My ex and i have been going out for about 9 months already. Then I dumped him because I felt he was going to dump me anyways. I felt so bad because I still had feelings for him. I started realizing this until later. Then as I threw myself back at him, he didn't want to go back. I cried and asked why? He said he still loves me but not in the way we use to love each other. Then after he told me he found another girl, she is pretty and it hurts because she is basically flirting and hitting on him while we went out.
He likes someone else.
I still love him.
I really need to get over him. Please help.
I'm a mess and depressed.
I really want to know if there is a chance for him and i to get back together.
He was my first.

Of course your still going to have some feelings for him, he was your first. You have to realize that you will find other men out there for you, and not just only him. Keep your mind off him by keeping yourself busy, like sports or activity's you enjoy doing. I'm not going to lie to you, it's gonna be hard but you'll soon realize that this was just a little part of your life.

yeah, don't make it seem like this guy is the only guy for you. it will be hard. but if you really truly want to get over him, you can. you just have to set your mind on it. i know it'll be hard to not think about him, but try not to. its times like these when your friends are your best solution. just hang out with your friends and you'll realize that you don't need a guy in your life to make you happy.

yeah, you'll always care for him, especially since he was your first love. but you can't make it seem like he's irreplaceable because then he might start using you and all that junk. its not worth it.

True dat!

Get your life busy. Hang out with friends, go see movies, or get into sports. Don't think about him anymore. He's not the only man out there, just remember that. You spend all of your time constantly thinking about you and you'll miss out on life.

Your first love will be the hardest one to forget. It's normal.
This is your predicament, though:
You were the one who ended the relationship. By doing that, you should realize that you gave your boyfriend the impression that your feelings for him is gone and that he should move on as well.

Essentially, you made your bed, so you should lie in it.

As for whether or not you still have a chance with him, that's not up to us to decide.

Don't treat your first one as if he's the first, last, and only.
There'll be more guys for you.

He moved on, so you should, too.
Distract yourself with other activities that don't leave you with too much time to think.
The day will come when your fiery love for him cools.

it's not a good reason to break up because you believe the other person is going to break up with you first. but i'm not going to lecture you since it's pretty clear that it's a lesson learned. you sent him the message to move on when you broke up with him so you can't blame him for moving on.

you say that you need help getting over him, yet you ask me if there is a chance for you and him to get back together. that is contradictory in itself. how can you get over somebody when you're still clinging onto the hope that you're going to get back together? you cant. so i think you need to get your thoughts straight and take things one step at a time. it's obvious that you want to get back together with him but ask yourself if it's worth it since that is not guaranteed to happen no matter what you do. and even if you do get back together, don't expect everything to fall back to the way that it was. remember - you guys broke up for a reason. there was obviously something not right for that to happen. i realize that people do make mistakes and that i am being rather pessimistic about the whole situation, but you do need to see the bigger picture. if you don't, you'll only get hurt more in the long run.

so i guess before i say anything else, i want you to ask yourself if you're going to try to get back together with him or if you're going to let it go. if you pick the latter (which i think is the most reasonable choice), i'll post some words of wisdom from recent experience but if you pick the other choice, then i don't really know what to say except - be prepared & good luck.

I am in a very similar situation that you are in. My ex and I broke up 3 months ago after going out for almost a year(also each other's first's) and I felt like the world was going to end. There was this one girl he always talked to when we were going out and he started hanging out with her even more once we broke up. I haven't seen or talked to him the entire summer and i STILL have feelings for him. And it still hurts every time I think that he's gonna be with that girl.

But think of it this way: If he doesn't feel the same way about you and isn't suffering, then why should you? You don't deserve to feel put down, and if he's moved on then you should too. You're just going to waste a chunk of your life moping over this guy who's already moved on with his. Instead you should keep your head up and just try to move on with your life and find other ways to be happy. If he likes the other girl, there's nothing you can do about it. You can't control what he does with his life. You just have to accept it and let it be. You just gotta toughen up and move on you know? There's no need to think of why it happened because it's already over. You have to pick yourself up and start fresh. I know it seems like the hardest thing in the world but you gotta overcome some tough obstacles in life. And trust me, no one died, so it's not the worst that could happen.

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^ nice advice...


Anyways girl, You will move on. You will find someone else. Nothing is forever. He won't be your first and last bf.

You must of loved him that much to give yourself, but what happens happens. You can't change the past but move on to the future.

I don't even know if I haveeeeee an ex or not. Haha

It's obvious you're still going to have feelings for him.

Move on.

Here comes the narcissistic sociopath to put in his $0.02...

Cut off all emotion. Drop your ex like a bad habit. Don't contact him in any way. If he makes an attempt to contact you, ignore him. Wipe him out of your life like bleaching semen-stained sheets. He is nothing but a distant memory. Suppress whatever feelings you have that resemble love for him.

You'll be fine.