I don't know if this is the right spot for this.
Basically I was raped last friday. ( I still don't like talking bout it )
Does anyone know any ways to cope with being raped or any songs to listen to?
Anything will help. Thanks in advance.

Wow, that is really deep. I have advice, but it is not to be given out in public. Hit me up with a pm to talk.

Was the rape kinda like this.

I guess you would suspect someone to give an immature reply. I will be the bigger person and not soup to your level and say thanks for replying.

have a nice day

awww
i hate rapists

just don't worry about ..

and try to forget everything .. & if you wanna talk about it with someone close to you ..

talk to your mother or ur bestfriend ..
& about tryin to forget it ..

just do somethin really FUN that can help u frgettin what happened?

if u need more help

im here if u need me =)

Step 1. Rent the movie I Spit on Your Grave.
Step 2. Watch it.
Step 3. Emulate it.

But, seriously: You should tell someone you trust (as an authority figure). And, you should procure their help in talking to someone else (like a guidance counselor, or a police officer). You should fry the mother f**ker.

f**ktard. What the hell?

Jeez. I really don't know what to say. All the best for you

wow tung that was inappropriate. maybe if you get ass raped one day and you're helpless, you'd see its not that funny.

I'm so sorry. If you need anyone to talk to (although it was mentioned several other times by other members) I'm here. Finding someone to talk to would be a good idea. Don't let this bottle up and overcome you. You've proven you're strong and can overcome this. It'd be really helpful if you told someone -- your parents, a close friend, or even the cops -- and get this jackass in jail, if you know who did it.

As for songs... I'm not really sure what your style is, but Damien Rice helps soothe me out when I'm out-of-whack.

Let me know if I can help more, and don't hesitate to send a PM my way. Stay strong.

uhhh who does?

maybe try watching speak, its a great movie. but try to talk to someone you know really well and who wont judge you.

thanks for all your replys.
ill try renting those movies.
also thanks everyone for being there.

how did you get raped? walking down a dark alley?

that. and you can pm me if you ever want to bitch it out or anything, man. even if it isn't about this, but i'll listen if you need.

Rape isn't always the violent shit you see on TV. If you have sex with someone who doesn't consent, then it's rape. It doesn't mean if s/he never tried to fight or scream for help.

Besides renting Speak, I think you need to talk it out as well. Do you have a best friend? I'm not saying you should go seek counseling or tell everyone you know, but sometimes, a close friend that's willing to listen is key.

thats why i asked, how did you get raped.

^ Why would she want to post it up here if she's not comfortable discussing it? Oh yeah, my dad beat me and sexually abused me the other day, then some guy gave me a roofie and did things to me while I was passed out.

It's not shit you talk about or usually post on the forum boards. I'm surprised you asked, because generally, people have enough tact not to.

well i should've probably took it to the pm's then, when I help someone I use information they would tell in order for me to say something detailed and thorough but your right it's shit you regularly don't talk about on a forum board.

i dont think anyone wants to answer that easily if they were raped. those memories are painful and you're asking for soemone to recalled a painful memory that hurt them so much? you're only asking for more emotional pain.

shouldnt you be concern about your weight rather than simply asking a reckless question? what were you thinking?

you should watch HAVOC, this one bitch gets three dicks! crazy shit.

lol and who the f**k are you? yall showing sympathy for a girl that likes to meet random dudes and give em head in the bath tub. I wouldn't be surprised if she got raped. Maybe she don;t like talking about cuz the sex wasn't good. she posted on a forum already told people she was raped, if she had any common sense she wouldnt bring that shit here. stick her problems within her friends or family not on a forum.

^wow, SHUT UP. can you be more of an a-hole? what do you know about this girl? absolutely nothing. so don't be throwing around your judgmental bullshit.

all of you, cut the crap.

lol and who the f**k are you? a mod? is this how mods are suppose to act? don't you have some kind way to handle things? how about you shut up and stop bitching. go look through her topics and post, you can easily tell she aint so innocent. and how was I being an a-hole? I wasn't talking to your ass, you don't know shit about her either and you defending her? I don't give a f**k if the whole forum gets on me, you already have f**ked up and corrupted people here anyway. so don't get at me ok bitch?

owned.

check your pm's, please.

seriously now, let's not muddy this thread anymore. if you need to take something up with me, talk to me on aim/email/pm.

Ey yo, this slut, this slut runnin' around talkin' about "I got rape nine times, I got rape."

Want everybody to be motherf**kin' sympathetic? Ey yo, pull your skirt down b. Sluts get rape everyday b, you tough? HAHAHA

LMAO!

haha, wow, i just read her previous posts. wtf.

I think the circumstances surrounding her alleged rape are important to know so we can help her figure out how she can cope with it. Walking down an alley and violently being raped is different from being drunk at a party and not being able to say no.

And that's where the term "Gray Rape" comes in to play.

Please define it.

“A New Kind of Date Rape,” defined “gray rape” as “sex that falls somewhere between consent and denial and is even more confusing than date rape because often both parties are unsure of who wanted what.”

A girl might say "no", but does she really mean it? So the guy goes on ahead and have sex with her, while in her mind, she's half saying no she doesn't want it, and the other half, she wants it. We learned about this two weeks ago in Womans Studies class. It's a whole big confusing issue.

Another example would be if the girl were drunk, and had sex with some dude, and wakes up the next morning not remembering what happen, but wakes up naked in bed. She knows she had sex, and claims she got rape. But was she really rape? She was drunk, so she doesn't remember, if she gave consent or not. She tells her friends about her being rape, and her friends are like. "No you did not. Check out these pictures from last night, I mean it sure looks like you wanted it." The girl is confused and knows she did not want to have sex, but she was drunk. There lies the "gray" area of the term gray rape.

Best thing is tell someone..it's hard. You gotta do it though.. because would you want someone to go through the same thing you went through? He's still out there dont you want him locked up? Things will get better.. speaking from experience.

I'm so sorry you got raped, I found this CD on a search for rape songs... maybe it will help you!

Maybe you can find a support number in your area and talk to them about it?

Ether

Lets face it, some of you are overreacting. She posted that she was raped not through PMs but in a public forum. She basically gave access for people to ask questions. On top of this she asked how to get through this. When you only know a limited amount of information then the advice you can give will also be limited. Dr. Phil is a psychologist for example, does he just give advice or does he try to find out as much information as possible before preceding?

I can't say anything because I don't know what happened. Its like debating on an issue you have no knowledge about.

Honestly going to the forums is not the right place to ask for help. You need to see someone in person and ask for help because this is serious.

Talk to a CHILDHOOD friend about this. Talk to him or her and Let it all out. Then move on with your life, don't let this event take over your mind.

PM anytime if you need help.

Don't spam with smileys if you're not contributing anything to the topic.

If you really were raped, you should go to the hospital so that hair and semen samples can be collected before it's too late. Ask for help; don't just listen to songs to make you feel better.

thats why i didnt want to go in details cause ill get judge just like my other posts

but thanks to the people who weren't immature.

and for the others grow the f**k

^ I'm sorry for the other members who were being disrespectful. I apologize for them.

As for your situation, I'm really sorry for what happened. I'm not sure, but you should watch Hard Candy. I agree with Cristy, I think you should get help as well. There may be some time left since it didn't happen to long ago. That way you can burn that man alive.

@ me being the only one who caught this. The way you put it sounds suspect. Like you were somewhere you had no business or you set yourself up for this. I hope and pray that you didn't meet some random dude that you liked took him to a hotel and as soon as you get to the room 5 other dudes jump out and handle their business.

I agree with Elba we don't even know the circumstances that took place with the alleged rape. And that post makes me question the integrity of this incident. You leave me no choice but to show skepticism.

-Your boy Eli AKA ImDaBestManIDidIt-

This forum is f**ked up and so are its members.

They have a point...
Why would you come to an online forum to tell everyone that you were raped instead of going to the police or something?
It looks to me like this girl is just kinda looking for attention.
I'm not trying to sound rude or bitchy, but it's probably the truth.

Why not everyone who's shown sympathy already ask yourselves "If I got raped, who would be the first person I went to?"
I'm pretty sure the last thing to come to mind was
"I KNOW! I'LL GO TO THE INTERNET AND POST IT ON A FORUM! ALL MY PROBLEMS CAN BE SOLVED BY THE INTERNET!!!"
It just doesn't work that way.


Now, if you really were raped, stop dicking around on the computer and go talk to someone you trust about what happened to you, okay?




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Stop being a slut, especially if you're going to claim that you were raped.

Why are you guys looking at her past posts? They couldn't be towards the same guy, and also she's growing up and I mean she has questions and she just wants answers. Not immature comments making fun of her.

Anyway, Alyssa I think you've done all you can do right now, and you just need to go talk to someone about it what happened to get it off your chest. And when you make topics like these, or any of your other questions, try thinking of how people are going to take them around here. If you don't want the immature comments maybe its best to just try asking the question differently.

Geez there are so many a-holes on this site it doesn't make any sense...either way regardless of your past posts (I could care less nor did I go looking for them & as you can see some of these losers on here thrive on drama so they luv to start unnecessary crap with people), the best advice I can give you is to talk to someone you trust...Don't disclose your business on the internet, people are already judging you & they don't even know your story or what you might have gone through...whatever you do, talk to someone you trust & someone mature enough for whatever you need to disclose to them...good luck with coping with your unfortunate situation...

I hope you can recoop from the difficult situation, but I personally dont think coming to the forums to talk about such a personal issue is the right thing to do, people are difficult on the forums and it is hard to believe sometimes that some people can come out so easily about themselves being raped, cleary reading your last posts, it shows that your going through a personal crisis, what I would suggest is you see a counsellor or someone whom you trust because like I said this is a forum and people are going to sympathize for you or they are just going to bash you out either way you cant trust anyone here, unless you know then personally, if you need more help, you could personally pm me but i dont think that will help by alot, just take some time to think about it because theres 2 different types of rape, a bad decision or being a victim and seeing your posts, Im guessing you made a bad mistake, so just take some time to yourself and just talk it out with the people you trust, but not the community :]

getting a shrink is the best way imo

You hear that Mike, they calling you out now. If only they knew then they would owe you an apology Mike.

But since you such a nice person you probably willing to let it go.
Forgive them, for they know not what they do.

Here is my advice
STOP MEETING DUDES ONLINE.

As if dateline wasn't enough for you people.

report the mother fcker to the police. end of story. and to cope with it? you know what, if you could not do anything to have prevented it, you have to live with it but learn to move on from it. don't forget about it because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. learn from this experience and although you may seem weak about it now, this will make you a stronger person and you will definitely be careful with who you trust and all that.

i hope for the best for you. i am so sorry that you had to go through something like that. oh, buy pepper spray. :D

and make sure that stupid mother effer doesn't get his chance to do it again to another person. put him behind bars.