I haven't had a girlfriend in the longest time and it totally sucks. I am 19 years old and I feel that I'm not that bad lookin of a guy. (If you wanna see my pics go to the pictures forum and click on Member pics 3.0) I dunno what it is...Its so friggnin hard to find that special someone, and if i do find that certain someone then it turns out they don't like me.

*sigh* am I to be destined to be single and sassy all my life. I want someone to hold and cuddle with as well . I would love to be able to go out places with that special someone and have them fall asleep in your arms. I read about how other people are having the best times of their lives with that special someone they like and it just eats me up inside. Why can't I be that lucky? I dunno, do I sound desperate? Who knows, all I know is that this guy has a one way ticket to Bachelorsville and it looks like he aint coming back.

Just wait.... she'll come!

i can kind of relate to you. i have never had a boyfriend my whole life and sometimes i'm afraid that i never will. i think i have a nice personality, but i'm not pretty, so yeah. there isn't anyone right now that i am interested in. some friends till me to go out and try to make something happen with somebody and other friends tell to just let it come. so i don't know what to do.

yes, it would be so nice to have someone to cuddle with and spend time with. it is hard finding that special someone. i guess we just have to be patient. and you are a good looking guy. maybe the girls you have liked in the past just weren't right for you. and there is always ups and downs to being a relationship. so for those other people that are having the best time of their lives with that special someone, i am sure that it isn't all smooth sailing.

i hope this makes you feel a little better. :)

Wanna hear a story? Sure you do. It's long, but I'll give you the short version: dated this guy for two and a half years. He claimed to love me, I thought he did, and I thought I loved him too. Between freshman and senior years of college, he asked me if I would consider marrying him. Well, that's a tough question, not one I was prepared to answer, but I took it into consideration. Fast forward a month and a half: I'm in the middle of one of my computer classes, talking to him online. And he broke up with me. ONLINE. yeah. Kind of threw me for a loop, and when I recovered, kinda, I got to be where you seem to be now.

The thing is, you find the best things where you least expect them. I know it sound cliche, but it's darn true. I had finally gotten to a point where I wasn't looking for a 'significant other' when I met the boy I'm dating now. I met my friend Josh for breakfast during finals week, and he brought two of his friends, people I didn't even know. And one of his friends and I hit it off amazingly well. I wasn't looking for it to happen, and I sure as heck wasn't expecting it to happen. But when the time is right, it happens.

No, you don't sound desperate. You just want to be happy, which is totally understandable. And, no, you're most defintely not a bad looking guy. Pretty darn good looking, if you want my honest opinion. You seem to be a really heartfelt person--that's an amazing quality. Any girl that dates you is going to be tres lucky. Just don't force it, you don't want to end up with some shmuck who doesn't deserve you.

*hugs*

toughen up kid!

I know exactly what you mean. But one day, you will find her, and you will be happier than ever. So dont worry man.

its ok

aww you guys are the greatest. you really have brightened up my day substantially.

Anytime.

Don't worry *hugs* The right girl will come eventually Don't try to force destiny.

And I totally agree with starling, you def. not a bad looking guy (very cute ) and the girl that finally comes to you is gunna be real lucky/

Feel better

we're always here for you

My love life blows. Yes, I'm only 12 years old but it still blows. I'll tell you a story too: i was in fourth grade, and my best friend was this guy named Jason. i liked him alot, and soon it became as more than a friend. I had all these crazy dreams about our FUTURE together and stuff...okay fast forwarding to FIFTH GRADE..during May, Jason told me he liked me online. During that time, I still liked him. But i didn't tell him that i loved him back. Instead I did the stupidest thing ever [ I IMed him back and said, YOu're weird] ... and then a week later he stopped liking me and started liking one of my best friends. Then sixth grade began...five monthes of sixth grade has passed and Jason and I haven't spoken to each other ONCE. For a while, I was stuck in depression. I felt like our friendship was only kept together by LOVE.

I don't know if this helps or not but anyways...Just felt like typing it

ANd the only reason I got over Jason was because of JAMES! Man i liked him alot, but hardly as much as Jason. James, surprisingly, liked me back. I got with him on a Friday as i recall. 4 days later, one of my friends came up to me and said, James said he doesn't like you anymore. I was like, WHAT? I didn't want to go up to talk to him, i was really disappointed. As i was walking home tht day, my friend named York came up to me and said, You know James likes someone else, and she likes him back. I ddin't really want to know who it was. But i found out later that afternoon. It was my friend, Eva. I couldn't believe it. I ddin't know what to think. I just started hating both Eva and James. I couldn't hElp it. I was thinking, WHAT KIND OF LOVE LIFE DO I HAVE?? THE LONGEST RELATIONSHIP I HAVE IS FOUR DAYS!!

But what I'm saying is, You'll eventually find someone in your life.
Hope this helps :D

It's okay. It's best not to be dependent over girl-guy relationships though (who am I to talk?). I've never had a boyfriend. Ever. But I'm constantly thinking about it (it's becoming some sort of ritual). I know that I'll eventually find someone though.. however, going to an all-girls school isn't helping a thing

Hmm.. should I go into a long winded lecture? Let see how it turns out.

Anyways, I really doubt you need a significant other to be happy. I know, you want someone to hold and talk to, but you know what? You should just enjoy life as it is now. You have nothing to worry about. You're probably not going to stay single and sulk about it your whole life. Thinking about wanting a SI so badly may just make you go through some bad choices. I have no personal experience, but all my friends seemed happier when they didn't start dating.

It's like now they can't stop thinking about it. And since they lost it once, they yearn for it again. So cheer up, dude. Go out there single and have fun. You'll always have your friends. Someday when you least expect it. You'll end up in a relationship and hate it. Heh, just kidding.

Good, not long. I don't think I can make it any longer anyways. It's 12. ~_~

My friends have been like, INCREDIBLY JOYFUL since they got their boyfriends/girlfriends. So it really depends

Even though at times, I feel lonliness in my heart, I feel more happy being single for the time being u know? (College life)

Yeah..what he said. Patience is a virtue.

awww sweety! don't be sad. it usually takes some time to find that special someone. :) she'll come sooon!

This is a very old topic... >.> Please don't bring these up... >.>

My love life sucks too.
But I'm 14.

just be yourself and get involved
the best relationships come naturally

Hm. I wonder if she's come already and everything... especially since it's been 2 freakin years...

Though this technically does not need to be closed, I'm going to go ahead. Tal_Dara doesn't even post here anymore and so surely isn't looking for advice. Topic closed.