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parttimeangel4
ok ive been goin out with this guy alex for like 2 weeks now. and hes awesome. hes never treat me bad or anythgin. hes hott-sweet-caring.

yesterday

he went otta town and i went to a family friends...and my friend dan who'll b a jounior had his friend pat over... SO hott. well i brought my friend mishelle and we went swimming with dan and his friend pat. and i wouldnt do anything with pat bc i have a bf... i wanted to kiss him SO bad. but i couldnt. but i gave him my number and sn.. i wasnt sure if he would im me or call me...and he got online!and he imd me! bc i didnt have his sn and he said he wanted to kiss me SO bad but he respected the fact that i wont cheat on my bf and that he really liked that about me- and he said he wants to hang out sometime...and i think i am starting to like pat more than my bf....i need to hang out with him more...but then Alex im's me today....

Alex: okay..ashley i need to talk to you
Alex: i swear you like dont like me anymore

me:why!?

Alex: cuz you never say i love you too anymore..you say.."u2"..and you never talk..and you havent asked me to do anything since the last time we did

me:im sorry if i dont say i love you. im confused and dont know what i want right now. and i dont want to say something to u and not mean it bc i dont want to hurt u. and i asked u if i had ppl over if u would come and u said 'idk' and i hung out with my girlfriends today

Alex: ohh..

me:and i do like u SOOOOOOOO much, i couldnt even sleep last night without talkin to u for a lil bit

Alex: ohh..

me:u mad at me

Alex: nope

me: k good

Alex: well imma go i'll t2ul i love you..

me: ok ill ttyl...do u care if i dont say i love you for a while...im confused

Alex: yeah its fine..
Alex signed off at 4:25:02 PM.


idk what to do! i feel like shit ermm.gif
babixlilac
i dink keep alex first cus u do like him nd he first
NawtyLilAznChic
i think u should try ta work on ur relationship first, rather than get wit sumone else...i noe that by experience kinda...u cant do that cuz eventually tha same thing is gona happen again n u gotta learn how ta handle it, u prolly jus miss ur bf a lot n this pat person is kinda fillin up tha void ur bf left

stick ta ur bf, u shouldnt dump sumone fa sumone else flowers.gif
parttimeangel4
ya but idk i felt somethin with Pat...and my friend who is BEST friends with Alex thinks i felt somethin more with Pat than alex...

i think i know more about Pat than Alex

whenever me n alex are alone all he wants to do is make out

pat n i talked
NawtyLilAznChic
QUOTE(parttimeangel4 @ Jul 5 2004, 5:48 PM)
ya but idk i felt somethin with Pat...and my friend who is BEST friends with Alex thinks i felt somethin more with Pat than alex...

i think i know more about Pat than Alex

whenever me n alex are alone all he wants to do is make out

pat n i talked

ok...that changes a lot of things...dont break up wit alex jus yet...jus lyk c wat pat is lyk...

but since theyre best friends...he might b a lil biased
parttimeangel4
mishelle...who was with me that night...she said that i smiled more with pat and stuff ...and she lvoes alex so much they are like brother and sister.
xBitterxSweetx
i say go with pat because your feelings aren't true for alex if you like pat. i dunno, it seems like you are more comfortable with pat and you like him more.
emrzz09
if he really loves you, he'll wait on you and stay with you!!
sutsami09
You have to say to yourself is who do u really like to maintain a relationship w/. You have to be comfortabe in that relationship.
SarahxJoy
I agree with Nawty, I think you should work on your relationship with Alex. It seems like you guys have a good thing going on. Although...question: You've been going out for two weeks and you guys already say, "I love you"? Wow. huh.gif That'd be way to early for me.











Well in any case, stick with Alex and work on it. If things don't go well, reconsider.
fullmusicedmajor
aww alex seems so cute...dont leave him.
TheSuGaRAdDiCt
wow, yeah, complicated... well.. you need to figure out your feelings for alex before you do anything with the other guy... cuz if he finds out or sees you, he's gonna be CRUSHED, and then your relationship with him is just gonna be tense and awkward
blowpops69
whoa thats tough.... keep the one u love
conster
i would stick to alex, maybe ur not having fun wit alex and u think ur havin fun wit pat more, spend more time with alex =)
joanna0304
Stsy with alex
Mireh
Dump him.

If you were so 'in love' with him, you wouldn't be ranting about how hot this Pat kid is, and how badly you wanted to kiss him.
pm3k
QUOTE(tainted_angel @ Jul 5 2004, 6:26 PM)
I agree with Nawty, I think you should work on your relationship with Alex. It seems like you guys have a good thing going on. Although...question: You've been going out for two weeks and you guys already say, "I love you"? Wow. huh.gif That'd be way to early for me.











Well in any case, stick with Alex and work on it. If things don't go well, reconsider.

i say "i love you" to my ex even b4 we were officially together tongue.gif

i've felt the way ur boy alex did...

like.. my relatioship started out strong.. like.. i was a cripple back then.. not actually but.. i dislocated my elbow from a wildass snowboard jump.. and I cannot bend it so I'm stuck using only my one and only good arm..

my ex would always help me with getting my books... hug me... and say "I love you" back .. or give me a peck on the cheeks... but as days go by.. she stopped doing it completely.. and I got confused and crap..

It all wouldn't have mattered if she didn't start with all these things in the first place.. u know?

haven't u guys had that feeling b4?
brokenskys
well i mean... if youve been with alex 2 weeks... thats not exactly a long time either... and it doenst really seem like you "love" either. i guess in my personal opinion i jus believe that it takes longer than that... to really love someone

i guess if i were you i'd just do nothing for awhile. see how things turn out.

but it would suck to lose both...
babygurl_xtacy
i think.. your are jus infatuated with pat.. ill say keep your bf..
iTs eMiLeE
who do you like more?
uT oH iiTs sTePh
DUMP HIM haha lol iono
islandkiss
is it just me.. or are you a bit unfaithful?

I think you should stay with alex. he seems loyal.
mizz_mithy
i say stick wit your b/f. he sounds understanding and you don't get that alot with guys. You just met pat so you don't know much about him. I say stay with your b/f while you get to know Pat as a FRIEND.
xBitterxSweetx
QUOTE(brokenskys @ Jul 7 2004, 1:31 AM)
well i mean... if youve been with alex 2 weeks... thats not exactly a long time either... and it doenst really seem like you "love" either. i guess in my personal opinion i jus believe that it takes longer than that... to really love someone

well it depends how long she's known the guy. i mean if they were good friends before they started dating then its reasonable.
skaterjswife2
alex seems loyal... and your relationship could last a loong time with him. stick with him..
literemix24
i think you should sorta work on your relationship a bit.. i mean..this happened to me before
xsweetdreams12x
Well, this may sound corny, but do what's in your heart. Like, spend the same amount of time with both of them. Like, don't cheat, that's not what I'm saying. Spend time with Pat as a friend but don't do anything foolish. After maybe some time, choose who you feel more comfortable with.
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