Honestly, I think it's okay as long as you're 100% ready & really love that person you're having it with.

listen to your parents. its that easy. no is no.

it's a no. i don't want to get pregnant or get and STDs. it's not worth it.

Well I have to say yes && no.. I'm still confused whether I should wait or not.. It's a very hard choicr to make.. && temptation is such a bitch sometimes && get mess with the teenage hormones so much!!.. x_X IT'S CRAZZZYYY!!

l wont do it

l respect girls

and l can wait.

true loves wait !

This topic is pretty tense.
I need to loosen this up a little bit...

Once wrong with you guys?
Don't say no to sex.
Making it sound like sex is a bad thing.

Wheres the option for HELLLLL YEAHHHHHH for sex?

Yeah, the answer depends on the person. A lot of people use religion as an answer, saying that it's immoral to have sex before marriage because God didn't intend sex to be used that way.

If I were to answer no, it's not okay, I would simply say that I wouldn't want to have sex before marriage because it wouldn't be as special the first time with my new husband.

But in reality, I think it's okay. For me at least. Who knows, my mind might change.

my opinion:
yes and no
yes- why not? you are gonna have urges anyway, and it seems nowadays with most guys, hard to not have sex before you get hitched
no- if you have sex before you're married, what's so different about marriage, like what is there to wait for? and then there's all the stds...
i still cant decide.

sex b4 marriage isnt a yes or no thing. theres the temptation to go along with it. and temptation can get baaad. im christian, by bf is a strong christian. i think we both believe that sex should be after marriage, but its hard to not do stuff sometimes.

yeah...i'm fine with premarital sex. heck, if you love the person and are completely comfortable with them then go ahead. it's a different story when you go around screwing anything that walks and don't care about it.

oMgz uR lyK gUnNa g0 2 hEll iF u HaVe SeX b4 MaRReJe!1!!1!!!

I'm not really for it, only if you're ready. Ready means that you know the consequences-- pregnancy, STDs, one night stand, etc.

well .. i dont think its is such a terrible thing to have sex before you are married .. i mean ..yea its bad for 12 year olds to do it, they dont really understand all of the consequences and diseases you can get .. but if u are in love than why not .. my boyfriend and i have been together for a while and have had sex .. but just remember to always use a condom .. or u may end up liek this girl in my brothers grade ( 8th grade) and shes goin to have a baby in jjuly

depends on the people's beliefs. depends if the people are ready.

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I don`t think it should.

Although I grew up in a traditional Chinese family where sex before marriage was seen as being on the same level as being homosexual...which is on the level of being very bad. I have nothing against either of them. While my parents believed that having sex before you're married or being homosexual is morally wrong, I don't quite agree with them. You are who you are. If you want to have sex before you're married, then it's your decision. If you're homosexual, that's just the way you are too.

My view on sex before marriage is that it's acceptable...just make sure that you know what you're doing. Save your first time for someone that really deserves it. Hence, don't lose it to some random guy/girl that you don't even have feelings for. And play it safe. Know about the risks, and do the proper precautions against the risks. Make the first time special. Sex before marriage is completely fine, as long as you play it safe and know what you're getting yourself into.

no.........

I believe it's wrong, but that's me. Actually according to the Old Testament in the Bible, the first person you had sex with was the one you were to marry. The marriage today is just a legal ceremony. If you live with some one for ten years you're sent a certificate saying that you are married. So, in a sense it's not wrong, but people today don't view it like that. They view it strictly for pleasure. I am really suprised actually how many people said 'No.' That's nuts.

In the Old Testament, men sometimes sleep with many different people, too. Is that something we should all be doing?

seems like you always quote Jake.

I feel sorry for him.
It doesn't matter anyway.
What one person says isn't going to change the world never has. You can say any example it has never changed the whole world. It changes some of the ways but it doesn't change every persons belief or opinion. Yes its morally wrong. But if someone wants to have sex then their going to have sex. Simple as that.

yes, but it doesnt say that its right... it simply states the fact, the bible has many examples of people that don't follow gods law, and how it effected them.

the way i view it, is that it is my decision when im ready to have sex. i have made that decision and i dont regret it either. i understand the consequences and i deal with them...it should me the persons choice of when they are ready. not just because a legal ceremony...

yes well the perfect case is where we wait till marriage with our true lover
and have sex for the first time
and it feels soo good cuz we`ve waited so long until marriage


... i`d like that too, but it`s just not really realistic sometimes


and i used to say i will wait until marriage,
and i still want to,
but i can`t say for certain that i can do it

ppl say they`ll wait for sure
but sometimes it`s because they haven`t loved someone so deeply before
and then it becomes easy to promise not to have sex before marriage
but once u`ve had an intimate relationship with someone, it becomes harder

i`m not saying premarital sex is right
i think it`s best to save it for someone
but wat if u don`t get married?
i mean, there are endless "wat if`s"
and the best way is to take them one at a time

bottom line for me: no sex before 18, but after that, when i feel i`m ready, i won`t hold back

Meh. If it happens it happens.

personal choice

its not just right or wrong

of course not okay.. but it can get VERY tempting at times....


self control.. self control.. =)

who cares?

maybe..

If you think its the time for this to happen.. If you lov ethe person that much go for it if not dont.

Its all up to you... Free will is a bitch.. I know.

i agree with you

It's okay if you're willing to take the consequences after that. If there are any, that is.

Taylor``

Well i think it depends on how the 2 people feel, me and my girlfriend dont care much about sex after marrage i dont think, were just more of a "when where ready and have our own place" i wouldnt mind after marrage nor would i mind when were settled in, but id rather us be ready before anything. Yeah it depends anyway

...you didnt read my journal entry yesterday did you? i specifically saidddd! when we're married and settled down, andd financially stable :)

as you can tell, sex isnt one of my priorities people =P

there are consequences to everything...

Good quote from Weather Man... "David, sacrifice is... to get anything of value, you have to sacrifice."

so true...

^ Oh.. Are there consequences to.. me typing this? =P

^pshh yeaaa
because i'm going to reply

Darn.
I was hoping to get away with it.

Wow, is there a few new smilies or is it just me?

Oh, I already answered this topic, so.... I couldn't really stay on it =x

It all comes down to your values. For me, I'm abstaining until marriage. But that's just what I believe in.

your values. your lifestyle. your choice. put me down as a maybe.

It's a hard decision. It really is.


I'm crazy in love with my guy. And we recently set up a couple appointments- to see if we had anything transmittable and to get me on birth control. But even with all that in the works, we're still unsure if this is really a step we want to take.

I recently read an article about premaritial sex and how its on the rise. A contributing factor to that was that people are getting married later. When people were getting married around 17 or 18, teenage sex was acceptable. But now most kids put off marriage to finish their studies. So while your grandparents can say they stayed abstinent till they were married, if they married at 18 and they're telling you this when you're 19, it doesn't really help, does it?

I think it depends on your beliefs and opinions and on your maturity. I personally believe the bible on how its wrong and ya know all that stuff...but just because I believe it doesnt mean that is the right way...I think maybe when your ready your ready. married or not. Just an opinion

whoa..old topic.

I say no because the relationship gets based on sex rather than love or whatever emotion is felt for each other.

In the Western Civilizations, generally society doesn't care. In the Eastern Civilizations... they have morals, family values, respect for one another, and especially most importantly faith in their religions.

Having sex before marriage is a pretty serious thing... but hey in the U.S. alone, sex sells... just watch some MTV and BET you'll see plenty of sexual acts. Bring that shit to the Middle East and Lil Jon would have his head cut off :D

Islamic law is a beautiful law


I voted no, though I have and still do... if I could start over, I would stay away from sex and pay attention to more important things in life. Once I found the girl I'm currently with... then I would only because she's gonna be my wifey anyways :)

It's not for me but I am not here to judge you or tell you what is right for you. I don't know why but I would rather wait. A lot of people I know have already had sex and they lost their virginity in Middle School. I guess I just wasn't mature enough yet.

if you want sex, have sex. If you think youre gonna go to hell for it. Then I'd advise you not to. One day you might land on a gospel channel and hear a song that sounds like it was made for you to feel bad, and you will regret it.




lmao, you probably just wasted 10 seconds of your life. lol





Uh oh I see you

Even though I am going to wait to have sex with my boyfriend until we get married, I chose that premarital sex is okay. In my opinion, if you are going to have sex, you just have to love someone. And love is not defined by marriage, it's just defined by, well, the love that you two share. For part of my life I wasn't even thinking about getting married, I would just have a boyfriend and not tie either of us down (I was really just paranoid about the divorce rates, plus I did not want to have a wedding and get my relatives all riled up). I think part of it is that if you get married, people think that you are dedicated enough to the person and that marriage means you are in love, but that simply isn't true. Just look at how many people get divorced. And just because you wait until marriage to have sex it doesn't mean your relationship will be better for it.

I believe that premarital sex is okay if you have been with the person a long time, know them very well and their history, and love them very much. The reason I'm waiting until marriage with my boyfriend is because we want to wait until we are older and mature enough, and our marriage will mark the point when we are mature enough. I'm not doing it simply for religious beliefs or anything.

Basically, sex is about love, not marriage. Some people just have a very, very distorted view on what love is, so sometimes waiting for marriage is a better choice to make sure both of you aren't doing it simply for the sex. Haha, I guess you could say it's a good way to wield out the jerks .

I say who cares. If you love the person..lol then go for it..if your in highschool..dont go for it.

It depends on what you call it a marriage.

Is it when you fall madly in love with another person and vow to love him/her and cherish him/her...

or

When you have a typical fancy ceremony and collect a certificate from the government?


HMMMM

YOU DECIDE.

I think you know what I think.

Let me spill this out to all of you who read this..

I am getting alot of the same questions and thoughts on this, and for my thoughts on this.. I understand the causes of sex, and what will bring..

Personality as for the readings about doctors and religion and all this stuff I hear people talking about, and studies..The only way you will be effected or get aids and all that stuff is if your not protected or your not using a condom, yes sometimes things happen it may break if your not careful, but before you do anything like having sex..

Make sure your partner is clean, make sure you go to the doctor and get a check up and see if you are effected before you do so.. The best way to be safe is to protect yourself, use a condom and make sure your partner is clean and you are to, these are ways and steps to protect yourself..

If you want information and ways to be safe.. You can read about it on sites and ways to show you things you need to learn..

The reason why people do what they do is because everyone does it..Also they don't protect them self's, and that is why people are pregnant and then also jumping from partner to partner doing the same stuff, also spreads disease and other things.. You honestly don't know the facts and what really shows..

Also about religion.. I know if your a Christian and want to follow God's rules and do what is right.. I think saving self for marriage is good and yes its in the books and all that, but sometimes in life..We make mistakes, things happen and so God said in the bible he will forgive you for your sins or for what you done wrong..

We all make mistakes, where not perfect, and some people who go around to have sex for the hell of it, by meaning doing it because they want to and not really being safe or protected about it..Chances are.. You live up to the reasonability to go through consequences in the actions you did by not doing what was right..

That is what is shows.. If you read what it talks about the causes and studies shown.. You will know the true facts, its all in there.. You just have to be wise and have wisdom and know what your doing..

-Annah

i think it really depends on the relationship and if you're ready for it and it's possible not consequences. but that's just me. the purpose of sex in marriage (according to the Bible) say its for procriating.. and if youre not going to do so.. then what are you waiting for?

moooo???

Well me this is going to sound so weird but i think its ok i mean who cares it sex yu going to have it anyways one way or the other .But i would reccomend you wait for the right person.