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RylieDinosaur
I just moved across the country, and then this guy who I used to be friends with asked me out on a date for the next time I visit. It was great because I liked him a lot. I'm moving back in a year, and I'm going to visit a lot, so do you think it will work? How can we keep it interesting?
Be-Faithful
not at all, exept if your man has a 10 000 000 miles dick
MilitaryFlower
^^ha...wow^

uhh...it might depending on how ya'll are...like your needs in all...and how truely feel for eachother...
once again just my opinion...
Cyanide-
Personally. I dont think so
I know like two people who have just dated just fron a town or two over
First one broke up
and my friend cheated on her boyfriend.

I guess if you really trustworthy it could work.
but theres SO much potential of things going wrong. I would be constantly worrying if my boyfriend was cheating on me.
cakedout
no
Tramatize
no.
maybe if you can see each other like 2-3 times a month..?
MiSSP
QUOTE(Be-Faithful @ Jul 8 2008, 10:37 PM) *
not at all, exept if your man has a 10 000 000 miles dick


LOL. blink.gif
mizzkewl06
if you really want it to it can, but you have to have a lot of trust in each other and of course honesty. personally i've never liked the idea, but if you really love/like someone and are willing to make that sacrifice then maybe it can work. good luck! happy.gif
jaeman
QUOTE(Be-Faithful @ Jul 9 2008, 11:37 AM) *
not at all, exept if your man has a 10 000 000 miles dick


Exactly, so forget the hype because long distance relationships don't work. I mean, they work sometimes, but that's a case of once in a blue moon. I don't know, don't take my word for it, I may just be biased because I've tried one and that totally exploded.
Insurmountable
That's weird. So he asks you out when you leave to go out with him when you come back...a whole year later? That's just weird.

I mean I suppose it can work if you guys decided to like be in a relationship til' you go back and visit. And of course that's if both of you want it to work. If you both are open to date until you get back, then yea I wouldn't expect that date when you go back.

But anywho, if you both are in a relationship now until you visit again to go on your date and such. Then yea it can work if you really want it to. I would suggest calling a lot and talking and such, I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 1/2 years and I mean we talk everyday and see each other every couple/few months.
Persnickety
Make sure you guys communicate a lot if you're going to do this. Yeah, this can work out if you feel this is something you're really going to keep your heart on. To keep it interesting, do something new every time you visit him.
shoryuken
QUOTE(RylieDinosaur @ Jul 8 2008, 09:41 PM) *
I just moved across the country, and then this guy who I used to be friends with asked me out on a date for the next time I visit. It was great because I liked him a lot. I'm moving back in a year, and I'm going to visit a lot, so do you think it will work? How can we keep it interesting?

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AimeeLynn
Basically through my experience it can work if you are willing.
But again:
"If you love something, let it go, if it comes back it was always yours. If it doesn't, it wasn't yours to begin with".
shoryuken
QUOTE(aimeesayswhat @ Jul 16 2008, 03:10 PM) *
Basically through my experience it can work if you are willing.
But again:
"If you love something, let it go, if it comes back it was always yours. If it doesn't, it wasn't yours to begin with".

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Butterflyphoenix
from my personal experiance, no.

Unless, you trust and care for each other then probably it will work. But I HIGHLY doubt that it works. Sorry, I'm totally against long-distance relationships...unless it's just "penpals".
aaayotiffany
from personal experience, yes. we saw each other like every other month or every two months. it really depends on the two in the relationship. you both gotta be dedicated to each other. its hard as fxck, but its all worth seeing their face later.
MissFits
It depends on lots of things.
The people, how often you talk, how often you see eachother, how you feel about eachother.
I think if you guys really like eachother it could work.
Even if it doesn't, it never really hurts to try, right?
nikx618
QUOTE(Be-Faithful @ Jul 8 2008, 07:37 PM) *
not at all, exept if your man has a 10 000 000 miles dick

LMFAO.

&my bro and his gf has been together for a long ass time.
she lives in ny, and he lives in ca.
but, i guess you need to money to visit each other?
itll work out, if you actually try your damn hardest.
&stay faithful[x
both people have to work at it.
but its 'possible'
MarcelleB
why all these guys like you so much blink.gif
br3aker4lyfe
I'm not loyal like that. I need a girl to keep me on check to prevent me from flirting. I;ve tried long distance and I've actually tried to be serious. didnt work. you need to be really dedicated
shoryuken
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QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ Jul 19 2008, 10:36 PM) *
I'm not loyal like that. I need a girl to keep me on check to prevent me from flirting. I;ve tried long distance and I've actually tried to be serious. didnt work. you need to be really dedicated

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br3aker4lyfe
I've had my share of relationships...
just got out of a 2 1/2 year one =O
Pretty sure im ready I just unable to hold back the lust.. lol
shoryuken
QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ Jul 19 2008, 11:21 PM) *
I've had my share of relationships...
just got out of a 2 1/2 year one =O
Pretty sure im read I just unable to hold back the lust.. lol

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Glamourouz
I'm in a long distance relationship & we're managing fine...long distance can work if you want it to work. It's never going to be easy, so you have to find out what works for the relationship & stick to it & ignore everything that could possibly interfere with it
simplyytricia
In my opinion, long distance relationships don't really work out.
But, if you and your lover are really into each other and is willing to wait for each other then i guess it would work out.

But, in your situation, since it's just a date and you guys aren't really committed..it will be very hard to keep the spark between the two of you.

You guys are away from each other and most likely, what will happen is that you two will lose interest in each other.

BUT
If you guys are really into waiting for each other,

-then you guys can talk on the phone to keep each other updated
-web chat
-send letters

and stuff[:

princessxxx
you two must be ridiculously dedicated to each other. If you're moving back soon, then I don't see such a huge deal... it's just that I found out that the guy that I liked for ages liked me back after I moved across the country and we tried to make things work out for three years, but it didn't because in the end, the biggest issue was when I was coming back.... and since I'm never going back, it ended and honestly caused more heartbreak than I could bear and had me regretting the whole thing.

So really, if you REALLY think it will work, then go on the date and try and work things out... otherwise, still go on the date because one won't hurt if it doesn't end up working anyway. If it does workout, I suggest you guys to talk constantly and visit constantly. use facebook or email and keep each other updated!

hope i helped :)
jonesy91
nooo, sorry :(
Xcel
definitely a huge NO.

unless you both are out of school and are like 20 something years old..yes.

If not, than no way.

School will keep to too busy to meet him.
But if you both have the money and time to meet each other, why not?
angelrevelation
well I can't give any advice, but I do think they're possible.

My aunt and uncle had a long distance relationship between Canada and England for TEN whole years before they got married, and they're still very affectionate even after probably 30 years. And my parents stayed together even when my dad went to work in Singapore, and they're still happily married. But maybe that was back then, don't know about now.
xiiduckies
im sorry but they dont work :I i got cheated on.
ANG33ZY
Yup, they can.
paolabear20
QUOTE(aimeesayswhat @ Jul 16 2008, 12:10 PM) *
Basically through my experience it can work if you are willing.


yep, my brother and his girlfriend were in a long distance relationship for two years, and now it's been four years and they're still together.

Don't get me wrong, it was really hard for him, but its worked out.

but then again, their relationship could just be an anomaly. Maybe they're the exception.
DaCandy
Ive been through it and let me tell you - Doesnt work at all.
Melie
long distant relationships can work as long as the relationship is strong and so is the trust.

<--military wife
xhugerific
-sighs- sorry but it won't really work outt. i've been through it &it kinda sucked. we talked by phonee, and my phone bill was crazy high. & talking by aim, fer the whole day made my parents tickk. so yeah :/ but you know, work it out. see each other every week? ...or maybe month? (:
fairytale-magic
From what I've been seeing...

Most long distance relationships don't work out.

Long distance relationships require an incredible amount of trust and fidelity.

You need a lot of faith, too.

They're extremely fragile, as well.

Most relationships fail because it gets too hard for some people, not being able to be near the other, not being able to do all the stuff that couples who aren't in a long distance relationship are able to do.

But lemme tell you.
Personal experience.

Five years and three months to date; I've been with my boyfriend.

School is an interference, yes, but oh well. You learn to cope if you truly love them.

I'm in high school, and my boyfriend and I are managing just fine; it's very serious. [:

If you're really dedicated, then yes, it will work.
fameONE
Yes. They work. But it's not for everybody.
creole
imo, no. :/
the partner can do anything behind the other partner's back.

fameONE
QUOTE(ninjaBeenly @ Nov 28 2008, 03:35 PM) *
imo, no. :/
the partner can do anything behind the other partner's back.

What does that have to do with the distance? Your girl could catch a ride home from a friend, and suck him off on the way to see you.
creole
well, its the trust, but its only my opinion,
if anyone wants to do it then go with it
xiiduckies
they really dont work out well. :/
when i had a long distance relastionship everything fell apart. i didnt know if he was cheating on me. and i when i really need him to be there for me he wasnt there which made me feel sad; but if your realstionship is strong and there is a way to see him and i think you should give it a shot (:
(edit: my post before sounded so negative so i added somethings.)
forthesakeof
It really depends by the couple.
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