I haven't seen my girlfriend since Thursday. Maybe even before that. I got a call yesterday from her. She asked how I was doing and if I worked this weekend. I said no. (and an immediate dread came over my face). She says, why haven't you called me then? Only thing I could come up with was, well, why didn't you call me? She starts laughing, like that angry laugh. I tried to come back with 'Oh well I was with family this weekend anyway'. She hits me with, "Oh okay I gotta go bye." I know I messed up right there and then.

The with family thing is a half truth. I knew I should have called her. I'm just so used to her calling me. I called her back a few minutes later asking if she was angry with me. Of course she says no, but I know.

How do I come back from this?

smother her with gifts and attention. like now.

Let her ride for a minute. Don't call her again tonight. If she calls you, then you know that all is well, but if she doesn't then definitely clear your schedule to hang out with her this week, as she will be looking for that.

Chocolate and sexy messages. And you should be the one calling her now. Well, at least for a while.

I went to see her tonight. And she is acting pissed, but keeps telling me shes not. And I just can't understand her Russian self. I mean I feel like Georgia right now. I don't know what to do.

I asked, "Are you sad?" She says, "I'm not sad at you."

I held my giggle.

Haha. Perhaps you should just be blunt with her? A while ago my friend's boyfriend didn't call her and she was talking with me and my other friends about it, of course they filled her head with ideas. Just let her know that you were with family and that if you would've had free time you would've called her or hung out with her. Tell her you didn't call her because you didn't want to rush her on the phone and make her upset with you if you couldn't talk for long.

Just pay extra attention to her for the week.
Flowers always work. Though it's better if you pick out what goes in the bouquet yourself instead of buying those pre-made ones.

What karmakiller said is pretty good, so I'll just second that.

do you understand how she feels though? basically your attitude right now is that she has no right to get pissed. but girls are complicated. they don't wanna outright say they're mad; they expect guys to apologize profusely and make it up to them regardless if they're mad or not. if you're not up to playing that game, then let her know.

really, why didn't you call her? you admitted that the family thing is barely a legitimate excuse. girls like being showered with attention. if you feel that she has no right to get mad that you obviously weren't thinking about her at that moment in time enough to call her, then tell her that.

^ I'm used to her calling me. She's usually busy with work and she calls me when she gets home. She recently quit so I kind of feel dumb knowing that, and not calling her. But I was just expecting her to call.

I suck.

I feel a break up coming. Nothing to cry about, psh. Its just really awkward trying to hang with her now. Not only a language barrier, but now shes mad/ish.

Ugh, I hated when I was the one calling all the time.

If I was you, I'd just fess up fault of assuming she would always be the one to call. Say sorry [sincerly] and then tell her it will change from now on. And then just call or text her once in a while to know you back your shit up.

The 'being with family' thing would just make me upset as well because it's just another excuse even if it's half true. you're not admiting your fault here and digging yourself a deeper hole.

And of course it's always awkward when one is mad at the other, but this kind of minor issue shouldn't be the snap in the relationship. if you want to be with this girl, think positive and work it out.

A break up because you didn't call her for ONE weekend? That's really lame.

For the record, not all girls.

Breaking up over not making a phone call is blowing things way out of proportion.

Chocolate and .

Not to be mean to people who are saying to give her flowers and suck up, but honestly, if I was her that would make me more angry, lol. It would feel like you were being mechanical in what you were doing. Like giving her flower because that's what your supposed to do rather than just talking to her about it.

^ True.
But then she's angry.
Would she really listen rationally when her head is filled with emotions?

and [most] guys dont know how women think. so they don't know what to say

Placate her with a pez dispenser.

^ Huh?!

pla·cate

–verb (used with object), -cat·ed, -cat·ing.
to appease or pacify, esp. by concessions or conciliatory gestures: to placate an outraged citizenry.

=)

I just called her asking if she felt better because shes been sick. Shes doing fine. I asked if she wanted to do anything like go to the movies, hang with HER "russian" friends (I made the effort to make them my friends too), or go to the park or anything.

She says, "I don't know, I'll call you".

C'mon. I'm being cheated on, clearely. You don't go from lovey dovey to pissed in .05 seconds. Something is fishhyyyyyy....

Go over there and "surprise" her

I have to call her from the door at the apartment for her to buzz me in. I can't surprise her. I know what you were thinking. I am so ready to climb 9 flights via the wall climbing balconies. But then thats being a creepy.

I don't think that being standoff-ish means she's cheating on you.
It's not necessarily a tell-tale sign.

She's just mad.
Unreasonably mad, but mad nonetheless.

Dude, I can go like that easily, especially when I'm on my rag.

But I still think you should talk about how you were wrong to blame your family thing and that you should have been a man and fess up to your faults in the first place.

This same thing happen to me and I would have totally felt better if my boyfriend went this route than to get pissed off at me. no flower shit please, those things die and especially when i'm never home, i'll never see them.

The grudge is over! She called me today after I called her every single day. We finally hung out. She seems over it. I don't know wtf she was going through but whatever. She has a cold right now though which sucks, but all is good for me. Yeah!

You could talk to her while giving her a bouquet of flowers.

But yeah, CONGRATS! Nice to know everything worked out.

To be honest, f**k her and then leave her. You don't need or want a girl that gets mad nor upset over everything. Find a women with less maintence, and trust me it will be fine.

Tip that I base my relationships on: "You don't need the bitch, the bitch needs you!"
It always works for me, even if it isn't entirely true.

^

Are you a Marine? You sound like me a few months ago. But now I'm trying to change. I'm trying to be civilized. And have a heart. Because I have no heart. Because I almost agree with you. But that would be my evil side. I have to pull away from that cause it does not work in the civilian world but that made me laugh a lot.

She's honestly probably too good for you anyways. You have to make two threads to complain about her.

lol she is definitely to good for me. But I get away with things like that all the time =]

youre awful D: