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Falon
My boyfriend and I aren't the same age... (I'm not going to tell the difference) And a lot of people seem to think that if you're more than 3 or 4 years appart, that you can't ever be truly happy.

What are your thoughts? Think it really matters? Or is age just a mindset?
hcosurfkid
Age Dont matter.. Im a guy who was born in October, but started school very early.. Everyone is basicly a year onlder then me oin my grade.. But i still get a lot of girls.. They dont seem to care that im younger.. biggrin.gif
Falon
QUOTE(hcosurfkid @ Aug 28 2004, 4:18 PM)
Age Dont matter.. Im a guy who was born in October, but started school very early.. Everyone is basicly a year onlder then me oin my grade.. But i still get a lot of girls.. They dont seem to care that im younger.. biggrin.gif

*laughs* Congrats. But uaually, a year doesn't make much difference... I meant more than a grade seperation... tongue.gif
inthemudhole
I personally don't think it matters too much.
Unless you're 15 and they're 20.
Then yes.. it would matter a bit.
It's better if you're 20 and they're 25..

It matters sometimes, but I don't think it should matter a lot.. unless the two are really far apart.
silver-rain
age doesn't really matter, unless it's something extreme, or illegal (like if you're underage and he's 18+)
sammi rules you
i went out with a guy who was 16 when i was 13. i don't think it's that big of a deal, but like, 16 and 12 would be a bigger difference..it's not like the age is a problem, but 12 year olds should not be going out with 16 year olds, maturity wise.
MusicalAngel
I agree.. i think it has more to do with maturity and where you are in your age that matters.
laur3nw
its not necessarily true that you cant ever be happy
it depends how much you like the guy..you can always make things work

i personally prefer not to date a guy more than 3 or 4 years older than me
xsilent_kidx
Age doesnt really count,im 14 and i went out with a 21 year old for like a yaer and my friend misty is 14 and she still goes iwht a 19 yaer old and is pregnant*cough*slut*coughbut yah i dont think age really counts
sunissed14127
i dont think age matters....as long as its not like the ashton/demi thingy lol....i think thats going a lil over board
cutielilsuga
well to me age doesn't matter
but i mean after you turn 18 it doesn't matter
aznriceboi
age doesn't really matter unless if you were like 20 dating someone 60-up just for something they have. i think that as an adult age difference doesn't become a concern but when where young like around the teens its starts to become something we think about more
sporadic
I, personally, wouldn't go past two years of age difference.

Five years is too much.. *shudder*
sweetdreamsx3
Yeah, I agree five years is too much. >.< That's just plain creepy.
slurp
as long as youre both feeling it why just let a number stop you? cool.gif
Mick3Y
Ages dont matter. If you guys love each others, it's not a big problem.

It is if the guy is like 40 and ur 16 o____O

- Tran -
x____duckii
Okay...

Like, for example, if you're 9 and you're dating a 14 yr. old, it's a HUGE difference if you know what I mean. But if you're 2o and the guy is 25, it doesn't really seem to make that much of a difference. Anyways, I don't think that made sense mellow.gif
LiNHy POO
when you're young it does somewhat matter... but as you get older even a decade doesnt seem bad. happy.gif
dani41790
i realli dont think age matters unless it deals with some1 18 or older dating a minor... other than that i dont think it matters.
maliitashun
I don`t think it matters

My dad is 70 `nd my mom is 36. [:.
MeanBastard
QUOTE(maliitashun @ Aug 29 2004, 1:27 AM)
I don`t think it matters

My dad is 70 `nd my mom is 36. [:.

How... ****!
RiC3xBoy
QUOTE(maliitashun @ Aug 29 2004, 1:27 AM)
I don`t think it matters

My dad is 70 `nd my mom is 36. [:.

whoa wacko.gif

anywho, no age doesnt matter it just doesnt work out cause people keep thinking that age does matter so which leads to them braking up
wind&fire
but i want him to be older than me tho...
DrEaMgUy2K1
Age shouldnt really matter.... i think the person should only be like at the maxi is 2-3 years older than the other... but yea i think that should only apply to kids lol... but i dont think it really matters.....my dad is like 5 ish years older than my mom
DavidxN
course age matters, if yer in middle school and yer datin some girl in 11th grade, you'd be considered a pimp kinda but then ppl would make fun of her and you probably wouldn't like that and u can't do anything about it...same thing if u date a guy in 11th grade
MeanBastard
Actually if you were a girl in 8th and dated a junior youd be considered a whore.
WhiteLotus*
I think it does. My Mum and my Father are Three Years Apart That's not too bad. But my Aunt and my Uncle is Nine years apart I'd feel more comfortable my age.
bballchick1
i voted not more than 5 years..
chimps ate my hw
doesent matter unless ur underaged and hes over 18 mellow.gif
Too Asian To DIE
i think that it doesnt matter but sumtimes it does. there was a 14 yr old guy going out with a 46 yr old lady and then they got married but it didnt work out. <------ thats just going overboard just dont date ppl that r 2x or 3x yr age. anything else it dont matter
Melissa_gulick
i always go out wiht guys that are older than me.. im 15.. i won't go past the age of 19 though.. my friend has been gettin with a 22 year old and i told her i just think its dumb.. obviously hes cheatin on her and using her.. luckily now i have a boyfriend hes a senior and im a sofmore but ... hes 17 so that isnt that bad
mouse_3k
depends. if ur still a minor and hes a adult, then no.


if ur like 23 and hes like 29 then thts fine
islandkiss
it does matter.. it's okay if you guys are at least 3 yrs apart but anything more than that.. it's just odd.
SteveObscure
Age is not a matter! In all of my relationships, I've always been the youngest by a year. I'm 17. Now I'm in a LTR with someone much older than I am. I am very happy. Age is an issue if you make it one. "10" year difference. No worries. All is full of love. happy.gif
sharerolling
It shouldnt really matter unless one person is like an outrageous age apart from the other person.
Heathasm
im 16..my bf is 22 :l i dont think its a big deal at all
Angelos
aga as long as its not like a 20 yr dif or something its cool
stephinika
QUOTE
age doesn't really matter, unless it's something extreme, or illegal (like if you're underage and he's 18+)


i agree.
x0143637x0
it doesnt realli matter. but if its too big of a gap then i dont think it would work. cuz the two wont be on the same level and its hard to understand each other.
Falon
*chuckles* After reading all of these, it seems like the general concensus by those who've replied (not the poll) seem to think that while age is sometimes a factor, what's really more important are the feelings.
This is, pretty much, my stance and opinion.

To those of you who seem to hold the "only 1 year difference at most!" stance, just remember that by your own conviction(s), you're limiting yourself severly. I'm not saying that everyone should be dating people who are old enough to be their parents. Just... Follow your heart. It's hardly ever wrong.
Levy2k6
3 to 4 years is okay and stuff but its good as long as ya got the maturity level and stuff... it cant be a litle kid with a 4th grade mind and a highschoo junior
WildGriffin
No dateing till 13. Maximum difference of 4 years until 18.

That's my stance. Right now, I'm going out with a 15 year old..and I'm 17. It's all gravy, she's extremly mature and im...uh...im not. So we're the same on the maturity scale..which is all that really matters.

I couldnt take advantage of her even if i tried..which is the situation every girl should be in.
XoAzn_ElaineXo
personaly i dun think age really counts love counts more
Just_Dream
Age DOES matter, but I say no more than 5 years apart. I mean, if you're still a minor, the significant other shouldn't be more than 5 years, but 5 years is a big difference. Persoanlly, I wouldn't trust any guys older than me if I dated one. IF i was single, I would only date someone about 2 years older, that's it. # years is okay, but 4 years is a little extreme. It seems a little desperate too, if a guy dates someone that is 4 years younger than them.

There was this guy, he was 14 and he dated this girl who was I think, 8 or 10. I mean, WTH?! They never did anything, just hang out. And all she did was give him a hug. But I mean, that's a little.. Bleh -_-
LiLaZnGirL122
well rite now for us it will c weird for like a 13 year old going with a 16 year old u noe?!?!?! cuz like diff skools and everything but wen u r older like lets say 30 and 33 it dont rillt matter haha hope u guys got that
aznsorpor
i voted for no.. but i do believe that it would matter after a certain limit.. and what age the person is at in the first place.. like if a 30 year old guy dates a 17 year old girl.. that would be wrong.. but a 35 year old dating a 25 year old would be better.. i guess.. but doesnt matter what neone says.. if the people are actually in love and not in the relationship for any other reason except for the sake of being together.. then "who cares what neone else thinks?" as long as u dont mind.. and find it a problem
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