i love both my best mate and my boyfriend they're both the most important things in my life but theres just one problem.. my best mate really really hates my boyfried. how can i try ad fix this?

Does he say why he hates your boyfriend?

Let's see, I was in that situation except I was the friend who hated the best friend's boyfriend.

lol "boyfried". Haha. I wish my best friend's boyfriend can be named/labeled that. LOL.

Apparently, I didn't like the way my best friend being treated by that idiotic boyfriend. I still don't like him and I don't have time to chill with her since she's always with her boyfriend who is a druggie and such.

IMO, I'm not sure if there is a way to fix that. I mean seriously, it usually depends on your friend on how she adapts to you're boyfriend.

Why don't you guys all try to hang out somewhere and stuff. Your friend might get use to your boyfriend.

my best mate is a girl =] who is so tottally opposites to me as we like all the different kinds of things

and true.. hmm i mean what you said did really sound like what's happening with me.. on saturday i was hanging out with my best mate and then my boyfriend came and hang with us then she gets all pissed off and all of a sudden she just cry.. iv been friends with her for so many years that iv never see her cry before! and that was the first time she met him in person.. after that.. she has been trying to make me dump him

What does he do that makes her not like him?

he cheated on me once

^ I don't know about you, but I think your friend is onto something...

He's a druggie, he cheats, does he steal cars too? Does he kill people?

^that doesnt mean he doesnt deserved to be loved. try to make your friend understand why you love him?

Maybe they just need some time to get to know each other. Shes probably just trying to look out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt because of what he did.

your friend care bout you n dont want u hurt. she dont want to lose you.

In this situation: CHICKS BEFORE DICKS.

Yeah. I have to agree with your friend here.
She probably won't ever like him and it's pretty selfish of you to try and make her if he is a douche bag.

I think that even if you try to fix the problem, you gotta realize that if worst comes to worst, your boyfriend and friend may never get along. That's how it is for me. And honestly, I had to pretty much make a choice between him (boyfriend) or her (good friend), and you might have to do the same. Either way, the best thing I think to do, is let it kind of solve itself. You've gotta talk it through with both of them and it might just be that your best friend doesn't know him well enough, or maybe your best friend is just trying to protect you.

Your friend met your boyfriend for the first time...so you two haven't been dating too long, correct? And he's already cheated on you?

...If my best friend's boyfriend cheated on her I would hate him too.

Odds are he'll do it again.

I've been in both situations. I've been the best mate that "hates" a boy - but with good reason I might add, and I've also had a best mate resent what my boyfriend and I had - and still have!

Both situations were completely different.

I felt I had a right to resent this lad because of what he had said and done in the past. I knew he would only break up with my friend, and he did. Smug mode on.

Now, this "friend" that resented me only did so because she was no longer the centre of attention. I'm glad I chose to ignore her whinging and ditch her over my boyfriend.

All very involved, but make sure you know why your friend "hates" before you make a decision based on her actions.

Weigh your pros and cons.

Friends are more important than boyfriends. Never lose a good friendship because of a guy.

Word.

More like "friends before drug dealing criminals with tattoos on their testicles"