Hey,

Im in serious need of help. YOu see, im going out with this guy who isnt completely over his old crush Vanessa. Everyone knows he's not over her. I know he isnt. When he's near her,its like he's a whole different person. He acts like a big shot and stuff. He's a really sweet guy but i dont want to break his heart like vanessa did. I really love him..but i dont know what to do. HELP!!!! Respond to this topic or go to my website plz..i need advice or someone to talk to!!!

You need to go to your boyfriend and have a chat with him. Tell him that he needs to pick. And as much as that sounds like an ultimatum, phrase it where it doesn't. LOL. Tell him that its not fair to you. But also tell him that you'll be supportive of whatever his decision is going to be. Stand by him and prove to him that you're the one he should chose. If you guys need to take a break, so that he can think it out, then do so. But don't leave his side. Stay by him and let him know that he can come to you to talk about whatever he's thinking about, and let him know you're there for him....

Hope that helped some.

let him know that yur not a second....you see him as a first choice and he should see you, his g/f as a first choice too!!!!

I doubt you really love him... if you did, I think you'd be with him long enough to get him over his old crush

i think you and him should talk you should express your feelings with each others