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hellosincerelyme
I kind of need some advice. Par-say

Me and my best friend have always been something 'more' you know?
I was her first everything, and she was mine. We both always had a significant other. Yet me or her, would always still be each other.

I'm kind of sort of falling in love with her. And I'm wondering if friends with benefits will ever be anything more than that.

Or its it just sex, and comfort when me or her is alone.

What do you guys think? sad.gif
MissFits
I think you guys need to quit whoring it up.
If you are with someone either be with just that person or break up with them, it's not fair to be with your best friend, too.
And, if you want to be with her tell her. You'll never know until you try.
aaayotiffany
awww. thats sweet. lol. the falling for her part.
you probably won't really know if you guys just have each other there or if you guys wanna be together until you guys actually give each other a chance.
karmakiller
Maybe you should let her know how you feel? If she rejects you, so what, you'll move on. But it's better than you feeling like you're being used and questioning how she feels about you.
Insurmountable
See this is the reason why friends with benefits is never a good idea. You need to be honest with her, and if she rejects you, then you had what was coming.
wwwww
Trust me, the title change is going to kill you two. Its happened to me dozens of times, a friend becomes a girlfriend, and we stop talking until we break up.
Kontroll
QUOTE(hellosincerelyme @ Jun 15 2008, 04:44 PM) *
I kind of need some advice. Par-say

Me and my best friend have always been something 'more' you know?
I was her first everything, and she was mine. We both always had a significant other. Yet me or her, would always still be each other.

I'm kind of sort of falling in love with her. And I'm wondering if friends with benefits will ever be anything more than that.

Or its it just sex, and comfort when me or her is alone.

What do you guys think? sad.gif


If you can get away with friends with benefits no stings attached, then kudos to you. But it will always end up coming down to that fateful question.

I tried it with my best friend, and for some reason she blames it on me all the time, when she first suggested it. So, it's a tricky game my friend. Tricky indeed.
Rachel
You really can't be BEST friends with benefits. You can't really even be friends with benefits. Once you get into sex, emotions are bound to follow. Meaningless sex, is at best, with someone you don't even know.

My advice, test out the waters and see if she's feeling the same way. Ask her even, straight up, do you see us being more than just hooking up, because I do. Now know that your friendship probably won't be the same after this conversation, especially if she says no but it's better than wondering WHAT IF for the rest of your life.
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