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DrEaMgUy2K1
Ok..... Most of you girls seem to think its a bad idea for girls to ask a guy out......

Honestly why do u think that? Are there rules written down somewhere in the girls network or some sh!t like that? Do u have facts on why its bad? Basically whats the dealio?

Me behing a guy, I honestly feel that if girls would stop being so shy and devious and just ask the guy they like out ... they're wouldnt be so much complainin about "i dont have a boyfriend" threads and stuff...and more couples out there... Alot of guys are shy,luckily im not one of em, but yes... You girls are probally gonna be waitin on the guy u like for forever...cuz he mite be too shy to ask u out...

Anyways my opinion on girls asking guys out.. I find it very attractive, it shows me that ur offensive and agressive,which in the long run is great. And it saves the both people alot of time....I'm not saying guys shouldnt ask the girls out,im just saying i think its awesome if girls would work up the same nerve as the guys have to
lilteardrop
hmm maybe girls are old fashioned? i wouldnt really want to ask a guy out. maybe cuz im shy pinch.gif
kalyps0
I don't find a problem with it...I have done it before. Though before I did it I never thought I would.
SiLLYxRUBBERduckii
i don`t have any problems with askin` a guy out, `kuz i`ve done it before
DoOdOox3
lol i agree mannn

yupp grls should stop being shy. that usually ruins everything.

i ask guys out. =]

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luckyxi3
i agree. i don`t like it when a girl tells me that it`s wrong for a girl to ask a guy out.. it`s annoying. i mean i know it`s old fashioned or "traditionally" but i don`t plan on wasting my time waiting for that guy to ask me out. there`s NOTHING wrong with girls doing asking them out. some girls are too afraid to ask because of rejection. stubborn.gif
silver-rain
QUOTE(lilteardrop @ Oct 16 2004, 12:25 PM)
hmm maybe girls are old fashioned? i wouldnt really want to ask a guy out. maybe cuz im shy pinch.gif

yeah, same here. i'm kinda old fashioned, so i would prefer it if the guy asked me out because i'll be too shy to ask him out. but, i was planning on asking a guy out, but then he asked me out first.
AngelicEyz00
Vinny will you go out with me! mellow.gif

Haha, seriously, I'd never ask a guy out. I'm not like that, I'm too shy. I fear rejection and making myself look stupid, so yeah >.<
eboarder2020
Yeah i agree with girls asking guys out... I kind of find it nice and appealing. It shows that maybe they are willing to go out of there way for me, and taking risks wouldnt become an obstacle later in the relatioship. I hate it when my lady friends tell me how much they like this guy. and how much they care for him, and how she loves all his doings and stuff... ANd i ask them why they arent going out they simply say "He hasnt asked me yet" or "I'm not gonna ask a guy out" kinda thing. Its rediculous... Its like "cooking"... Girls are often given the job of cooking in a family, but they love it when a guy cooks for them every once in a while... Well guys love it when girls ask them out.
anger_is_my_friend
QUOTE(luckyxi3 @ Oct 16 2004, 12:37 PM)
i agree. i don`t like it when a girl tells me that it`s wrong for a girl to ask a guy out.. it`s annoying. i mean i know it`s old fashioned or "traditionally" but i don`t plan on wasting my time waiting for that guy to ask me out. there`s NOTHING wrong with girls doing asking them out. some girls are too afraid to ask because of rejection. stubborn.gif

yeah i mean some girls care about what other people will think, no matter what the guy says, and some people look at it as being desperate. i myself recently asked a guy out, but it's really stupid when your friends look at you weird and say that it's sad and shit, but all in all you're right.
scarlet
I think a lot of girls are afraid of rejection... and honestly I do to. but it's not like I don't give any effort into being with the guy I want. I mean it won't work if I just like sit there and wait for him to come... well like, I would obviously give some hints and I keep trying and trying and see if he's really intrested on me or not. Well, if he doesn't seems like he's intrested in me, then too bad... move on =P lol I mean, seriously If I really really do like this guy, I would try my best to make him like me but that don't necessarily mean that I would change myself or nething like that. Well my point is.. I wouldn't ask some guy out unless it looks like he's intrested in me but he's just too stupid to see my hints haha =P

PS: Even the shyest guy would ask a girl out... I know (from my experience.. lol =P). I would say, just keep giving him hints and give your best effort to make him ask u out. If he don't seem intrested, then well that's too bad. He's not the only guy in the world rite? lol
pink_tootsie
idk why we have to wait for the guys to make the first move..and yeah maybe a fear of rejection and embarrassment..
dani41790
uhh i dont think its wrong to ask a guy out. im just to shy to, thats why the most id do is to tell them i like em.
avsugarhigh09
tru dat. it's just a little scary thats all. i don't take rejection well. but i've asked out guys before. it's better then sitting around bitching about it and stuff...
Winter
I don't think there's a prolbem with asking guys out.

I was the one who asked my prom date to the prom. He's just too shy to do anything. And we had a great time. See. if I didn't ask him, I'd be dateless and that's just sad.
jennyjenny
Girls are more scared of rejection?

In my area, if a girl gets rejected or dumped, they make this huge scene, then have at least 2 quotes in their damned profiles about how their life sucks and how so and so broke their hearts. Drama.

If guys are rejected or dumped, they find a new girlfriend. mellow.gif
Expresseggroll
i think girls need to step up as well.
clumsin3ss
haha ya i agree. i told my friends that and they said they like it oldfashioned. and some guys dont like it because it makes them feel less of a man...but i guess its juss some guys... _unsure.gif
HelloSunshine
QUOTE(lilteardrop @ Oct 16 2004, 11:25 AM)
hmm maybe girls are old fashioned? i wouldnt really want to ask a guy out. maybe cuz im shy  pinch.gif

haha yeah i agree pinch.gif but, it's not like I'd NEVER ask a guy out _smile.gif
leeeza702
i'm just old fashioned... _smile.gif I would NEVER ask a guy out... NEVER... but that's just me.. I think it's okay for girls to ask out guys... so yeh _smile.gif
wind&fire
pffft ... you guys get over rejection better than us..
LittleLulu
umm..
#1 fear of rejection...cuz like if i KNEW the guy liked me..n i liked him bak ..i wudn't care wtf other ppl say
#2..some ppl r jus like that....they r too shy.......

#3...this is odd...but alot of guys i know said that they wud think that the girl is too aggressive if she asked a guy out.... but i think these boys have prAO-blems...

thats basically it...i've never done it before... but if the guy i liked liked me back n he didn't do ne thing within 2 weeks... i'd ask him out.
nlgrl
QUOTE(LittleLulu @ Oct 17 2004, 3:20 AM)
umm..
#1 fear of rejection...cuz like if i KNEW the guy liked me..n i liked him bak ..i wudn't care wtf other ppl say

yepp... im scared of rejection _unsure.gif which brings it down to... ill only ask him out if i was POSITIVE he liked me
Weird addiction
QUOTE(DrEaMgUy2K1 @ Oct 16 2004, 4:15 PM)
Ok..... Most of you girls seem to think its a bad idea for girls to ask a guy out......

Honestly why do u think that? Are there rules written down somewhere in the girls network or some sh!t like that? Do u have facts on why its bad? Basically whats the dealio?

Me behing a guy, I honestly feel that if girls would stop being so shy and devious and just ask the guy they like out ... they're wouldnt be so much complainin about "i dont have a boyfriend" threads and stuff...and more couples out there... Alot of guys are shy,luckily im not one of em, but yes... You girls are probally gonna be waitin on the guy u like for forever...cuz he mite be too shy to ask u out...

Anyways my opinion on girls asking guys out.. I find it very attractive, it shows me that ur offensive and agressive,which in the long run is great. And it saves the both people alot of time....I'm not saying guys shouldnt ask the girls out,im just saying i think its awesome if girls would work up the same nerve as the guys have to

WELL DONE DUDE!!
Suesterrx
well i wouldnt ask a guy out because im scared of rejection.
most girls think guys are more "insecure" [no offense]
and i think thats why girls think guys should ask them out first
its a girl thing i guess.. tongue.gif
Individualityy
Well..you see..our world has become modern and everything..but there are still a few things that are old fashioned..like in the old movies..it was considered kinda awkward if a girl asked a guy out..so we're still clinging to that today..but who knows..maybe in a few years that'll change..and you'll have girls asking you out..haha..but for now..we're old fashioned. Sry guys.
goofipinay
huh.gif eh...well actually all the boyfriends ive had..i asked them out biggrin.gif ..haha so..yea... wink.gif
kbgirly
probably some girls think if they ask guys out it means they're "slutty"

it doesn't really mean u're "slutty"... it means u like that guy enough to have the guts to ask them biggrin.gif
yummy_delight
i just like outgoing honest guys. i don't ask them out because if they ask me out then i know that they're my type.
LuZz
hahahahah great advice, but i dun think i'll take it tongue.gif
i guess most girls don't ask boys out coz wat wud u do it u got rejected... i mean i wudn't be able to face that guy ever again..
+ if he went and told his friends and it spread around den i wud like totally DIE of embarassment -_-

i think i wud onli ask a guy out if i liked him alot, and if i knew that he certainly liked me too.
Also i dun think the relationship wud last long if i the girl asked the boy out. Coz he prolly onli accepted to not hurt the girl'z feelings.

but u know, when you think bout it... if he flirts wif you alot, then obviously he likes sumthin bout u, so u could ask him out. and i get quite a big chance of succeeding... but den if u get rejected, then so wat, he won't like u so move on girl...

i wudn't mind taht, but i think the moving on process is hard, and i wud prefer juz silently liking the guy, than getting rejected and tearful and trying to move on. Alsoooo i'm scared that it'll spread around that i asked him out or sumthin. See... it'z not that acceptable in our school, and then people start calling you slut and things. sad.gif
LuZz
u know i think they shud make more movies where the girls asks the boy instead of the boy always askin the girl. this shud begin to make it more acceptable
SuPerSoPow1025
hhheeee is so right, why cant the girl ask out the guys, cause some guys are very shy (witch is mee). I think when a girl ask out a guy, it is VERY attractive^^
unicocira
well i think for me ~ I wouldn't ask a guy out cuz I dun really know if he's a guy i really wanna go out with. I struggle with the thot ~ Is he or is he not? and yeah rejection is always a bummer ~ especially for me ~ cuz I have alot of pride and so if anyone "hurts" my pride ~ they might as well suicide than face me.
royalfreshness
Eh... I would but I'm stupidlly to scared.

.. I should do it one day. To #88 :)>
lilxroxy
yeah. most girls are afraid of rejection..:\

me included. unless i`m absolutely sure that the guy i like likes me too.

ahahS. i`m such a w. i. m. p

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sammi rules you
i did once. that's only cause i knew he liked me. otherwise..ehh..i'd be wayyyy too shy..
waccoon
Why not? Is it because women are traditionally less powerful in society than men?
mouse_3k
I think girls asking guys is fine. its not like a law or something.
happygoluckyng
WOULD ASKING A REALLY SEXY CUTE 'FRIEND' OUT TO THE MOVIES BE CONSIDERED ASKING THEM OUT?....just wondering....todays my b-day
blowpops69
im a bit old fashioned. i will only do it, if i realy realy like the guy.

happy birthday
Shattered_Hope
girls wont ask guys out becuz..this is my opinion btw...becuz theyre embarassed of the outcome..and afriad their friends will laugh at them.
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