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dpl313
So I was feeling nostalgic about past experiences that went bad, and I was on a friend's page. Just because we haven't talked in a while. He's been avoiding me like I did something wrong. Anyways, I noticed a friend on his page. I read her page and it just had me curious to want to know more about her.

So on her page it says msn/aim add me if you like, etc. So I added her on msn. I've just been thinking though. I hope me adding her like that at random isn't weird. Like I would try to talk to her on msn, but when we're both on her status is away.

I was thinking I should just send her a msg on myspace. I don't know what to say though. My intent is just to get to know her, etc. Not necessarily in the hopes of a relationship, but just to get to know her.

Any suggestions on what to say?
Laughsalot
say hi. i was a freind of <dude's name on myspace> and i saw u on his freind list and i thought you were hot or something. it's not so hard
tokyo-rose
Bring up the things you read about her that made you want to get to know her. Ex: if you think the same way about certain subjects, if you like the same movies/music, etc.
CowerPointyObjects
I recommend you emphasize the similarities beyond just the physical attraction. It's less creepy that way.
Smarmosaur
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Nov 18 2007, 10:58 AM) *
I recommend you emphasize the similarities beyond just the physical attraction. It's less creepy that way.


yeah; chances are you'll scare her off if you be all like "yo you're hawt" and such-ew. shifty.gif
porcelain-00
lol my freind adds random guys she likes on msn all the time , and she normally creeps them out , but i know i wouldn't block a guy if he was nice and honest , dont lie about your age and stuff just be honest , you saw her profile and liked her personality/taste in music/intrests ect.
If she didn't want people to add her , she wouldn't have posted her msn adress happy.gif and next time she signs on say somthing to her even if she is away , i know alot of people put there status as " away" when there actually there. She accepted you as a msn contact and still hasn't blocked you so she is probibly not going to be creeped out.
Maybe a good topic to talk about is this freind you have in common?
livwho
It's better to message someone versus adding them as a "friend" on myspace.

Don't call her hot; It's so degrading and offensive.
MissFits
I rally hate it when random dudes write me up and say dumb things like "Let me cast the spell of love into your heart"
or
"Damn baby you look yummy".

It never works. EVER. If you are really interested in the girl don't tell her she is sexy. After you talk to her for a while beautiful would be a better word to use.
Uronacid
Yes, comment her myspace. Just say hello.
jeanna
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Nov 19 2007, 09:34 AM) *
Yes, comment her myspace. Just say hello.

or the ever annoying "thx 4 the add"
dpl313
So I msged her. I didn't say anything stupid or anything like that. I followed what CowerPointyObjects suggested I do, and I did send her a friend request. I don't know if that was the wrong thing to do? So she read the msg, and she rejected my friend request.

I'm not surprised that this happened, because I suck when it comes to having a potential interest in someone. Natural Born Failure I am. Thanks for the suggestions though.
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