i had a serious urge to post this on the guy's lockerroom,,...but i figured i poked my butt in there too much, so i'll post this up here

girls: do you ask guys out? do you feel comfortable with it? what exactly do you say?

guys: do you like it when girls ask you out?


...cuz theres this guy at my school...i have a feeling he likes me, and i reeally really like him...but i don't want to be the one askin him out...if ya know what i mean...

haha, nope, I don't ask guys out, I'm too chicken. But my best friend is a guy, and he's told me that most guys woudn't have a problem with the girl making the first move, cuz apparently they stress out over it sometimes--that whole fear of rejection thing. I say go for it, just say 'hey, I was wondering if maybe you'd want to get together and go out sometime, maybe see a movie this weekend or something.' leave it open, kind of, so he's not way pressured into anything. or get some of your friends and go out with some of his friends, and just see how it goes.

Good luck!!!

I don't really mind at all. Plus, I don't find anything wrong with it. Just a rare occasion.

dont matter 2 me

if a girl asked me out instead i'd be completely fine with it.. it would show that she feels the same way about me =]

a lot of times, guys do all the work trying to get the grl, starting convo, flirting etc.. so i'm pretty confident that we as guys won't mind grls making it easier for us sometime.

ehm im completely fine with girls asking guys out...just cz i really dont like making the 1st move

Um, I don't ask guys out. I feel shy and etc. I guess I get scared of rejection. But if I had to, I'll just leave it an open-ended question. Probably something like: "Hey, I was wondering if you want to go some place during the weekend. Maybe watch a movie, or something like that." I durno, I'm weird.

i know some girls can get really bitchy when a guy she doesnt like asks her out...
so if a girl that you dont like in that way asks you......................

if a girl asks a guy it.. the tradition is being taken away.. its cool and all.. but i prefer when guys ask girls out.. more old school.. ya know?

i agree with him!!!

i've never asked a guy out before becuz im one of those who are afraid of rejection. but if it counts for like dances and stuffs like that i asked the boys cuz i didnt feel like waiting for one to ask.

I was never really asked out by a guy, well my bf that is.. its just.. well.. happend!

But I agree on the guy asking out the girl best.. It just doesn't seem normal when it comes to a girl asking a guy..

here's a thought.. would a girl ask a guy to marry her?? haha never been done.. (in my knowledge) its just not right.. it loses its meaning..

yeah...i agree with the tradition thing. so ...yeah.

I agree, I dont mind, but it does make me feel good considering all of the times Ive gone out on a limb to ask the girl.

i dont like asking guys out
im shy and afraid of rejection

heh, my first gf, asked me out. But the other two times I asked her... funny though, of all three times we went out she dumped me for another guy and then came back begging to go with me.

The third time I told myself thas it... its better juss to be friends.

hehe nahh* datll jus show u wer desperate...i wudnt...pero if ur sure no chance of rejection den i guess u cud...but id play hard ta get...hehehe

English please.

hmm i'm likin the 'hard to get' idea.

my english teacher asked us this, and most guys were all like 'yea, why do we hafta do all the work?'

but...i dunno

i dont ask guys out i get toooooo nevous lol. and i am afraid of being "rejected" so i wait for the guy to ask me out. i give hints saying that i like them etc...

yur not alone, i feel da same way

yeah, i agree on that one.
well, personally, i wudn't ask guys out

you can say i am accustomed to being old fashion and guys are the ones that asks the girls out. it is very weird to me when a girl ask the guys. maybe because i think thats wrong and lil too much from the girl.

ohh me nd my frendzz thinkk that it makes yoo look desperate if yoo aska guy out so we dont really do it.. iono

its completely natural that a girl ask's a girl out. its okay, LOL.

ummm..

to avoid rejection...ask them first if they like you...thats what i did...

but when i asked him out...lol...he said he cant...

cuz of his parents wont allow him...

psh...jus cuz im filipino...

i havent asked why wont his parents allow him..

mine wont let me till college!!!LOL

but yeah...ive asked a guy out...it felt pretty good and confident...im so proud of myself...LOL

i dont ask guyz out its jus not da way it goez fo me

i dunno... i'm too shy to ask a guy out..

but it think its cuter if the guys asks the girl

don't be afraid to be bold and ask him .. :D .. there's ever anything wrong with that .. if i really liked a guy and thought he felt the same way i'd approach him first and ask him out .. it's not necessary for the guys to always have to be the one to confront you first .. we are equally capable of doing so

i would be udderly flattered. noone asks me out!

well i'm another one of those shy and fear of rejection type of gulrls.......so i can't really ask the guy i like out.....and if he does reject me.....*sigh* the relationship we hav (we talk occasionally in class) would go down the drain

lol i dont ask guys out but i have a whole lotta frenz who do.

girls should never be allowed to make any decisions, thus revoking their right to initiate a relationship. or you could say f**k tradition and do what ever the hell you want

I ask guys out and im fine with it i mean a rejection is a rejection, get over it and move on.

Exactly. So many girls say there scared of rejection and all that jazz, so does that mean guys are not? Off course they are, yet there seem to be this silly thing about guys needing to ask the girl out. Poor guys then have to fight of their own fears of rejection while girls just accept or decline......stupid. The whole tradition thing is cool but we're in the 21st century people so ditch that and get with the times. Oh and to add to that, I know soo many girls that have had major crushes on guys but because the guys were scared of rejection they didn't make any move as well, resulting in nothing happening. I'm sure there would be more relationships if girls made more off an effort, like guys.

Anyways I don't mind asking girls out nor do I mind being asked out. Would make a change if I was asked out though.

I'd never ask a guy out.. cause yeah, pretty much what someone before said. Not like I'm religious or totally traditional, but it just seems wrong or weird in a way. But thats just me. Give him hints I suppose... like, dude, ask me out already :]

haha, I have the same sort of feelings for a guy at my school, but i'm not so sure he likes me yet. but i have that.. feeling, if you know what i'm talking about. but back to the topic, i wouldn't think of asking him out. unless i'm feeling good and spontaneous one day i might leave a hanging question for him, and.. hopefully he says yes.

ahh that sux, what if you're both good at hiding your emotions. i think i'm guilty of the same thing though.

I have asked a guy out before. It was scary, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I think girls should make the first move more often. We shouldn't have to wait around for the guys.

I've never been asked out before. I've always done the asking...must pick me some girly ass men then

Gosh, I wonder whats its like to be asked out? Must be interesting I bet

Me? I usually ask the guy out. I've got a semi-outgoing personality....and I always fall for the opposite kind of guy...(the shy ones) so when I like a guy, I KNOW he'll never make the first move. So usually I just walk up to them and say "I like you and I'm free this weekend!" and it all goes from there. C= Works pretty good! Of course, I always KNOW they like me first. Otherwise I don't know what I'd do.

it rare to find girls asking guy but i think if you like him and he like you and it take him to long to ask you , might as well (the girl) make the move give the guy a break cause guy always the one making the move they also scared of rejections , they shy and stuff too plus it make the guy think the girl feel the same way about him, but it is kinda of arkward to think about it, but if you guys both like each other doesn`t really matter who ask who; you`ll never know till you try :]

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I don't think that I'd ask a guy out....then again, maybe.......um no. XD Probably not. I can understand the pressure put on guys when it comes to asking a girl out......but if I asked a guy I'd just go red in the face. <---------like this.

Hehe thats cuuute. I'll have my camera ready to take that picture of you going red, hehehe

Well, if you really like someone then you should go for and ask them. Thats how I am. Besides I prefer chasing than being chased.

Ssshhhh stop it!

Oh, and if you did have a camera, I'd just hide my face.

I've asked guys out before. And they've said yes!
It's not hard for girls to ask a guy out, but for some
reason it's hard for a guy to ask a girl out. I have no
problem asking a guy out. it's the 21st century
A girl can ask a guy out! It's no biggie.

hahhaa~ i go for the old fashion way which is to wait for a guy to ask me out XDDDD yuppp buttt you could ask your guy out, try it out, maybe he would LOVE to go with you *winks*