I started dating and can't help but feel angry at the fact that she still talks to her exes. Yeah I understand she can't just diss them like that, but wtheck am I supposed to do? If it's insecurity, then that sucks because I think I'm cool. Well... maybe that's an insecurity by itself. lol. I don't know why I'm jealous.

yeah, i know what you mean. i get jealous about stuff like that too, but i know i'm just being stupid so i just shake it off at the end of the day. although i agree that jealousy is indicative of insecurities on some level, i also think it just goes to show you how much you care about that person & your relationship - which is a good thing. just be smart about how you handle your jealousy and i think you'll be fine.

think of it this way though - it's a good thing that she's on good terms with her exes, because it shows a sense of maturity in how the relationship ended. you don't want a girl that will go crazy on you when you break up right? (knock on wood!) plus, there was obviously something wrong with the relationship for them to break up, so i don't think she'll want to fall back on that. they're called her exes for a reason and she's with you for a reason, so just keep your cool & don't worry so much!

wtf you little pansie bitch, if i was your gf and i knew, id shit my pants

You found your reason at the end of your first post, MrStrife.
You're insecure.

Espressive had it right.
She's with you for a reason and they're her exes for a reason.

^^ agreed

I diss all my exes, cause they're all douchebags
I can see if you're concerned if she's talking to her exes about things they shouldn't be talking about... or getting a little too close for comfort.
But if they're really ACTUALLY friends, or just talking, then it should be okay with you. It's just something you need to deal with if you want to come off as being the better person to make your gf happy. But if she or her exes is crossing the line between talking and full-out flirting, well... you need to deal with that differently

way too jealous. I'm glad u notice it. I hope you are able to control it. Atleast she's not mentioning her Exes often(like bringing them up during conversations).
I get upset when that happens, once is enough but anything more than that is just too much.

thanks for the advice. it was really, really good. impressive. but..

I am right now. We are no longer together but still talk and she comes over when she wants me to handle the business. Friends with benefits? But the thing about that is, I'm starting to dig someone else who got that personality going on and who believes in me.

*winks and gives a thumbs up*

well, if you're insanely jealous versus simply jealous, then i'd say that you're well on your way to being whipped (if you're not already there) and have insecurities about your relationship and/or aren't sure about the depth of her feelings for you.

that being said, i personally find it f**king annoying when the people i'm dating talk to their ex's without talking to me about it first. sure, they don't have to justify everything they do just because we're dating, but i think i'd be more unsettled that they didn't have the decency to think of how that would make me feel, or about the impression said actions give.

well you need to dismiss your friends with benefits relationship. talk to this new girl that you dig in. maybe it will help you get over your jealousy.. who knows? you just have to try it out (;

I used to have this problem really badly. It's insecurity, like everyone's been saying.

Part of that eases with time and trust in the relationship, the rest is up to you to be more comfortable with yourself.

I don't think jealousy ever really goes away completely, you just have to learn to get over it, you know?

wtf why was this bumped. is this the same girl you're f*ckbuddies wif

you do not trust her; learn to trust her.

lmao pussy

yeah, lolz. I used to be really jealous, but now I couldn't care less. Or at least I can act like it.

Oh yeah, the other girl I started feeling. So we had a one night stand and I guess she wants to keep it like that.

Damn!!! I'm good.