just try to help her slowly to stop cutting soo often.... try to help her with her problems... she will stop when she knows that there is a better way to ease the pain..

i dont knoe understand why people cut themselves, its probably a solution to them or a way to let out their pain.. but its only gonna be temporary..so..why give urself an extra scar??

i think this girl has the same problem as the girl from THE REAL WORLD.

as a former cutter and SI in general, it isnt at all helpful. the person who inflicts pain on themselves either has low self esteem or is a selfish person who needs to be put in their place. or if they do little chicken scratchers [minimal cuts that barely break the skin] then she needs to be told to stop TRYING to get attenton and just tell her friends that she is feeling left out. there is no point in chicken scratching, but in the event that shes digging or carving, you need to just flat-out go off on her. it helps. and i dont know if the following comment is going to be offensive, but this is what my best friend said when she found out i was cutting by having to actually catch me when she showed up unexpectedly one day-
"what the f*ck are you doing? dont you see how horrible that is?! youre a selfish little sh*t for doing this to yourself and to me and the rest of us. how could you hurt yourself, you know we are ALL here for you and for you to do this is so painful. its basically like you slapping us in the face, implying we cant properly help you. i really am hurt but i know you need help. so start off by giving me the f*cking razor and lets go downstairs."
those were probably the most helpful words i think anyone has ever told me, and yes i remember everything she said.

umm...no i think cutting yourself is wrong and i don't think it relieves your pain at all
Steph

If you make overtures and they're rejected, back off for a few days or weeks. Don't push it. Some people need time to decide to trust someone else, particularly if they've received a lot of negative feedback about their Self Injuring before. Be patient.

if u need more help IM me

ok... i used to be a cutter... cutting is just a way to turn emotional pain into something more tangible. if you have a cut on yourself, you can easily say, "i'm hurting coz i have a cut." but if it's all emotional, it's so hard to pinpoint where exactly you're hurt. you can't say, "oh, i'm hurt in this part of my ethereal heart."

sometimes, cutting is just a way to deal with the stress. like if it's way too much for you to handle, it's like you cut yourself and some of the stress is gone - because you have to focus on the pain.

for all you people who say that people who cut are f*cked up or cutting is just stupid - SHUT UP. everyone has a different way of dealing with their problems. this is one way. it's the same as people who smoke or drink to relieve stress or get rid of their pain (emotional). if you guys can accept that. why can't you accept cutting? either way, you're hurting yourself.

as to your friend, you could try and bring it up - if she's bragging about cutting and showing her scars/cuts to everyone, she's just doing it for attention. if she's not doing that kind of stuff, then actually start getting worried - because that's the sign of a serious cutter.

wow... this was long... if u need more help... eh.. just IM me then.

It's pathetic and stupid and not worth it to hurt yourself for something not important

i think it's definately wrong to hurt yourself to releive yourself

Tell her your worried about her. I have a friend that used to but her bf said if she stopped he would..so they help each other. Talk to her about what could be wrong and try to make her feel better or something along those lines.

cutting urself never works. it seems scary just hearin about it

some ppl find it as a way of.. 'escaping' from reality..


it depends.. some ppl do it as a cry for help, it's their only way out. it's their ONLY way. I personally think it's wrong

I think that it helps relieve pain.

You might not have problem as big as hers so when you cut, you feel the pain. But if she has big problems, she'll actually feel the pain going away. It helps, but only for a short time.

I used to do it too until my ex asked me to try and stop. I think he was scared I'd die or something. And I'm proud to say I haven't hurt myself in the past few months.

Perhaps you should suggest to your friend to talk to a counsellor about her problems. Talking really helps, at least for me.

Side note, damn I'm really becoming like a pro on this subject.

no! i would never do something to purposely hurt myself (or others) it's just plain utterly stupid.

i think its wrong for the people who cut themselves to relieve pain..and they need to seek mental help..but i feel for them...you gotta put your feet in their shoes for...and see what they go through...the parents who brought them up...but overall: it sucks..

Force her to stop. Make death threats.

I cut myself once and a while...I havent though in about 6 months..

how does it relieve pain? its hurting yourself

i don't' cut but i read in an artical it does release pain....and have you every seen the movie THIRTEEn a girl cuts herself in there

Yeah. Okay.
I'm getting really sick of some of these people just spazzing about how OMGZ ITZ RONG ND UR ALL ATTENTION SEEKING WHOREZ ND FREEKZ IF U CUT.

It's not always like that.
[I agree with highly_evolved]

But, uhm. Yeah.

Yeah, sure. A LOT of people do it for attention and sh.it.. but does that mean EVERY SINGLE STINKING cutter does it for attention!?
A lot of them don't ever tell anyone.
It just feels good to them.

Believe me, I've had experience.

I don't tell anyone.
Does that make me an attention-seeking whore?
I THINK NOT.

'Nuff said.

IT WAS SO STUPID FOR ME TO EVEN CUT MYSELF FOR MY EXBOYFRIEND! I HATE HIM. Anyways, it's stupid to cut yourself for a guy, like what I did (I was stupid back then) You're just adding more pain to yourself and not solving any of the pain. I understand that what people are going through in life is so hard to live through, just don't go cutting yourself, you could talk to people about it..

And if you're trying to kill yourself because your life is "oh so hard to live through" when all you're going through is friends problems or boyfriend problems (not including abuse), then you just can't live through life becaause you're too weak and a P**sy. Sorry, I don't mean to be mean but it's just the truth.

ITS f*cking WRONG!!!!

to me, its sad if you cut yourself. i tried and it hurt, or i'm just weak. but still, your being selfish because your hurting your family and friends at the same time soo..just my opinion

MUST I REPEAT MYSELF?!

YOU NEED TO SETTLE THE F*CK DOWN.

I don't see how it's "f*cking wrong."
ARE YOU GOING THROUGH MAJOR ISSUES LIKE THOSE WHO CHOOSE TO RELIEVE THEMSELVES BY CUTTING?
Perhaps you aren't.
Yeah, sure. Cutting's not the best way to relieve yourself and forget about it.
But at least they're relieving themselves somehow! It's better to relieve yourself in SOME way, because if you don't.. that will ALL be bottled up inside of you, and you'll eventually break down. Then that might even lead to suicide.
Now which is worse?

Temporarily relieving pain by cutting.
Or.
Keeping everything bottled up inside.. then eventually breaking down one day and that perhaps leads to suicide.

You tell me.
Which of the two is WORSE.

I think B is worse.

Yeah, sure. Cutting's not the healthiest way to relieve your pain, but hey. You're relieving it.. which is better than not.

Some people are asking why people cut.
Well.
I've heard this response from many, "It's the only pain that I could control."
Does that not make sense to you?

I'm not saying cutting is RIGHT. I'm just saying that it's people like you [those who spazz about how cutters are freaks] that lead people to depression. Which sometimes leads them down the road to cutting.
So just settle down and let them deal with it.

Most of the time, you're not going to be able to talk them out of it.
Unless they're attention-whores and only started cutting for attention in the first place.
Then they'll mostly likely stop after you telling them how wrong it is.
But REAL cutters aren't going to stop after a few words of reassurance.
Most of the time they're too addicted to stop.

By the way.
Cutters aren't freaks.
Yeah, sure. Some have mental issues.
But not all of them do.

It's not the healthiest way to deal with things, but they're at least dealing with their issues..

My point.
Just stop calling them freaks and saying it's f*cking wrong and other sh1t like that. You're not in their shoes, now are you?
So you can't necessarily pre-judge and say it's totally wrong and that they're all freaks.
That is so stereotypical.

And not all cutters do it for attention.
Yeah.
Lots do it for attention.
They're the people with mental issues.

Anyway...

Those are just my opinions and views.

totally agree ^^^^

newayz u tried cutting urself? wth!
well yea it hurts maybe to some ppl. i dunno..my friends do it for the pain...it doesnt hurt when i do it though. i mean im not a major cutter but my friends juss seem to LOVE the pain but theyre not real cuts! i can tell some of them want attention but i mean who does? if you cut the first thing most ppl think of is probly counseling...and i KNO they dont wanna do that

i don't think it's very....well...no...because it not only hurts you it hurts your loved ones and friends too =[ remember how much people care for you and disregard all the b!tches who've hurt you. They made a big mistake.

i dunno i cutt well i'm trying to stop. trying really hard. like the other night one of my really good guy friends saw it and asked me about it and he was calm about it cuz he didn't want the other people freaking out but he's just like please don't do it again and stuff and it kinda gives you more of a reason to stop if you know that someone cares.

i cant cut myself... it feels weird if i actually did, and it'd hurt

like most people commented, you cant force or tell her to stop, you'll jus make her have a negative feeling towards you or something. i guess you really need to talk to her about it, tell her it hurts you seeing her torture herself like that, tell her you're really worried, convince her with your caring.

my friend use to cut herself but after awhile she stopped..my other friend does but im not sure if she does anymore..she only did it b/c she thought everyone hated her cept one person..so i juss leave them alone b/c if i tell them to stop...they'll b like" i wish u were here to make things better"(i moved to ohio) or " i cant" so i juss let them b

you cant just tell ur friend that o u need 2 stop cuz i dont like it.......u cant do that cuz that will just make her feel worse and do it more.....u have 2 talk 2 her and understand where shes comin from adn ask her if she wants 2 stop cuz cuttin is like an addiction.......once u do it the more u want 2 and u dont want ne one else 2 help u and trust me on thiscuz if ur friend feels like ur judgin her then shell never trust u or want 2 tell u......and i no exactly how this feels czu i used 2 cut adn im tryin 2 stop but it aint easy so just tellin ur friend 2 stop isnt gonna work u have 2 actually talk 2 her about it then tell her that u dont want her doin it
hope this helped

talk to her..never hurts......

hm. does it really take away pain? I dont know. Maybe it does add more pain but if so many people are doing it, I got one question. WHY?

no it doesnt 'take it away but it replaces the pain and makes it easier 2 deal with......bein a cutter is like bein a drug addict......u try it once or a couple of times and ur hooked and that why its so hard 2 stop.....cuz its an addiction and its almost imposible 2 just stop just cuz someone sez so...u got 2 help them and understand them and why they do it

im not gonna even go in2 the whole thing where people do it jsut 4 attention cuz that is just plain stupid and that i dont understand but ya im not gonna get in2 it so ya

i hope this help some people

I learned in health that people cut because they want to feel physical pain rather than emotional pain...

yeah i don't think its a good thing, but i'll admit i've done it at one point in my life but not hardcore...just a little. it was an escape. a way to create other pain to take your mind off the pain in your life. i don't know...i see it as a stupid thing now that i did it though i have no scars. i hope that all who do cut can find a way to overcome it.

Get your friend to stop! It's not good for you and only adds on more pain. People that cut themselves need emotional help. I know that some of you think that there's nothing wrong with it, but there's plenty wrong. Good luck with your friend.

stop her..its not going to help her...tell her parents if u have to..

yeah talk to her, she badly need your help. if you cant help her then ask a psycologist to help you and your friend

yeah, i wouldnt go so far as to classify it as morally wrong, but im pretty sure its not good thing. im not so much afraid of that as i am of what might come next. like drugs and (sorry if im stepping on anybodies toes) the kind of people who are associated with those drugs. i see it as a slippery slope. so i say stop it where it starts... if it does start there. tell her to take up stamp collecting. or date a good dood. i think either will work.

in my opinion.. emotional pain and physical pain is waaaaayy different. ive cut for several reasons and i dont get how you can consider both the same. emotional pain hurts much more.. it tears you apart from the inside, numbs your soul, and leaves you feeling mentally week and tired most of the time.. well, thats how i feel usually.. physical pain.. is well... physical. you can only feel it on the surface, and it doesnt leave you feeling so hurt inside.

some people say "it reminds me im still alive".. it does in a way.... its hard to explain. sometimes people feel like they just dont exist at all. like theyre so numb, theyre probably in a state thats already considered "death." cutting helps them feel better cause they can consentrate on a more tollerable pain rather than an emotional one..

i recomend that you talk to her. cuttings an addiction that cant be stopped so suddenly. dont tell her parents or a counsulor cause then theyll get all worried and make her feel even worse.. someone told on me already, and now i have to talk to the counsulor when i dont even know her that well. trust me. it sucks. its easier to talk to a friend, rather than have to talk to a complete stranger and have your parents never trust you in your room anymore. try not to come out and tell her how you feel so suddenly, cause then you might have her fealing worse already.. ask her whats wrong first. tell her that you could be trusted and that youd NEVER tell anyone else and at least TRY to understand her situations.. talking to her about her problems and lending advice really helps out.

if you're really mad or sad, you don't feel it when you cut yourself.

it's just... something interesting to do. i guess.

but yea. tell her to stop.

i think she has low self esteem or she doesnt want to think bout anything beside her pain.

[SIZE=1] my friend used to cut herself too... she stopped b/c i told her to and she realized how much everyone cared about her and how much she would lose if she did something wrong when cutting...one little problem and you could die... i voted that I dont really know..... because ive never tried it and i dont think i ever will.... so i dont really kno and i do think it relieves pain.. but it IS wrong...[/sixe] im tired!

cutting yourself, has nothing to prove except that you think that it relieves your stress, instead of hurting yourself like that why not drink or something else, because cutting yourself proves nothing but niether does anything else, just deal with it....don't show people your problems...tell them...

Cutting yourself is a big no-no. i've been there done that.

i used to cut myself 2years ago n still have the ugly scars in my arms.. it helped me relieve pain but i learnt that it doesnt do that much good if you keep doing it n doing it u know.. i mean it made me a stronger person n everything now but thats cuz i learnt to stop it. no regrets.. but its no good =(

I'm a cutter myself, back her off. Even if you want her to stop. Cutting is a normal thing to sum ppl...it's never to deep to kill, but deep enough to feel the scream inside..This is a way of sumone expressing themselves. Because if u tattle, she might end up in a institution, and they can never come out of there...would you want dat to happen to ure friend? Dat almost happened to me...

Not long ago, 2 of my friendz broke up wit me because they remembered back last year dat i cut myself, and they said they didnt wanna be friendz with a psycho. Dats not it, it's not nice, because it's just the way a person is, and u cant be mean to them. it's a way of expressin ureself. I was really offended afterwardz. Kidz still call my a psychopath, kidz still tell my to go to a therpist( as in a insult), and things dat make me wanna kill them. My crush turned out not to be so prince charming after he told me "Why dont u go cut yourself again?" 3 times at gym class, and "I see in the future..dat u have problems and u need to go to a therpist" and (since my teeth has a birthmark on it) "why dont u go to the orthodontist?" I was soo pissed off, i punched him 3 times and kick him 2 times..the teacher didnt notice..soo good thing.

self mutilation is STUPID

umm. i don't promote it... but what the hell do i know...