HHm....my friend started cutting herself and im woried
She says that she does it to relieve her paine and suffereing, but i dunno, I've tried cutting myself before, and it hurt, so i stopped and to me, it doesn't relieve pain [IT HURTS]

I want herto stop, but she said that shewants to keep doing it because it makes her feel batter


Should i back off and let her do it? [im sorta backing off right now] but i still want her to stop

I think its bad to cut..what do ya'll think? And Do you guys think i should back off and let her do it?

u cant really tell her to stop, u gotta tell her how U feel, and u gotta know why she does it, and then after a while she feels comfortable talking to u about it u should suggest some other method to relieve pain

sometimes when i used to feel really mad or really overemotional i'd cut myself - a kind of outlet i guess. in a way it was a transfer of emotional pain - something that isnt expressed very easily - to something physical that could be felt and seen. does that make sense? i wasnt exactly a serious cutter - never got to a point where it was really bad. but i stopped because my friends kept talking to me about it. so...keep talking to your friend...tell her how you feel about it and everything

You can't force her to stop.

She might just want attention.
But I don't know the situation completely..

cutting yourself to relieve pain is like going to war for peace, which is like f***ing for virginity. it doesn't make sense.

make her stop being so stupid and find more productive ways of relieving pain. seriously. what could be so bad that she has to risk her life to do somthing she only thinks feels good and doesn't help her or anyone? tell her to suck it up and take it like evryone else has to.

hehe. i just kinda flipped out a little

yea i think its wrong but i kinda dont noe...

my friend used to cut herself as well, and i asked her why she did it.
she said, "it reminded me that i'm alive."


i don't talk to that girl anymore. seriously, she has problems.

anyways for your friend, if it's really serious, then you should get help. try to talk to her first and understand what she's going through.

no its not ok. it could kill u so of course its not ok (i use to cut, call me a hippocrit w/e itsa still wrong)

cutting is a way to redirect the pain your feeling inside to a physical pain, which is relieving because you forget your emotional pain. I think cutting is a destructive way to relieve your temporary problems. you should talk to her... it's usually a phase some people go through but if it's not she might become suicidal.

wow. seek help.

I hate how people try to seperate "emotional" and "physical" pain. It's all pain, one isnt better then the other..both need to be treated accordingly. Replacing emotional pain with physical pain doesnt help the overall "sum of pain"..if you get what im saying.

You're just kinda...shifting it around for no good reason.

shyte, son. "sum of pain"! theres a song in there somwhere *runs off to write the song "sum of pain"*

Tell her parents.
This is serious, and she could end up in the hospital if it goes too far.

tell her ull help her by slapping her, and wen she complains say ur helping her cause pain to herself. that'll teach her. slap her hard, and if u must, sock her. then threaten to kick her in the shins, hard.

well, people say that it "relieves pain" BECAUSE, when yu cut yourself, your not thinking about the pain yu had before BUT yu think about the pain yu have NOW xP so that means, she fergets the problems + pain she had earlier cuz she just cut herself and all she could think about is her bleeding arm =.=
BUT SERIOUSLY...it's like your friends smoking, drinking, doing drugs, etc. if yu tell them to stop cuz yu dunt want them getting hurt, they won't listen. but tell her wat yu think and mayb she'll get better :]
there's always a punching bag ^^

first talk to her as a friend, not a parent. tell her that you care about her and you don't want her ending up hurt, and if she can't listen and still does it, talk to her parents or a counselor.

friends dont let friends hurt themselves. if your a friend yooh should realli stop her. do whatever yooh can cuz shes hurting herself by cutting. its not doing anything for her except for losing blood and leaving marks.

yea. what they all said lol.. just talk to her about it and let her know you care. she may be doing it because of a guy. a friend. or anything. and shes cutting herself to suposedly(however you spell it.) make it better.tell her if something is upsetting her or something is going wrong or whatever that she can always go to you to talk to. dont let her cut herself . that hurts my stomach when i hear that

I used to cut myself. Just to let you know, friends pressured me to stop but their pressuring just made me want to do it more. Don`t yell at your friend and tell them negetive stuff to make them feel bad. That`s very bad. I don`t do it for attention, i just found it a way to take away my emotional pain.

Emotional pain and physical pain is the same ish. So you really can't say that you escape one to go to the other.

Anyhoo, you should tell her parents.

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sorry.
this can't be spam right?

because if feel like if i do reply no matter hwat I say someone will be against it and start some huge debate with me.

Go ahead. It's your opinion right? =)

cuttings awesome

Cutting yourself is a no-no

Sometimes you really have to let go of the pain..Maybe she just doesn't want to cry...so cutting relieves everything. My guy friend is like that, but he promised me he won't cut if I don't cut. (I don't cut at all. Never did), but I really wanted him to stop...

you cant force her to stop but id really express my feelings to her telling her ur worried for her and stuff like that..but maybe shes just cutting her self becuz of emotional feelings..Love..Broken Family maybe?
you should really try finding out whats up with her thought

i think no one should be cutting themselves no matter how bad the situation is

Remember; Friends don't let other friends get hurt.

If she's your real friend, she will listen to you. Tell her to stop and she's just giving herself more damage than what she really is doing deep down. Or.. you can always treat her out or something, just keep her away from being alone. Does your friend do it in front of you?

thnx you guys i will tlak to her more and i'll tell her if shes depressed, why doesnt she just eat ice cream or sumthing?

thnx everyone ^_^

its NOT Ok and u shud talk 2 her if she wont listen tell sum1 cuttin yurself is serious... reely

its wrong its wrong. if u want to let go of pain, you go find help or something else. cutting urself doesnt solve the prob of wuts causing ur pain.

i think cutting yourself is wrong. and ppl should stop doing it. it would stop against infection and u probaly would live longer than u would if u cut urself...

i've stopped =x because if you think outside the box.. its stupid.. and just like doing basically to get attention and to get yourself into trouble -__-;; and its no fun and.. the eating ice cream thing was one thing to stop me from cutting

Yea i think you should back off.. because the more you tell her not to do it, she might just be doig it more to get attention.


or there are just some of those masochistic people.. (I personally am interested in those people) who like the pain~ or whatever.. haha

Yeah, my friend cuts herself, and she says it's for emotional stability. I don't wanna cut myself no matter how emotionally hurt I get because I'd hate to do that to my body since seeing my own blood frightens me.

its wrong

I use to cut and i use to say the same thing. But i realized i was hurting myself and the people around me. The cuts are now scars. I still have them on my wrist today, I use to cut myself on my thighs too. I still do it sometimes.

it's not a really good way to relieve the pain/stress/etc. i learned my lesson.

there are a lot of pplz that cut themselvez..they all have different reasonz...i have friendz that cut themselvez too...but they all say that it helpz them cope with something...if u really care about her then try to talk to her about her problemz...or help her find a different way of releasing the pain....

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as her friend you need to talk to her being that i was a cutter for a while i know how it feelsand you normally only end up cutting if you are in great emotional pain she probably feels alone and needs some one to talk to just to vent most of the time cuttign is the only options cutters see to vent but give her a healthy outlet let her talk with you and if you see fit then give her some help she will end up cutting deeper the more she cuts the more you cut the more you need to feel pain to relieve stress and surface cuts became not a enough very quick just be her friend thats all you can really do good luck let me know how she is doing

When ppl cut themselves, their brain releases a kind of chemical called endorphins, which makes the person FEEL GOOD. ..At least that's what I heard.

Cutting might lead to other things. Suicide? o_O hope not.

um yeah...dont force her.. i cutt myself.. i hated it when i told a friend..and she tole people..and then...people were tellin me to stop..i mean...us cutters will stop @ our own time. i`ve tried therapy..it didnt work. so dont waste money...
but u can tell her..for advice..which my friends always told me..
CRY dont CUT
l0l even though i dont follow that... LMAO

help her out by cutting her wen shes cutting herself. i see nothing wrong with that.

I did it before...NOT COOL! I found other ways to relieve stress

*Writing in a journal

*excercising

*running in circles with a SpongeBob plush toy screaming IM READY!! (LOL)

*laughing

(laughing releases a chemical which relieves stress)


lets see...laughing....or big bloody gashes that leave scars... I think I'll go with laughing.

i cut myself once. i was really depressed in 5th grade cuz i wasnt cool enuf or wutever. i wasnt bewautiful and i didnt have nice stuff cuz my faamily was realy poor. iw as really lame in elemntary, then i moved cuz we culd live in a better place now and i got prettier,taler, my body was more shaped into a nice feminen body and i liked myself cuz i have alot of god traits from my parents. :) so then i remember back then and i know its wrong. never cut urself, the future is bright.

cutting is for ppl that need attention, usually the losers that have no friends and eat alone at lunch, and parents work all the time so they can't spend time with the kid...so give yer friend more attention or something

People who cut themselves obviously don't care about how much it hurts, the possible infections or the possible death... those 3 things are the reason they are doing it... plus to get attention.
Clinical Studies have already proven stuff like that to be a subconscious plea for attention from those whom the "cutter" cares about but thinks the person to not care about them [either directly or indirectly].
The only way to get your friend to stop is to get beneath the skin (no pun intended) and show this person that you do and other people do really care... no bull crap though, you must go beyond words and actually be a friend to this person... be around them, give them words of encouragement, call them randomly and let them know you were thinking about them... just try and not be stalker-esque about it.

i agree with him! but cutting yourself really isn't safe.

totally wrong.. waaay wrong.. i kno some ppl think cutting urself is pain relieving but the more scars u make.. the more stress it brings. it only brings relief for a moment then it dissapears and then u hav ppl on ur butt if they find out. i never cut myself and im darn proud

its pain relieving because they're getting attention, braggtastic is right, it is a clinical study that shows its a plea for attention