Ok here's the deal. I went out with this girl a couple times, and it was great. You know how it goes. At any rate, whenever I call her, I'm generally the first to hang up. She's always available when I ask her to go do something. All her friends tell me they think she likes me, and that I should go for it (I haven't asked her out yet). Really open, great conversationalist, etc. She's given me a couple openings, but, me being the dumbass, I didn't take them.

At any rate, I'm pretty sure she likes me also, and I'm preparing to ask her out, but the main problem is she NEVER calls me. She RETURNS calls I suppose, but never calls of her own accord. What's the deal?

by calling, she is showing that she WANTS to talk to you. what girls REALLY want, is to KNOW that guys want to talk to them, which is proved by the guys calling them. does that make sense?

But by not calling would that mean she doesn't want to talk to me...? Come to think of it, she's not all that outgoing when we see walk past each other at school or anything, but when I talk to her she usually stops and we chat until I leave.

I know she's not SHY. She has tons of friends (male and female), and I don't really have a problem with that.

I haven't known her for long, so maybe she's just not comfortable? I dunno.

You've got to chase her, not the other way around.

Hell, my current boyfriend chased me for over six months before we became a couple - I wasn't the one to call or arrange things with him, either.

i hatee girlss that make me doo all da dam work..

i sayy phuck dem!! if ima go afta dem.. dey bettaa show me some interest sign.. or else PHUCK DEM!! i aint wastee my time..

you guyz go out.. but u justt nevaa askk hur out yet../ huh.. wtf../

aint goin outt like goin out date../

Odds are you aren't going to go very far with that attitude.

dont call her for a while, she will be calling.

Moved to Relationships.

Follow the other people's advice, and good luck. I hope it works out for you. :)

I think she`s playing hard to get.
Either that, or she isn`t interested.
You decide.

exactly.

so the girls that like the guyz want the guys da call but they aint gonna call da guyz...?

WTF bs dat..

I triple-dog-dare you to make a sentence make sense for once.

he did actually. it`s in one of the sandbox threads.

I thought you were gay.

I don't like calling people in general. I return calls, but usually only call my best friends.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just go for it.

I would laugh so hard if you asked her out and she didn't like you.

Jokes aside, you might be led on. Just because someone is "nice and easy to talk to" does not mean they like you.

What happened to your translator?! Your english used to be so perfect.


Agreed. Then again, he is gay, so he wouldn't have gotten far either way.



I think this approach is always a hit and miss. I am in the process of trying this and sometimes it works and then sometimes it doesn't. If you are going to not call, make sure that you don't open the door for somebody else to come in and take over.

Okay, my boyfriend had a little hang-up with me doing the same thing. We'd go on dates, we'd hang out, it was all 50-50 and whatever, but I admit that I NEVER called him. And it was sort of on purpose, but sort of not. I'm a little more old-fashioned when it comes to stuff like that, so I figured, "I'm the girl, I'm not going to call him. I'll let him make the effort."

(That being said, all of that happened before we were an actual COUPLE with a title and everything. Now that we are in an actual relationship, I call him a couple times a day, and vice versa.)

It probably wasn't the most considerate thing to do, but I didn't feel it was my job to make the calls. I seriously wouldn't look into it as anything more than she's probably viewing it the same way. As long as she makes the effort to see you and spend time with you, then you're all set.

Exactlyy. Girls want to be assured that you want to talk to her. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

she might just be a friendly person who doesn't like initiating things.

i make it a point not to call people unless i know they're having a tough time with things. in that case, i call them often to see if they need anything.

sum guyz just to scur da calll da gurl.. dat y gurl gittaa calll da guy.. trustt me.. da guyy ginnaa wannaa talkk evenn u calll alot..

Maybe shes just not a phone person or she needs a little more time to open up. Im pretty sure shes waiting on your call though.

For any of you curious, I figured out what the deal was.

I was hanging out with one of her better friends and we got to talking about her. It's easier to explain in metaphor:

I go to a social semi-formal party and meet this really pretty girl. She's smart, humorous, and fun. I get her number and get to know her. Weeks later, I deduce she's a part-time stripper.

Basically, she likes a ton of guys. She DID like me, but not only me, and was just messing around. I gave up the moment I found out, didn't confront her or anything.

Did I do the right thing? Should I have talked to her about it. I ignore her when I see her cuz I really don't like being played like that.

dont ask her out. she will dump ur ass. u will cry. LOL!

^agreed.

but on a serious note. she probably isn't a phone person.
or like others said, is waiting for YOU to call, since you are in fact, the guy.

(something tells me i don't know how to use commas)