiliac? Definitely something to know before you make a life long commitment to them. Yeah. Seriously.

Or what if they like to have buttsex, and you don't like to have buttsex? I don't like to have buttsex. WHAT IF JOHN LIKES TO HAVE BUTTSEX



Very sorry, I had to...you would have done the same to me.

Don't knock it until you try it. Or something like it.
Nicole use to like it, but then I broke up with her. Things change after you hurt someone, mainly stories.

But, yeah. Good point.

i did it..
however, i wish i could take it back.

i had premarital sex.. not gona lie... its against my faith but i did it still... even wen my grandmother told me u'll go to hell ashely if you have sex before ur married... lmfao do u think i cared about what she said... lol uhh no i did it still and THERES nothing wrong w. it either

K well im a virgin but i think you should have sex before you get married. I mean , you can still have sex with somone you care about but i think you should live and have sex with somone before you marry them , being that physical and sexual with somone will probibly affect how you feel about them right? like i said its not like im experienced but wouldn't you want to know everything about the guy or girl you are marrying before you marry them?
what if they become abusive or somthing? You should really only get married once so make sure he or she is the one ...

premartial sex is a yes for me. if you truly feel you love the person, then by all means go for it. if it ends up being crappy, then you learn. i don't see the sense in waiting for marriage.

Sorry! I missed this post.

Yes, lightly. I was referring to something I was once told - that viriginity is the greatest gift you can give your partner on your wedding night and it should not be 'given away lightly' - without due consideration.

I can't say what divorce has to do with it all though.

Yeah, but most marriages these days end with divorce. So chances are, you're not going to be with the person you save it for and marry forever. So why save it for marriage? Save it for love.

I dont think premarital sex is ok you should be committed to who you have sex with because you never know weather or not they are just useing you.


but if I did have sex before marriage it would ONLY be if I met

Daniel Radcliffe


or


Milo Ventimiglia

What if you got married when you were, like, thirty?
You'd have such a boring life if you didn't have sex..... not that I'd know
But seriously, some people are with their partners for years and years before they get married. I don't see why it's such a big deal having sex before you're married. And I'm Christian, although not a really strong one.

ok if you have been with them for a couple of years with the STRONG intent of marriage then that is ok. but if it is just a couple of months you should be cautious because you never know if they are just using you.

I don't usually have a sexual relationship with a girl before were dating, but after we've been dating...in short, yes I do practice pre-marital sex, I'd rather know if the person I'm with can please me before I marry them, plus I'm only 16 and I've only got one life to live, I'm gonna live it up before I settle down.

Premarital sex = <3

Why not?

Why yes?

Why maybe?

I don't believe in premarital sex. I think the best gift you can ever give your husband/wife is your virginity. It's special because they're the only ones who've touch you in a sexual way. It show that you respect your body and you don't let anyone mess on it.

Guys can always lie about premarital sex.
To every girl that I haven't banged...they think i'm a V.
Most girls get a rush out of taking a guys flower.

WTF are you talking about? I don't want no one minute man.

Yeah, but what if you're in love? Actually in love, not one of those idiotic teenage relationships where you're together for three months. You may not always end up marrying the one you were crazily in love with. Maybe some people won't get married at all. Why dictate a specific lifestyle? People are different.

But if you REALLY loved someone wouldn't you wait and get married? It's not worth it... the ultimate expression of love is giving someone your virginity... and then you break up eventually?

Oh sweetheart, sex rarely ends up being the "ultimate expression love". You only live once, don't deny yourself pleasure to give a guy (unlikely he will be a virgin too)your "sacred" gift.

Oh sweetheart, sex rarely ends up being the "ultimate expression love". You only live once, don't deny yourself pleasure to give a guy (unlikely he will be a virgin too)your "sacred" gift.

I personally don't want to get married until I'm 30-35. Why would I not share the "ultimate expression of love" with the person I'm with right now if I'm in love? Why wait over 10 years? Besides, there are other ways to express love.. in deeper ways. Like dedicating a concert to someone =)

Whoa, enough of the patronising tones, my dear.

Now, taking the tack of only living once: why live with a mistake? Better to look back upon a life lived responsibly and morally than one lived simply for pleasures of the flesh. Your call though.

Sex is traditionally the 'ultimate expression of love'; and I do wonder about you if you think a concert has any more meaning that making love. Strange.

Of course it does. Call me weird, but performing a two-hour recital for me is much deeper than having sex. You say much more with a piece of music.

Must have been terrible sex, that's all I'm saying!

So I expect you know what it's like to perform on stage on a brand new Steinway, in a hall in front of 500 people? =) I don't expect you to agree with me, because you haven't been where I've been. The sex was amazing, fyi. Not like you'd know, though.. =)

I'm calling you out on this one as I've done a fair share of theatre and amateur acting work in the past.

I wouldn't know, no. But if that was better than I feel disappointed already...

I'm an unmarried non-virgin, and I don't really think too much of it. I've only genuinely liked two guys in my life, so I don't regret giving myself up. Sex, to me, isn't about the sacredness of my body. It's about engaging in something intimate you can't do with your friends (or as romantically, at least, if that's your thing), and it's in that moment two people can feel as if they've let their guards down and they're focused only on each other.

I'm not married but that's because I don't believe marriage means anything important other than reduced taxes, a contract, and a few vows because divorce is always an option.

My friend's mom always told my friend and I to never marry a guy you can't look in the face when you're having sex. Sad, shallow, but great wisdom she held.

Amateur acting is different than being a professional musician..

I shouldn't even try explaining this. Sex is something amazing when shared between two people in love. But I'm saying that performing for me is something more emotional.. I don't think I should be comparing the two. My initial statement was supposed to mean that sex isn't the only "ultimate" way to express your love for someone. And there's nothing wrong with having it when you're with someone who means so much to you.

SEX IS GREAT! I need some.

Kay fine whatever. I just think that sex is something not to be thrown away lightly. It shouldn't be just because you love the feeling.

Valid points though

Of course. One of my (dumb) friends lost her virginity to her first boyfriend on their first date because she thought "that's what people do".......

If we're in love, we will get married and then have sex. If the guy loves me for me he will wait for me.

I said it earlier in this post (I think) but it's a good idea to try it before you buy it.
I understand the religious aspect and if you are really that devout, that's cool.
I just think that if you are engaged, been together for years, and are really going to spend your life together you deserve some sexy time. It's letting your guard down completely, and relationships change after having sex.
What if you marry a man that only wants sex once a month but you want it every day? You can say that it'd be okay, but sex is important and after 50 years of getting it 12 (maybe more if you get extra on holidays) times a year someone is going to find a way to relieve that tension.

What's that face for?
I'm sure it happens...

lol, yeah, possibly

But, the point remains.
If you have drastically different sex drives it's not good.

I was raised in town where sexual promiscousness prowls around almost every corner and most of my homegirls were HOmegirls. Still I treated them like the good friends they are. At one point in my life, I even forgot about the idea that sex was not to be had before marriage. But yeah, sex is an important factor in any relationship and if you're talking about a lifelong commitment, it should be the best. So like they say, practice, practice, practice. Safe sex, of course.

Not really. If you marry someone, you have the rest of your lives to practise and catch up with everyone else that threw it away first date style-y.

I say stylie all the time! I have never seen anyone else use it!

that could possibly the dumbest thing i've heard of.



good sunday school answer



no such animal.

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i'm going to have to side with angelinataylor here, but add on that performing a solos and duet concert with that one guy... or even just rehearsing sometimes, to me, can be a lot more intimate than sex.

i don't mean orchestral rehearsals or bogus, i mean those foreverlong rehearsals with just you and the other person, perfecting something you both love together. i don't think anything else in the world can contest all the work you put into that, for the other person, for yourself, for the music.

i don't know how to put any of this.

OMG. The number of times I've heard this line. If you choose to wait for 'your husband till death do you part' fine. There are people who choose not to. I, personally, do NOT want to get married. So what should I do? Become a nun? No, hun.
Sex is passionate, intimate, yadi yada. I don't see why you need marriage to be passionate. Love doesn't = marriage. This is where you guys are really wrong.

Keeping yourselves for ONE guy or for marraige is good but don't condemn those that don't. =)

Exactly.

There's no condemnation here. Only a mild eyebrow raise.

I think it's okay. Most people say "no" but they do it themselves anyway. Do they not believe in what they say?