my best friend cut once. because i never done it, i can't agree with what she did or what people do to relieve pain just because "life gets hard". every deals shit, some people deal with more and worst but shit is still shit. she told me she did it because it made her feel better. i know she doesn't do it for attention because she hides her scars, and isn't very open about it. i think the ones who are very open about it and is willing to show all the scars what not, are doing it for attention which makes me not feel pity for them.

there are better ways to relieve pain.

Give it time. Someimtes it's jsut s stage. But if not, there's nothing you can really do about it. It's an addictino and it's really hard to let go of. Just let her know that you'll always be there for her no matter what. Don't give her the ultimatu,, that'll probably make it worse.

Well, it's been almost a year, I hope that you've successfully talked your friend out of this cutting thing.

I don't see how cutting can relieve pain. Once, my tooth was loose and I was hurting emotionally and tested out the "physical pain relieves the emotional pain" hypothesis and everything just hurt more. Not only did I hurt emotionally, I hurt physically as well.

I'm not into physical pain that draws blood anyway. Physical pain scares me

Well, it's scientifically proven to relieve stress by releasing endorphins. The same thing happens when you run or work out. So it's understandable, because it's easy. However that doesn't make it right. It's an unhealthy obsession. My friend used to cut herself all the time, and one time, she called me at like 11 p.m. and she was like, "URRGHH I really wanna do it. Ugh, it's soooo hard not to!!" And stuff... it's really a sad thing. I think the best thing to do would be to tell an adult. Maybe your friend needs counseling... Just a thought. That's what my friend did, and it really helped.

ehh i dont like that cutting thing.....its really sad that young people do that...

yea but people don't find any other way. Matters what kind of person it is if you really want to tell a adult.. Someone once did that and they went ahead and killed themselves..

I don`t know..I know its a dumb thing to do but yeah.I always though about it..yesterday I thought about it after a rough day but yeah.

cutting = stupid dumb dumbs

LOL #1'S FRIEND IS AN EMO LET'S BEAT HER UP

The whole idea of pain relieving by inflicting another pain, is, IMO, retarded. When you cut yourself...all your doing is opening yourself up to an unhealthy adiction. Sure, it may take away your MENTAL stress and MENTAL pain/frustration.. but in reality... it only makes your brain focus in on the pain from the wound...butfor what...30seconds?(depending on the depth ect) Then you are eventually going to come back to the state of being in which you were before you cut yourself which is confused and sad/mad or whatever it was.

Then because you've expeirenced the fact that cutting may relieve pain for a brief while...you begin to do it more and more and..more...which is BAD because it causes scars, tissue damage, and also social and family damage...considering the fact that nothing (no matter what you may think) can stay safe or hidden away forever. Eventually your parents..spouse, g/f or b/f, friend or bestfriend will find out...as well as kids and teachers at school...then socially you will be labled NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR HOW MANY TIMS YOU DENY a freak or crazy person.

no i strongly feel cutting yourself is wrong.. there are other safer ways of dealing with emotional pain than hurting yourself..

i think you should gently try to get her to stop.. dont yell or anything... if things get out of hand.. or if this continues.. i think you should seek adult help.. yea i know you may seem like a looser and all.. and she may hate you for it.. but honestly.. this is a serious problem..
if she has problems that she cant deal with byherself.. maybe she can go seek professional help to find a better way of expressing her pain..

i understand what ur saying.

it is bad to cut. theres a lot more things to do to relieve pain. i mean she could hang with her friends... go to the movies... go for a walk... she doesn't have to hurt herself over it.

i really don't know what u should do tho... i mean u would think that a good friend would want what's best for their friend... but a good friend also respects their opinions and actions they choose to do.

maybe she's not worth it...?? idk. maybe lay low for a bit... or have her parents talk to her??

hopefully i helped... i don't really know what u should do... its a hard situation...

much love,

-liltempo

Cutting yourself.?.?.. yea , I've been there. Burning, too. relieves pain for a moment. but what about what comes after? you all know what I'm talking about. the pain covers the torment of life for only so long, then you're back in it. and all you want to do is cry. she needs to stop as soon as she can. it will get her nowhere.

yeah.. she might jus wants attention. but if not then i dont know i think you should have them "serious talks" with her.

Mmm ._. I think cutting's bad. It may get their pain out but after a while the cutting'll come back to hurt them. They could eventually end up in the hospital or just dead on their floor.

The closest I've come to cutting is shoving safety pins into my hands and wrist... that hurt pretty bad. I can't imagine cutting myself.

cutting is mearly a week cry for help

I really don't understand the concept?
It hurts, it doesn't relieve pain or any
of that crap. ughhh, I get discusted with
anyone that does it.

Sorry to hear about your friend though.

She's gonna die.

Aren't we all?

i think its selfish and its just a way to get attention... honestly.. wait wait, its stupid... the entire emo population is immature. They are a bunch of kids that cry about things for no reason... all there problems are their own problems and they think about noone but themselves :/

I'm proud of you people.. I've never bumped into a forum where so many people think it's wrong. Only if more people realized it..

Taylor``

i know people who've done it, but it doesn't attract me. I've only self mutilated myself a few times, but it wasn't out of sadness or depression or pain. just curiousity and temptation

Cutting onself is like a slow suicide

suicide - permanent relief from all pains...
cutting - temporary relief from some pains...

BUT I SAY BOTH OF THEM ARE WRONG...

To some people, it relieves the pain from some other pain they have. If they are heart broken and dont wanna feel hurt from that anymore, they cut themselves to get rid of that pain but the pain from the cut still hurts them.

I had that same problem w/ one of my friends... i told her she shouldn't do it and that there were so many people who cared about her. you could always try to scare her out of it too. tell her the conciquences... like cutting too deep or something. that works too.
suicide is a perminant solution for a temporary problem ...

People that cut themselves are simply seeking attention, nothing more.

I cut myself?..i don't do it for fun or popularity..I do it for depression and no love..even if my friends tell me to stop..it's my second time..the 1st time i did..i cut myself 3 times..then 2nd time..23 times on both wrist..I only do it..because my parent's hate me even if I'm an honor student and a good kid..they don't care and don't know what i do..

so if your saying I do it for attention..your all wrong...

and I'm not an maniac...or obsessive

Hold on. You can afford the internet, you have parents, you're a good student, I'm sure you're surrounded by people who love you, and you still cut yourself?

That seems illogical to me. Just.. don't do it. There are many people who can only dream to be in your shoes. Think about that.

Taylor``

Then why not go get help, if you read all this stuff and see how people think its for attention and how wrong it is and how its "suicide is a perminant solution for a temporary problem" i just copied and pasted it.. And well cutting yourself is to kill yourself in other words. I don't get why you just sit there and cut yourself if your that depressed cut the other way and kill yourself already

Thats how I always looked at it. and if you only to do it for just a sudeen relief then go to a doctor and get some anti depressants
It takes about a week for them to fully start working
its better than nothing though


Look.

everything happens for a reason and somewhere out there someone has it worse than you

cutting helps some people feel better. lots of people dont know this but cutting keeps some people from commiting suicide. i am a cutter and it helps a lot.

Tell me, how does it help? How does it solve your problems? Don't give me that bullshit - I've been in your shoes and it DOES NOT HELP.

Taylor``

I STILL THINK CUTTING YOURSELF IS STUPID!!! I see it as a solution for people who don't want to face their problems. People who feel helpless. People who are weak. The funny thing is that, people are only as weak as they allow themselves to be... :?

Cutting oneself is something which only fools will do...

try to seek practical solutions for whatever problem you have...

seek the help of some good elders...

that will help you a lot...

most cutters do so i don't give them any and usually they stop

UNTRUE!

It's actually scientifically proven to relieve pain.

Pain releases endorphins, (which can also be released by working out, running, etc.) and when endorphins are released, it relieves your stress.

I've done it before, and after I did it, I didn't tell anyone for a month... my friend was cutting, and she didn't tell anybody for a long time. she didn't tell anybody until her arm was already really chopped up. People don't do it for attention, otherwise they'd show everyone right away. My friends that used to cut were really embarrassed about it. It's not an attention thing.

Though I don't believe it's the right thing to do. I think people should work their problems out instead of cutting them away. But there is this happy feeling that you get when you cut... sort of like, "Okay, I've punished myself good enough. I should be fine!" And plus the endorphins thing.

sorry if this phrase is overused but....
tell her how you feel!
have you tried the "i care for you too much to see you hurt yourself like this," talk?

but if her cutting gets really serious (getting hospitalized for it, etc.) then you should tell a trusted adult. she may get mad at you at first, but she'll eventually realize that you did it for her sake.

okay listen i used to cut for a year and a half and what people need to realize is it's not for attention. you do it cause you hurt so much inside that you think maybe if it hurts physicaly i won't hurt so much mentally. and then you do it a couple of times when you feel sad and then afterword you feel incredibly guilty so guilty that you hide it from everyone. after a couple of times it's just like automatic you don't even think about doing it you just do. it's just what your brain knows how to do to make yourself feel better just like people who eat for comfort. and it's not because you want to be emo or hardxcore it's cause you have a problem. and yes i know some people do it for those reasons but after a couple of times they will get sucked in and they will be stuck until they can ask someone for help. like someone said it's a coping mechanism, a really hurtful one but a coping mechanism nonetheless. also if someone you know tells you they are cutting don't you dare call them stupid, retarted or anything like that cause then you just make it worse.

^ Actually it did become a fad, and about 85% (or more) of the people I knew who did it, did it for attention.
Maybe some dont/didnt, but a lot of them did.

and yes, I have known people who didnt do it for attention either, but you can tell when one is doing it for attention or not.

yeah that's true it has become a fad. and it's really stupid cause it's making fun of and making it no big thing if people cut themselfs or any other form of self injury and that's sad. but it's still considered bad since they are doing it for attention because then what else are they doing for attention drugs, premiscuous sex, abusing alchol?[sp?] and they are more than likely deppressed and need help. i started doing SI for attention. but that was when i was like 10 and i would just scratch myself and my mother would be like what happened and be like aww. and stuff. and then it turned into an obbsession i was obbsessed by constantly making new cuts and then i actually started to think i looked better with them. but i got help and now im back to well i hate to use this term but normal.

I think that MOST people cut themselves for attention. Most of the people i have known that cut did it for attention. All of them say that it releives pain and all, but i just think its retarded. I mean, why not, cry instead or something.. I dont know.. So many people do it nowadays that [b]NO ONE FEELS SORRY FOR YOU!!!!!!![/b]All you're doing is giving your parents a stupid reason to take you to a therapist or something. So my advice is...JUST DONT CUT YOURSELF.
DUH.
its THAT simple.

aye.
It just increses the depression and pain.
I now believe cutting is nothing but craving for attention. A very lame way to do it, too.

And remember, it's not a f**king trend.
Also, if you cut your inner wrist, you risk to hit the tendones, and then your hand will be nothing but a lifeless toy for your entire pathetic life.
Enjoy. :)

^-- wow haha

Something like this is pretty serious i would get some form of help.

I was the same way.
My ex caused me to do it almost everyday, he didn't care though.
But now I don't, I use other ways to solve the problem.

Back in 7th grade, I cutted myself. My homelife was a wreck and school - well the people were just .. i don't know. All my friends got mad at me and until one of them told the nurse and i stopped after that. I didn't get mad at them, i thanked them and we both cried together. And yeah. After a few years, friends were cutting themselves and luckily I was able to tell them my whole story and now they stopped.

In 6th grade, I had this friend.
In 7th grade, I no longer saw her anymore cuz we changed schools.
Then last year, I heard from my other friend she was sent to juvenille rehab,
and she had to miss 2 weeks of school, they searched her house, and it's bad enough that she was only in Junior High.

I've never really considered cutting,
and don't know how =]
I am thankful for my stupidity.

Sometimes I feel like cutting myself because I feel like it will "purge" me of all the bad things I feel inside. Sometimes you get sick of crying...Cutting is some serious s to the hizzle though so I just don't.
It's dangerous to your health and if you really want to keep on living then stop focusing on the pain. My advice (even though this is an old topic) is to tell your friend to get active and stay away from sharp objects =)

way to bump this retarded shit
stafooo emo you are clearly _butthurt_ and you need to C R Y M O R E
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cutting is bad for you and its stupid
and anyways, theres cooler ways to kill yourself, like sticking a revolver in ur mouth



and it HAS to be a revolver

I want you to write this on a piece of paper in big letters across the page and stuff:

World Trade Centers. Hunger. Terrorism. Disease. Disabilities. Homeless. War.

Then write on the bottom: STOP CUTTING YOURSELF, CAUSE THERE ARE FAR WORST THINGS THAT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU!

And leave it somewhere for her. Act firm! Save a friend! Even if he/she will hate you!

Uh, too bad cutting isn't a way to kill yourself unless it's intended to. I'm pretty sure that's not the kind of cutting we're talking about. And quit name calling.


Some do it for attention. Some don't. I don't understand it any more than you guys do but telling people who do it to get help and making them feel more ostracized isn't helping. I hope you guys are intelligent enough to realize that. It's a way of releasing stress and pain, however strange to us that may seem. Some people might think the way you release pain is strange. Ever think of that one? Someone very, very close to me used to cut badly but I didn't sit there at ridicule them or act as though they needed mental help. I was there for them and now they've stopped completely. Why don't you try to actually help instead or making ignorant assumptions? Put yourself in their shoes.