It's a way of releasing stress and pain.. hmmm.. does that make it less stupid? I'm sorry, but those people DO need mental help. Plus, it's not assumptions.. it's the mere truth. Oh, and I regret to say that I have been in their shoes.

Excuse me... mental pain. I'm pretty sure you knew what I meant. At least, I hope so. You ever hear kids joke around when someone gets hurt and say "Come here and let me punch you in the arm and make it hurt worse so your leg doesn't hurt so bad." It's the same concept. It's their way of making themselves hurt physically instead of emotionally. Emotional pain is a lot worse than physical. Physical scars heal. Emotional scars don't. And since when is your opinion "mere truth"? Honestly, it doesn't make much sense to me but ridiculing them doesn't make any more sense.

I've also been in their shoes. And I'm proud to say I don't regret it. Those experiences made me a stronger person. It's all in how you handle it. That's how they handle it.

Saying that cutting is stupid is not ridiculing anybody, first of all. Second of all, it's not really "handling it" - it's rather running away from problems. I'm sorry, but I was one of those dumb, little bratty teenies, and I know what it's like. It's pathetic. Just another way of running away from your problems, and let's face it - there is always a solution to a problem. Cutting isn't a solution.

P.S. Oh and yeah, most of the physical scars don't heal.

yeah im sort of scared im going to start again since it's getting colder. actually im scared as hell. the times i would cut the most were in winter so im scared. but i just tell myself that cutting isn't an option. i just wish i would listen to myself.

don't let her cut!! seriously bad things can happen from it.

Been There. Done That. And now I realize how stupid I was for doing it. I now have scars all over my body becuase of it. Why? Becuase I was always blaming others for my problems. Being lazy about taking charge of my life. So I'd constantly be depressed. Even when I have to sleep outside sometimes, I just don't let the depression get to me. You gotta stay strong.

P.S. Oh and yeah, most of the physical scars don't heal.


True. And it always reminds you of the problems you had.
I totally get why people do it, i really do. but in the long run - you'll regret every cuit youve made.

I used to cut. In fact, on occasion, I still have relapses.
I call them relapses because for me, it became like an addiction.
it's never a good thing to start, its an even worse thing to continue.
and eventually, you will regret every cut.

I know what its like. it starts off with intense emotional pain. you search for an outlet. you find this. you make the first cut.
and then, the next time you feel that way, you do it again.
Soon, everytime anything goes wrong, everytime you dont feel wonderful, you do it again.
and then comes the point where you become dependant.
when it's all you can think about, even if you feel okay. when your life revolves around hiding it, when the cuts get deeper and deeper because you are no longer satisfied with the shallow ones. you draw away from people even more, afraid they'll find out your secret. And besides, you're so covered in self-inflicted wounds that it hurts when anyone touches you.
the obsession gets worse.
you start thinking about the potential of every object around you. you steal sharp objects, you dont care if they're clean, you dont care that you're stealing them. You just need to feed the addiction.
you start cutting in school, at work, at home... everywhere.
and then eventually, inevitably, someone finds out.
you freak out at first. maybe even contemplate suicide. They're going to take away the one thing that kept you from feeling like shit. you cant imagine living without it.
but then eventually, hopefully, you'll realize that it never did any good. it made things so much worse.
you've lost friends.
you've lost money.
you've covered yourself in scars that will never go away. you realize how ugly they are. everytime you see them, you're reminded of a time in your life you would be much better served to forget.
and then imagine explaining it to a spouse/significant other. imagine explaining it to your children someday.
they'll ask.
you're marked forever. set apart.

now, I know, this doesnt happen to everyone. this is only the most severe cases.

but anyone who makes it to that point never thinks that'll happen to them.
when they make the first cut, they dont realize what it might lead to.

even if you never make it to that point, if you stop yourself first, you still experience this to some extent.

just don't risk it.
quit before it reaches that level.

it may sound ridiculous.
I know it did to me.
but now, after a year of hospitals, therapists, and medications, there are still times when its all I can think about. there are still times when I break down and do it again.

its best never to do it at all. but if you do, if you can't find any other way, make sure you know your motives. and more than that, make sure you limit it. dont let it control you.

And yet I do it again...........
Im f**king pathetic.........
wth...

I tried it. It wasn't that great. I returned to my preferred methods sulking and took slight comfort in not falling into the emo stereotype.

I think that cutting was just started by someone a long time ago who was very desperate for a way out of their daily stress and since then it has built up to this idea that it relieves emotional pain. Call me a nerd or tell me I am wrong here, but emotional pain cannot be fixed by additions of physical pain, it usually only makes it worse. Emotional pain is usually, but not always caused by something along the lines of Social pain, something caused with another person..be it a dating break-up, a fight with a friend, or people teasing you. By cutting, people can trick their minds into thinking that this physical harm can fix their mental/emotional issues, but if this is true then it'd be just as easy to trick yourself that just calming down and unwinding is just as beneficial, am I wrong? Ok well I am just trying to help and anybody who wants to applaud me or yell at me go ahead...it is, after all, only my opinion.

Proud member of the Anti-Emo Army.

Peace.

I did that for like three years cause well yeah I'd rather not get into it but honestly it just hurts more in the long run. It stays with you for life and now that I look back it seems so pathetic. I might have had problems but that was NO way to deal with them. It's complicated but alot of people say it realives them and so and so which makes people not take them seriuosly. I dunno I guess I'm trying to say there are other ways to deal with probelms.

It goes on and off. I do it everynow and then. But not all big like I used too. I know I'll stop soon....

^^you are one rightious chick.
shes basicly sumoned up everything i feel about cutting.
if you dont like it.
go f**k yourself.
and cry.

i lack the capacity of pity and mercy for childishness.hurting yourself dosnt prove anything about reliving pain.and all that garbage.
stop listening to my bloody valentine.
and get out of the f**king rock youve been hiding under.
it dosnt solve jack shit.
all it proves is you like to feel bad for yourself.


^^well i am too. mo f**ker




and if you did do it and are trying to stop.
thats good for you and im not picking at you.,

Cutting releases endorfins(sp) that cause the body to feel better when it's in deep emotional panic/pain/anxiety. It works for some people better than others.
*Sigh* Now this is the hard part. If she hurts herself too much . . . it gets risky. Just keep a close eye on her and let her know that you are there for her. She needs an escape. Let her know that she can talk to you whenever she gets sad. If she starts to threaten to kill herself, call the police.

Now, I know this sounds kinda stupid coming from a person who has cut for 5 years and has had continual counseling, but believe me, that's what I would want a friend to do for me. I hate people telling me not to cut or not. I hate people constantly getting mad at me for cutting. I want someone to talk to when I get sad. I don't want to have to hide it every day. Just let her know your there. She must be going through something really hard (either that or she just wants attention . . .) JUST BE A FRIEND.


(OH, and P.S. TO EVERYBODY . . . DON'T YOU DARE RIDICULE EMOS! I come from a very long ancestry of emo people so shut the f*ck up . . . you just need someone to pick on.)

^
Exactly.

Cutting yourself helps some people. It only has one good side agaisnt an entire list of bad sides. Believe me, people who have been cutters do regret. I know; personal experience.

well, i just wanna say that i had done it. and well. reading that some of you are saying, oh well, i knew this girl/guy who did it and well, i dont talk to them anymore, THEY HAVE SOME PROBLEMS.

and well. obv. they do. but when you see something like this, you cant just let it go. you have to help them. even though its NOT YOUR PROBLEM. its theirs. and if you dont at least talk to them. then you probly dont care about them. because they could eventually harm themself even more. and depending on who you are then you'd have that hanging over your head.


sry for ranting abit because i've had some friends who drifted with my problem. and i just wished that they showed the least bit of concern.

Screw cutting yourself. Punch a wall. Has same effect of releasing adrenaline and endorphins. Just don't break your hand.

Cutting yourself is a way to remove emotional pain by focusing the person on the physical pain, in my opinion. However, it's a negative way to replace emotional pain. I wouldn't try to force your friend to stop, but you could definitely talk to them about it and ask them to stop for their family and friends. Pay attention to them and try to make sure they aren't doing anything else negative. If they are, I'd definitely tell an adult like their parent or something.

Cutting yourself isn't wrong, it just makes you incredibly emo and lame.

^no it just makes you look stupid for trying to kill yourself in such a immature way. If you really want to die go hang yourself.

oh it makes you look like the biggest attention seeker that no one wants to put up with.

I guess we're in no place to stamp an official 'right' or 'wrong' about it, but I personally think it's a really bad way to deal with your emotions. And I mean really bad, because I'm sure it hurts your friends to see you like that, too.

Seriously, when you cut plz cut somewhere around your cervical vessels. Or you try to cut around your neck instead of your hands.. for fucks sake just die. If you seriously just want some phyiscal pain, go find any black male, young or old and call him a dirty nigger.

for my vote i put 'i dont really know'
i used to cut myself but i stopped.
its hard to explain why people do it. if you are mentally in pain then sometimes it makes you feel better. i know what i am saying doesnt make any sence right now to you guys...but that was my perspective of it when i used to cut myself. ive stopped because...i just stopped...

I wouldn't do it. It hurts and it gives you scars.

I've done my ranting on the topic. I think it's a stupid idea. It's addictive and the scars don't go away.

but I wanted to share a site for people who do. It's support for all kinds of self-harm (cutting or any other form of self-injury, eating disorders, and drug/alcohol use)
It's actually a cool site, and there are a lot of people you can talk to about things who have gone through/are going through the same things as you.

http://recoveryourlife.com

why is this thread still up

emo kids are butthurt

you're childish for posting this and until you feel the desberation to cut, shut it.

^ Everybody's opinion matters, including those of whom's opinion you do not agree with.

it isnt his opinion, its the way he worded it. its not hard to say the same thing without sounding like one is 'over' the other.

There really nothing wrong by cutting yourself.
it really isnt all that painful.
i usually do it because something that me upset, mad or angry.
and i dont focus on cutting
i focus on what made me upset mad or angry.

hmmm, sounds like you have a problem and haven't come to terms with it yet, sorry to sound like a counselor or somthing but it's as clear as day. i've never cut but i take it seriously and mean this when i say find some other way of venting.

imo cutting is just a bad habbit that became trendy one day, so now we have all these stupid kids cutting that everyone makes fun of while there are still some actual suicidal cutters mixed in the bunch.

one other thing, those who ignorantly insult cutters should just stfu cuz depression affects people differently and at different severities, who are you to judge how depressed someone is? try failing out of college, having your mom die, having a chemical imbalance, not fitting in and having no friends... ya it'd f**king suck.

I used to do it.
I used to think it relieved pain, so what.
I now know it doesn't
I used to be an attention whore. (still kinda am, but not as much)
But now, I learned its not really worth it.
I prefer being open and telling people I trust how I feel.
But then again what if your mad because you can't trust any one?!
That I do not know.

I used to cut... and it does hurt... but it realieves pain because you can focus on physical pain, rather than emotional one... and I guess.. helps...

I don't think you shoul ddo it. It's addictive and it's very hard to stop.. I stoped by myslef and haven't done it in a year, but sometimes when I'm really upset I get the urge to do it.. just, don't do it... it's hard to quit.

How does it help? How does it solve your problems?

I'm not really a big fan of cutting yourself. Your body is your shrine, I think it should remained untouched and unharmed. Sure, it feels good when you're stressed but its not good for your body.

I don't think this is suitable for the relationships.

Moved to Debate.

help your friend if he/she is cutting by taking her mind off of cutting. Like bring her/him out to the movies,amusement park,restraunt or just some place peaceful or quiet

i dont have a problem but thanks for your concern. i would say im a suicidal cutter because emo people cut there selves because they just say they think its cool and most of them do it everyday. i cut my self every time i get upset etc like i said before.

and your right about the whole depression thing. i also hate when people say that people cut themselves for attention. most of them dont i cut myself where people dont see and if by chance someone sees it i cover it up saying i feel or something if i wanted attention i would be like i cut myself straight out but i dont.

And you don't have a problem. Um, buddy, you HAVE a problem. Go see a shrink.

better yet don't see a shrink, go get a life.

I have no respect for anyone who cuts themselves, it is the stupidest thing I've ever heard and the fact that some of these people who do it actually think they don't have a real problem is beyond my reasoning. I can guarantee that my problems are so much worse than these stupid people(unless the person has been raped, in which case seek professional help but don't f**kin cut yourself). I know three diferent people who cut themselves(all girls) who have told me that it relieves emotional pain to feel physical pain. I've told all of them the same thing. Buy a pellet gun for about $20 and whenever you get the downsies, shoot yourself in the arm or the head. It hurts like a f**kin bitch, but it doesn't scar, just leaves little round bruises for a few weeks, which in my opinion is favorable to line scars for life or possible death. Now I myself don't do this and I dont have any outlet for my problems yet which Im sure is gonna come to a head one day and I'll either have a breakdown or go crazy, and Im kind of interested in seeing how that plays out. But I would never f**kin cut myself, thats just stupid. I did burn my hand once, but I was wasted and everyone at the party was doing it too. Dumb reason to do it, but it seemed like a good choice at the time. Now Im scarred for life and Im rather pissed about that. Just stop cutting yourself, thats the stupidest fad Ive ever heard about, what the f**k is wrong with people today. f**kin emo's.

why don't you go get an old rusty knife and cut yourself across the throat, no pun intended, well maybe it was :)

hey thats not nice

I think people who get wasted are even more f**king dumb.
You hurt your insides.






I used to cut myself, I know it was bad blahblabhalbhalbhalbhalbha, but I see even more dumbasses every day who actually kill themselves slowly through doing f**king stupid shit.

All you can really do is talk to them and hope they listen. Tell them how you feel about the situation. It might keep them from cutting, or she/he might just keep doing it.

And i definetly don't assosiate cutting with being emo unless you do it solely for attention, then they seriously need to grow up.

she needs to start an emo punk band
b/c she'd have the lyrics down.


give suggestions about what other outlets there are.
b/c i think cutting increases some hormone that you can get from exercise, or just taking a walk.

**I HAVE NEVER CUT MYSELF**

with that being said, I will try to give from what I know about cutting, and why people do it.

Well first off, if someone is cutting, it sometimes is because they are going through something very difficult, and feel like they can't control anything. In cutting themselves, they can control that. (Just like how some people are anorexic, or bulmic)

Also, I believe when people cut themselves, it releases a hormone which is like "being high." I will try to find more information on this.

EDIT//:
"The theory is that self-mutilation releases endorphins and over time, the body becomes addicted to these pain-relieving neurotransmitters. The impulse to self-injure arises from a craving for endorphins."

it was endorphins! yes,, i knew it began with an e.

Alright, I really lose respect for people who cut themselves. I know cutting yourself is a release. I know why people do it, but it still stupid. I guess I just don't respect them because I feel like they don't respect themselves. People have to show me that they deserve respect for me to respect them. People who cut obviously don't respect their bodies. Their mutilating them. It as if they cut the word "worthless" right into their foreheads. It's just the message it sends out.

I see those who cut themselves and don't cut themselves in much the same way I see people who have bad posture and bad posture. If you're standing up straight and have good posture then you send out an unspoken, positive message that says, "Respect me, I'm worth it." On the other hand, if your slouching all the time then you send out an unspoken, negative message that says, "Don't bother with me, I'm bored and lazy."

People who cut themselves send an unspoken message that says, "I AM FUCKING WORTHLESS." It's just the way it is, I'm sorry if you're offended by this. Face the truth. If you're thinking about cutting, think twice. Reroute that energy towards something that's positive.

^Shit, I have bad posture...ARGHHH!!!!! The steel cuts through veins like butter....blood is spilling out like a gallon of milk being dropped on the kitchen floor, but instead of milk its wrist blood. Gallons of it.
Is it marinara sauce? Lets see...OWW!!!!! I cut too deep, my wrists dont work and they sting a lot...ooooo.
There's a thread coming out of my wrist, maybe if I flick it..AHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That killed!!
Ooo, my head is beginning to hurt, things are getting dizzy. I wish I had just stood up straight. Damnit, if only I had sat up straight. Maybe there's a posture school in heaven...Why am I falling? AHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, Im in hell now....hmm, there's a lot of people here. Hey look, John Ritter...why are you bent over like that? Ohh...thats not cool. Get off of him Mr. Lincoln.

It's really dark here, not too much fire. Hey look, there's the devil. Wait, he's crying. What the...Oh MY GOD!!! HE'S CUTTING HIMSELF!!!

Why Mr. Devil?
"I'm so f**king depressed. No one loves me..."
Well then kill them all.
"But then...you're right. By God you're right. Thank you Jeremy, you get to live again."
Awesome, thanks Mr. Devil.

(woogedy woogedy woo)

Oh wow, Im back. And hey, I have great posture. Thank you Mr. Devil! :)

Oh no, the city is on fire. Its the apocalypse....YAY!!! Die you crooked backed motherf uckers!!!