I agree with you. But I don't get the beer thing, what are you talking about beer makes a difference? huh?

Anyway, I agreew ith the rest, you have to be prepared for the concequences...and ya, I'm athiest too, so I like the way you put it.

if there is no GOD. then you say we are just here to live life [and how ever u want it] and die. is that all we are here for? there must be a higher power.

I believe she's saying that over-consumption of beer and other liquors makes you do things you wouldn't ordinarily do.

umm..how bout no...goodness...it should be banned! haha ok let me stop..thats just my opinion =*)

i would definitely say yes. premarital sex is just 2 tempting lol

this is about getting screwed by another person.. oh wait, i guess religion does factor in that.

^Go you. I agree.


I think one of the main reasons why people are against premarital sex is that sex is supposed to be something meaningful, and once you get married, it ensures (usually) that your partner is someone who you love and want to spend your life with. If you have premarital sex, it makes the whole thing less...what's the word I'm looking for? Cherished, sort of. I mean, if your husband and you were both virgins, doing it together would make it more loving and meaningful.


Personally, I think it's up to the person to decide. Want to have sex before marriage? Want to wait until after marriage? Your decision, it's only you that will be affected most.

there are religious opinions on the matter...and i can't say i've agreed on you on much of anything

however, freshman year we had to do a project interviewing people about what they thought made a marriage work, and my friends and i could definitely not understand those who said that God was the most important thing in their marriage. Uh, you're not married to Him...

^Actually God is the BIGGEST factor not just in marriage but in ANY relationship. He's the reason people stay together. I would have broken up with my b/f a long time ago if it werent for me praying about things in my relationship

Well I've been dating this guy for 3 years now...& its gotten pretty close but i'm VERY proud to say that I AM a virgin! & Its not about all this stuff about having sex with the "wrong person" Its just ........Sex is the renewal of wedding vows. But if there aren't any vows there to be renewed....then its a LIE...Its like ur LYING to the other person about ur love. B/c u never committed to this person...not really...not in God's eyes! & my boyfriend and I spend many nights just talking & holding one another & we're in LOVE big time....without sex...& although he does NOT want to wait for marriage...he respects my decision & says he will wait for me

I voted moo since I really had no clue what it meant.

Thank God I don't believe in God!

I say do what feels right. NOt what feels right right now, but what you feel you can live with. If you arent ready, then wait, if you feel you are ready but you arent sure, wait. Just remember not to do it just because who you are with wants you to. Worst reason ever.

I don't really know. I think you just have to do it when you feel ready, and not because you feel like you have to or something. And you should be in love with the person. Personally, i said i'd only do it if i were either married to the guy, or been with him for 3 years, past the age of 18.

i've voted who cares.
personally i'm waiting until i get married.
but at the same time, i'm not going to sit here and preach to you about how wrong it is because that's not the way i am.
it's your own life, live it the way you want too.

I'm missing the part where God is most important. You can be celibate and atheist

I think she means to say that, if you happen to worship God, then that belief plays a big part in relationships.

i'd prefer to wait but if something happens before... why not?

No, I gathered that, but nothing she said makesit seem that God is the biggest part in relationships. I'm sure being the same religion is helpful, but not the top priority

i think premarital sex is a definite NO. no one should be doing it...but the thing is...im a hypocrite....

i lost it when i was 14 i think...and i totally regret it. i wish i've never even kissed a guy till i was married. but im also glad that i did so...now i have more knowledge on these things and i hope other teens will listen to the right thing.

i don't believe in "born again virgin"...that's just highly impossible...once it's lost, it's lost. you cannot get rid of that feeling. i wish that was possible though...maybe a way to forget + erase the past...but you can't. you have to live with it and learn from it and try to spread the word so others won't make the same mistake...

but i also feel for the other side...
i also think that you should experience before you enter the unknown. of course you do everything safely and know what you're doing.

im writing too much...imma stop...

naw...

I'd say no but I want to so badly and it's so tempting... I wonder when the day will come T__T

To me, I really don't know.
Would I wait that long, just to lose it to my soul mate?
Or would I lose it to a close boyfriend in high school or college?
But all I can do is wait, and make my choices.
Until then, I'm still thinking.
>w<

i always told myself that i wouldn't do it until i get married.... i didn't keep my word... that promise wasn't because of god or the bible or anything like that (although i'm officially a catholic, i don't really believe everything the religion has to say). i promised myself that because i didn't want to make a mistake with the guy. i didn't want to do it if i didn't really love the guy.
in the end, i did have sex with my boyfriend. when i think about it, our relationship is full of love but still, we have so many things that get between us, i.e. distance, time, parents, etc... and i don't know if we'll end up married... even with that said, i don't regret having sex with him. actually, i take that back. i don't regret "making love to him." it wasn't raw sex with no feelings at all. it was an act of love...
it's kind of like... it's now or never.... it sounds very immature but... what if you'll never be able to show him how much you love him? i'm sure there are other ways to express one's feelings but for me.. this is it.



*hides*

dont' bash me! i'm just expressing my opinion. ><

no cuz i would b sinnin and im tryin not to sin as much

Heh, sorry for you guys and gals,
I dont want to dabate or anything, i only have some words,
Lets say you didnt have any contact with anyone before marriage, you found Mr. Perfect he makes you happy and it seems to be the perfect man in your life, you do marry with him but he doesnt make you feel like a Woman in bed, he is not so good in bed, what you will do? stay with him because you married ? go out and seek for someone else to satisfy you in bed? this are things that DO happen, that's why even its not a good idea, to make yourself an idea about this "sexual life" and those you have to have contact with other men's before marriage so you know better how to choose your husband, and this way you wont be in the sittuation to cheat your husband with someone else so you can feel better or to have the satisfaction that your husband should give you and nor anyone else.
Heh, some things can't be explained in words ...

no...girls weren't intended to get pregnant during school or at a very young age, and also have the guy leave her cuz they're not married.

plus if everyone had sex with only their wife only after marriage...there wouldn't be any STDs and millions of ppl dying.

i dont think you should have sex before ur married. thats just something i believe.

well....no. But then..maybe? I'm not sure. For me? probably not. unless...hmmm.

I'd say try to hold off until marriege, cause what if some mistake happens and you get pregnant or what knot? plus wouldn't it be nice to only sleep with one person your whole life instead of knowing you slept with someone else and living with that guilt?

I'm not sure tho, so I answered maybe.

It's when you're ready that counts.

^that's true, but someone might think they're ready but they're not really ready...haha ah well that's their fault now isn't it? i just...would rather wait...haha

Why should you feel guilty for sleeping with someone else?

As a christian I thnk it's wrong. If you sleep with more than one person your going to natually compare. I wouldn't want to do that to my future husband because I wouldn't want him to do it to me.

yes yes yes yes yes.. just love the person. ♥

No, premartital sex isn't okay. It just causes more problems.. like pregnancy, trust, STDs, etc. Plus, in the Bible

1. If you practice safe sex, you can eliminate the risks. Things like condoms and birth control are there for a reason.
2. The Bible shouldn't determine your life.

I think it's ok as long as you actually love the person. I'm not religious so all of the married and god crap doesn't matter to me, just the people's feelings for each other.

Yes, it's okay IMO. It varies from beliefs and such, and I could understand saving until marriage, but IMO safe sex before marriage is alright.

Right, but a husband could just as easily leave a wife.

I say if you're ready, like you know 100% that you won't regret it the next day and you know the consequences of it, then why not? I've done it. I'm in love, and I know that wasn't meant for anyone else but him, so why should I regret it? I don't plan on doing it with anybody else, so I don't see anything wrong with it. It was my own personal choice.

....it destroys.

I've dealt with people both male and female emotionally and psychologically about this subject...

...still a virgin here....and happier than ever. I'm in no rush. I have a career to work on rather than my skills in bed. ^_^.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)-------

Hmm. Too late for some of us. In my opinion it's all good. I'm not married yet, and I'm kool lol. As long as you wrap that willy.

im 17 and im not a virgin at all!! theres nothing wrong with that at all the way i see it. but you also have to think about the effects of it too, like a kid and other things, i said i wasnt gona have sex until i was married and i did. my biggest regret to be honest.

hell yea if its what you want!!! just be safe and hav fun!!!!

errh maybe.

i dont really think itz dat wrong but no matter wut i think other ppl still do it

i used to believe sex only after marriage but since all my friends are doing it...its ok as long as its w/ a person you love who u know wont hurt you ..heh..even tho my friends are just having sex w/ whoever =\ ..but im not gonna have sex until i actually like/love the guy..blahblah ..whether its before or after marriage..

whats with the mooing? as one of our answers? lol

when one is ready when should have it. it may be at 16, 18, 20, 35... or whenever. or one may never want to do it.

imma virgin.

i always knew about the risk of getting hiv and stds but i didnt realize how EASILY it was until sex ed-- changed my whole perspective so i told myself that i would wait until marriage but if not then i would wait until i'm in a good and solid long term relationship with someone. oh, and remembering to get any possible partners tested before anything like that happens!

stay safe, guys!

For me, it really just depends on my religion. Im Catholic and we believe that sex is suppost to be saved for marriage. So no, to me, premarital sex is not ok.

Personally for me it's a no, but if someone else were to go and have sex before they were married I really wouldn't care. It's there own choice.