how do you feel about a guy on the down low[dl] vs. a gay/bisexual male.how do you feel when you look at it thought society's eyes...




[[if this was posted before sorry i didn't see it]]

Could you please clarify your question? I'm not exactly sure what "da low" is.

I think that people being on the dl is find. I happen to know a lot of people who are that way, and I have no problem with it. In today's society, gays are starting to become more accepted, but not at the fast rate that lesbians are. It is very hard for a man to come out, because they are generally thought to not do things like that. For a long time in society, it was thought to be taboo, and in some instances, it still is...but with more gay television characters, shows, etc., I think that less and less people will be on the dl.

down low...

gay but not fully out about it...





but what about the guys dat do it with another guy [[keep in mind he has a wife]] and gets some unknown thing from him...like AIDS...you don't think it would've been better for him to have just come out...

I hate to be blunt, but that is a risk that guys who do that take. I mean I know that it is super hard for people to come out. Imagine a black guy coming out to his family as opposed to a white person. That would be hella hard to do.

I don't get the topic. How do we feel about sexual orientations? What does 'down low' have to do with being bi or straight?

Also, how do you expect us to compare 'on da low guys' with 'straight guys'? I seriously don't get it.

I think what she means is those who are still in the closet vs. those who are straight out gay/bi.


Ashleigh, it would help if you rephrased your question. It's just confusing people.

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yeah that what i meant...

here i'll edit it...

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i don't understand what we're debating about

gay guys vs. guys that are on the downlow...meaning their living normal straight guy lives but actually like other men...

seriously how do ya'll not understand this...

because i don't get how this is a DEBATE. are we debating which is right and which is wrong?

"how we feel" about something doesn't make this fit into debate.

do you think a guy should come out and just say "i gay world live with it..."


or a guy to just sneak around and maybe catch something and give it to his potential wife/girlfriend...

which means it is [[in my opinion]] a debate.


oops sorry for the double post...

i think that he should do whatever he wants to do. if someone doesn't wanna come out then they don't wanna come out. as far as the this topic, i don't think the issue is whether he is out or not, the issue is whether he is cheating on someone or not. do i think it's alright to cheat on people? no.

and no i still think this belongs in relationships not debate. maybe someone will come in here though and tell us why they are for cheating on people.

I'm little confused as to why this is a debate, too. I think that if he knows he's gay and decides to marry a women and raise children with her that he's not only not being honest with her, but he isn't being honest with himself.

As far as if a person wants people to know their orientation, it's up to them. I know some people who don't want people to know, and a few gay men who are out there and have pride.

ok well move i guess i don't know...

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I don't think it matters whether or not someone is on the dl unless they take it to the extreme ex: getting married to a women and ect then its just ridiculous, gay people want the right to get married to each other but some are marrying women and it's scary if you think about it you could be falling in love with a man who isn't even attracted to you...

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How is she going to find out if he's gay or not... if a girl is going with a guy she automatically assumes he's straight other-wise why would he go with her, u feel me so that's not going to be a regular question a female is going to ask a male. "Oh by the way hun are you gay???"

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Thats bull, because some guys you wouldn't even know are gay they're on the DL, they have a wife kids everything but go out on their day off to get it up the ass and their wife never knew so what are you talking about you can tell if someones gay or not. Not all gay people are flamers.

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That's very stereotypical i don't know where you live but in America anyone can be gay. Every day people ones who are construction workers, police officers,dudes who have a wife and kids, they don't have to be flashy OK do you not get that ur startin to get on my nerves with the oh you'll know if someone is gay or not just by talking to them . Read this then shut up OKAY?

http://gaylife.about.com/cs/mentalhealth1/qt/dltip.htm

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Like I said before stop being so stereotypical.
NOT ALL GAY MEN ARE FLAMERS. AKA WHAT U JUST LISTED ..THE WALK THE TALK THE HAND EVERYTHING. How old are you by the way? Because you're not thinking out of the box and I was just wondering what your excuse was I really hope you're like 15 or something.

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I know alot of gay guys. and some of my guy friends may be gay i'm not sure. the point of being on the down low is so that no one knows that they're doing it. And i know i talk alot sue me.

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Lol. K. I don't care who's gay as long as my mans not :) K thanks. And i agree with you on some parts....The gay men who we know to be gay yes we can tell that they are gay. But the ones we can't tell are gay don't have to be flamers ok? And that was my point with arguing with you just trying to get across that not all gay men are flashy and feminine. And men who are on the DL means that they consider them selves to be straight they have a wife and kids but they still go and have relations with other males. They don't think of themselves as gay.. OKAAAAAy you argue too damn much

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read this and then zip it okay lol

http://www.oprah.com/tows/slide/200404/200...040416_01.jhtml

yeah thats it...oh well i guess i can't like like you anymore...::



wow what a convo ya'll have had...


actually in my opinion both of ya'll are right...some guys you can tell by the way dey walk talk and mess but you can't just leave it on that because deres some guys at my school who talk just like that and act all gayish and whatnot but their not...well not to my knowledge anyway...but some guys are really good at hiding

ok, good. This really isn't a debate topic.

moved to relationships