I dunno it there's a topic on this already (if so sorry >.<). But I was wondering how do you guys answer the question. Even if you didn't like her like that and she asks you.
I had a guy friend that would go out with girls when they asked him even if he didn't like them because he didn't want to hurt their feelings... Do alot of you guys think that way?

what the heck? if u go out with a girl and u don't like it because u don't want to hurt her feelings, aren't u gonna hurt her feelings a lot more when u can't take it anymore and break up with her? geez..if that ever happened to me, i'd most likely say that i only think of her as a friend. and then if she gets sad and mopy, i'll give her a hug and cheer her up. hugs make the world go round.

That's what I said to him!!

no, thats totally f-ed up, thats just basically playing with them

ill definetely say yes. if im attracted to her

if im attracted yes.. but if i just felt sry i would just say no.. because leading them on saying you like them and such would hurt them x10 more at the end.. so i would just say no

My best friend almost did that to me. Because he thought that he could learn to love me and he didn't want to hurt me or make me sad. But when i found out, i put a stop to that. He's still my best friend... and always will be

I think sometimes that if people dont like the person and still say yes they dont want to hurt them and they try to like them make themselves think they like them. ive done it before didnt work out too well though

I wouldn't do that I agree with him ^

what if you werent then huh...

i believe everyoen should have a chance :] ... but if im really not attracted to them in anyway...ill just let them down easy...leading people on is wrong...and it hurts more ;/ ..

im never this lucky to even have a girl ask me

LOL...that rox...LMAO

hunnie dun get sad....i can ask u out if ya wanna...

Ding ding ding!! We have a winner! I think that's the perfect way to handle it. *Nod, nod.*

sandra6645 - Please don't double post. There's an edit button for a reason. kthnx. ;;

no never, im not gonna go out with a girl i dont like
tell her that we can be close friend, if shes a nice girl.

Yes; I can see why.

If I had a slight attraction to them then I would go out with them. But, if I really was turned off, I would probably just say...Whats your number? Ill call you when I free up sometime in my busy schedule. Or something in that way....

I did that once..
Don't do it, guys.

i think that guys should just say "no" but that's my opinion, as a girl. if he didnt want to hurt their feelings he must have had some kind of feelings towards her, because if guys don't care about the girl then they would just say "no", just saying "no" is fine, it's better than being all into the relationship and hurting their feelings more that way.

don't be mean.

just say no if you don't like em. if you make them think you do, it'll make em more sad.

if my best friend did that to me... I don't even know what I'd say to him. I'd feel really.. dumb >.<

now why cant all guys think like you????

well.. i'd never have the guts to tell a guy anyways...

dis happened 2 me.. recently.. she thought she was my gf.. n i told her.... jus friends.. yeh i did hurt her feelings n she cried.. but i didn't wanna hurt her more by breakin up wit her.... mebbe i shud've given her chance.. wutz holdin me bak..? (we still talk..)

if she asks you over the phone..

hang up and turn it off

if she asks you in person..

yell moose and run away



or.. just.. be nice about it you know? i mean the moose does work. the next day she sees you, you can be like wow that was some moose! almost got me

bammmmmmmmmmmmmm i'm in that dilemma rite now!!!!!

Just say i like you as a friend. Nothing more. Just saying no is less worse then goin out with her even if u dont have feelings for her. She could a mental breakdown.

Yep, but you cant say yes, just to not hurt her. You hurt her even more if she finds out you went out with her just cus u didnt want to hurt her feelings. You have to b honest and tell her strait up that you dont like her like that.

You wont know unless you try!

*Nods* Good Advice

omg..thats funny.but...yeah

I agree with Sammy..

heh...no girls like me enough to take the initiative...i dont care...

heh, well, i think you shouldnt do that, cuz i tried that and it does make them get hurt more. now the one i didnt like and she asked me out and we broke up, we barely even talk to each other anymore. its like we're strangers, so never try that.

if i dun like da girl and she asked me out...id just say its better if we stayed friends or something like that..i would never go out with someone i didnt like.

I've never been in that situation and therefore i wouldn't know, but if i liked her sure, I'd go out with her. Heck!

wellll i asked this guy out one time, and he said "no, sorry" thats pretty much it. and then he just started talking to me alot more and now we're best friends i guess... still got mixed feelings about him but when i think i like him i just think of all the bad things. anyway... i dont like guys who just say yes so they dont hurt the girl.. cuz then the girl gets hurt when she finds out it was just so that the guy didnt seem like the bad one. or w/e

ive been asked out twice and i think its really cool of them to do so. i said yes because i saw interest in them, but if a girl i had no interest in asked me out i wouldnt be afraid to politely turn her down.

well i'm too shy to ask guys and i've never been asked so . . . yah :) but i don't think people should say yes just because they feel obligated to do it. that's kind of sad. but i know the rejection would hurt as well.

Too True.

This has happened on a number of occasions.

God dammit.

i dont know why girls think the burden of asking someone out is upon the guy. Some guys are really shy and will NEVER be able to work up the courage to ask a girl out. in this case, if you know he likes you and you like him back, dont be afraid to confront him and ask him out.

i've done it before. could be considered players. no feelings, why would he or she go out with the opposite sex? common sense.

omg that happened to me and when i found out omg was mad!!..i would have totally just rather him say no..((stupid))

in my experience most guys do not think this way. girls tend to do this more than guys do. if guys are not attracted, they will not. if he does, most likely he is at least somewhat attracted or has been attracted to u in the past

Exactly.

I told her I really didn't want a girl friend and she was like please please please I was like honestly id rather just have you be a friend with benifits. haha this kid I know told this 7th grader he was gay it was funny as hell

Studies have shown that the amount of time a person is declared gay by others, the higher the chance they become homosexual.

Here's to you: You're gay. You're gay. You're gay. You're gay. You're gay. You're gay.

i wont do that coz i think itz reli hurt the girl if u dun like her

if the guy goes out with the girl he doesn't like because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. but eventually when the girl finds out, that would hurt the girl's feelings even more than rejecting her at the first place.