with me?

LMAO. Girl, that was so random, haha.

[EDIT] oh i see, you were responding to. [/EDIT]

I haven't read all this.. so forgive me if what I say has been said to death.. =)

I'm a believer in premarital sex. Not at ages as young as 13 and 14, but more around 17 or 18. I think it's totally natural for people to be exploring, and they should be comfortable with their sexuality. Sex isn't a bad thing. As long as you know what you're doing and you want to do it, I think you should go for it. I certainly don't plan to wait til I'm married. Besides, what if you got married to a guy and he couldn't please you sexually at ALL? I'm not saying it'd be basis for a divorce or anything, but it sure would put a damper on the relationship. I'd rather be comfortable with my body and who I am before I get married, but that's just me.

YES ROX!! lol. ur a weirdo haha. oh yeh pm me about how ur subbing went!

to me premarital sex is okay...i mean unless you have certain beliefs that permit you to not do that...but i believe that the person you married should have at least experience and what not...so that when you and your sponse makes love and stuff.....it will be way more easy to enjoy and rather not have all the pain...to me that is how i feel but otherwise i differ

it's okay i guess. i'd be a hypocrite if i say it's not. :S

i think its wrong... my friend had done it recently... and she is not herself anymore.... i guess sex is more crazy than we think! its more emotional than physical

Sex is something that should be shared between you and your spouse. Not only that, but think of all the nasty disease out there. Do you really want the risk of getting those? Speaking of risks, do you really want to risk getting pregnant before you planned? It will change your life and that is why I'm against premarital sex.

i dunno..its supposed to be bad but what if a guy leavesu because they think ur "boring"? i mean lots of girls give it up cause their bfs will leave them if they didnt give it up..thats happened to me..im a virgin and i plan to wait till im married but its already hard now..too much pressure...i know that if a guy leaves u just because he wasnt getting any means that he really didnt love u and care for u and respect u but some girls regret not giving it up cause they really liked that guy.....and some guys expect u to have sex with them..its like its a standard in a relationship..i heard this qoute from a guy once "u wouldn't buy a pair of shoes with out trying them on first so why would u wanna get married before u have sex first" (it went something like that)..

Yah, it depends on what u believe really. I mean, hey that's u, right? If u don't believe in god or any of that, what does it matter?

I believe in God, so I kno that it's wrong. But if I ended up doing it, I haveta face the consequences.

I would say no to premarital sex due to my beliefs buts there's always the damn temptation that will be consistently bothering until marriage...

sex is hard 2 hold off. wen u feelin it, u jus need sum release

i dont think so.. like what if the guy breaks up after they had sex, and what would the woman do?? wait.. that could happen even when they are married.. um,m.. im confoozed

i dun agree!! it's against the law in my country

when i was younger i made a promise to myself, my parents, and God that i would wait until i got married. it was just something that i wanted to do and knew it was a good choice even when i was younger. and so far ive kept my promise. im not having sex just because it says it in the bible and i must abide but thats one of the reasons why i dont do that. another is that its such a priceless gift that God has given me and its something that i want to give to my husband. i know thats corny but thats just how i feel at the moment. ppl tell me that im missing out and ive been dumped for not giving into that temptation but it doesnt phase me at all. who knows what may happen...but for now im trying really hard to keep my promise.

jackie

I disagree with premarital sex...


Every person you have sex with makes a bond between you and that person. When you get married, you aren't giving all of yourself to your spouse if you're not a virgin, because you have so many soul ties with other people. Anyway...I voted no.

i think its ok. i dont have a probalem with it. people who know me know why
anyways. i dotn mind. just prootect yourself. but its always a beautiful thing to saveit for your husband on the night you get maried.

no
points to bible

i wish i would have waited, but its really up to you, and whether you're ready or not. try looking past the moment though

Yeah...when you have sex, it's like you give part of yourself away, and what if you break up with the person? You gave away a part of yourself.

I vote no. I'm against premarital sex. SEx is a act after a marriage when you choose to give all of yourself to someone you love. But then again, people have sex before marriage, but it is their choice.

see, the thing with sex is that, if a guy does it, no one will ever know except him and the girl, if he doesn't boast about it to his friends. For a girl, there are so many risks, and when she gets married in the future, and she has her wedding night, her husband will know, and then it'll be hard for him to trust her. I mean, if she got raped, sure, he'd believe her, but if she was willing, then it's harder for there to be trust in their relationship. Guys tend to get off easy on a lot of things. So the answer for me is no.

no i dont think it is okay. i'm gonna wait until i'm married!!! thats final

"Born again virgin".....haha

I don't think that concept even exists.

It could depend... I think I might feel comfortable as long as I`m over 25. But after getting married should be fun tOo.

how will the husband know if she's had sex before if she hasn't said anything?

I think its wrong, end of story!

i don't see much wrong with it, but i guess that would be cuz of the environment i grew up around

great great great point!!! girl...you have touched my life!! I am abstinant...a lesson that I had to learn the hard way which was taught by my older sister....and now Roxanne....and yes i dont think premaritial sex is right (okay...that doesnt make any sense...but in other words no to premaritial sex)

its all up to each individual .. but i presonally believe that its alright, but as an act of real love ya`know? i also believe that there`s nothing wrong with waiting till you`re married, its a very sacred thing .. so i can understand that.

i am for premarital sex.. as long as your not over doing it.. having sex before marriage is fine as long as its with someone who means a lot to you

this is considered spamming dont do it again this a warning.

For those of you who are saying premarital sex is bad... what if like both peeps are in school and they're trying to save up to get married but haven't yet (and are planning to)... and they are *ahem* doing it... -__- Still bad? =/

yea, i think it depends on what you believe and all..
but i dont think premarital sex is ok.

but ehh.. whatever floats your boat, right?

Well, that still is premarital sex

lol iono

i say yes it is as long as you have protection and neither party is being forced into it.

yeah sex after marriage now doesn't mean anything anymore, i mean so wat marriage(it doesn't mean forever anymore)? cuz there can always be divorced and get another partner. so wat the point?
this doesn't mean i support havin' sex casually though, just if u feel like it really the time , it really the feeling then it up to u, don't let some rule or tradition get in ur way... follow ur heart

[FONT=Times][SIZE=1][COLOR=green]i think it is fine to have sex......i have done it once when i was 15 it isn't all that great...my gf and I were haveing dry sex before and it was pretty much teh same....so we decided that we weren't going to have sex anymore and we stuck to dry sex. But what is everyones take on oral sex....is that still against the bible?

the bible also says have faith in god, but who really does that now a days, anyway?

THANK THE MIGHTY BEING OF CREATION(whoever that may be) Houstan we have lift-off. Even though i am a female romanticist, I believe that if you really love the person and feel that there is a commitment there, you use protection, and both parties consent, then more power to ya. Like you said, just because you get married, doesn't mean your gonna love them more than you did two seconds before you said your vows.

i think its ok if youre in love

For some it's not okay because they are not ready/religous. For other it its ok. It all depends on the person.
For me, it's not really a big deal.

There are many viewpoints out there, some of which include the opinion that sex is all about making love and intimacy and that it should be okay because of the fact that two people just want to express their love to each other, regardless of whether they are married or not. Another viewpoint would be due to religious reasons, such as the fact that if you're a Christian, you would believe that one should abstain from primarital sex until one gets married. God had created sex as a sacred act that should be enjoyed between a man and a woman after marriage, but not before marriage.

It really depends on what your standpoint is on this situation and what you truly believe in, and everyone should be entitled to their own opinion. If you believe that it would only be proper to hold off on sex until marriage, so be it. If you believe that it would be okay to have premarital sex just to express love and committment to your significant other, so be it. But if you were to ask me, I would say to hold off on sex until marriage, and that would be from my own viewpoint of this situation.

Aside from that, you would also have to consider the consequences of having premarital sex. You could possibly contract sexually transmitted diseases from your sex partner or have an unwanted pregnancy, possibly leading to an abortion. You could decrease your chances of these problems with the use of protection, like condoms and such. But statistics show that even these methods of protection would not always work 100% of the time. The best method for prevention is abstinence.

I don't think it's okay.. you'd be in risk of getting STDs and putting yourself in a whole lot of stress by getting pregnant. not to mention.. you might ruin you're future.

eh... maybe when you're like 20sumthin... man, i'm prude

doesnt matter......their decision, not mine.

damn.. we should end the entire thread right now! lol u like... gave a thug-ke answer. hahaha

i think 85% of my friends had sex already 5-10% got pregnat. 3% actually kept it. the rest had abortion, put up for adoption, etc. but i think you shouldnt cause you never know what can happen and if you do i recommend you keep it. cause blah blah but yea longggg

true true....I think most of my friends that are under 18 have had more sex than I do.