just thought it'd be interesting....

I'm 19 years old, have been seeing my boyfriend for near 18 months and intend to keep my virtue until after we're married.

^Same:]. I don't believe in sex before marriage unless I am hella in love with the guy. Even yet, I might not because losing my virginity means a lot. Girls that lose their virginity before before they are marry are obviously desperate in my point of view. I can wait thnx.

I think Im going to wait until marriage.

I love you guys I promise you won't regret waiting.

Obviously desperate?!? Have you ever heard of trying it before you buy it? Sex is an important part of a relationship, and if the sex is miserable your relationship is likely to be miserable.

I'm not saying go out and fornicate with every dude you have ever had a crush on. I am saying, when you've been with someone for years and you really love them sex is okay. Even if you don't end up marrying that person you can look back on it and be happy that you lost your virginity to someone you cared about so much.

You make a good point Missfits; but some girls (some boys too!) are very protective of their virginity. It can be through upbringing, religion or just a personal choice. It was choice for me; and although I love my boyfriend dearly and would love nothing better than to diddle his brains out sometimes, I make myself wait. I love the idea that virginity is a 'gift' that is given on a wedding night, and I do so want to give that gift to my husband.

As for the 'trying it before you buy it' side of things...I'm sure practise will make perfect even if either of you suck! You have the rest of your lives together to perfect the art of lovemaking.

It's not that I don't agree with waiting until your married. It's a sweet thing to to, but MadGamer said "obviously desperate" and that didn't sit right with me.
Sure, sex is a gift but just because I gave it to someone before I was married doesn't mean I am "obviously desperate".

Oh no, I totally agree. That was a little too...I'd say 'abusive' as I can't think of the right word right now XD

I lost it at 17..
Im still with him too!

I lost it at 15 to my ex boyfriend.

I'm 16 and still a virgin.

I lost it at fourteen to a friend.

Sex doesn't mean much to either of us. To me, it's not that big of a deal. O_o

I find that such a difficult concept to understand, crueldade! Sex is the ultimate expression of love (and lust!)...

I guess it just goes to show.

I lost my virginity when i was like... 5.

BWAHAHHAA.

beat that.!

^I lost mine when I was still a fetus. Beat that!

No but seriously I don't think its that big of a deal, I hate the idea of it being a gift, you lose something and no one gains it so how is it a gift? idk I just don't think its a big deal. Im still a virgin though.

you dont know what you got till its gone

especially if it was robbed

i was 14

there's probably a bunch of similar posts.

but i lost minee when i was 14?
yess 14 mhm.
but, i'm not with the guy anymore, honestly though, i don't regret it.

i was 16. i even thought about it for like 2 hours. i didn't really care. it was going to happen eventually and might as well lose it to someone i "loved" at the time. i'm celibate now, i don't regret it. [it sucked so bad haha] even though i sound like i'm saying, "whatever idc", i'm not saying go have sex with everyone. i couldn't have sex with random people like at parties and live with myself.

"Have you ever heard of trying it before you buy it? Sex is an important part of a relationship, and if the sex is miserable your relationship is likely to be miserable."

so true. on every talk show they talk about cheating and it's 99% connected to not getting their sex fulfilled.
personality towards relationships can only go so far, seriously.

Haha, maybe jeanna! There is the whole 'seize the moment' philosophy vs the 'wait and see' one. But I do think that people that go on chatshows have more issues to them than just bad sex lives To be frank, I don't think I could sleep with anyone besides my future husband. I'm a bit fastidious about it really.

Though I feel I've got to say (again) that although I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year and a half, we're both very happy to wait and consummate our love until after marriage.

It is a personal choice; it's always about choice. There is no right or wrong with this.

I believe I lost my virginity when I was 13 to my ex boyfriend. I don't regret it. =) I mean, sure it would always be nice to wait til marriage but in most cases that doesn't happen.

What is virginity but an imaginary thing? Is it physical? Or is it emotion? Or is it mental?

JANE. You've been naughty.

I'm 18 and I've still got mine. I'm proud to say I've made it this long, but its not something I plan on keeping too much longer.

Physically, it's the hymen. But it is more than that and virignity refers to a purity in spirit and mind, as well as body. It's often referred to as innocence - which is why in a lot of myths and legends, virgins are often gifted with foresight or magical abilities. Once they lose their virginity, they lose their gifts. Sounds to me a lot like an incentive to remain celibate! Not sure if I'd like the trade-off though, haha.

I lost it when I was 15. I look back on it know and think 'damn, I was just a little kid'. I don't regret it or anything, I just think it's a young age.

^^I know what you mean. Except I still am a little kid. A little, sexually active kid. O_o

i haven't had sex yet, but i don't think that it's really that big of a deal. when i meet the right person and i believe that i'm in love with them, i'll have sex. and i'm not too sure about marriage. who knows. and if i don't ever get married, well then i'm definitely not staying celibate my entire life.

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Desperate? Are you sure about that?

HAHA. Sexually active people aren't desperate. Maybe you just can't get any.

I really wanna wait for the right person, but omg temptation -___-

Virgin. You know what when it happens it happens.

Aww I wanted to see if she responded to her oh so wrong generalization before attacking..

I have not.
but honestly I do not see any big deal about it. No one has to argue with me, but i think it's just another part of life or whatever. Shouldn't make such a fuss about it.

Haha! I was so determined not to lose mine on prom night - seemed very cliched!

I haven't lost mine yet not till marriage.

If that's what you want, you go for it.

not yet...
I'm planning for the right moment. I told all my boyfriends this since they had done it already.

i lost mine when i was 15 and rly i don't regret it. i lost it to somebody that i loved and cared about. and i'll treasure that moment with him forever.

Yes desperate. If you love that person so much, why cant you wait till you guys get marry?

I can't get any ? ROFL I am not a slut who would easily give off my body like you do. Thanks.

have fun living a marriage with horrible sex.

Dont worry about me. When I finally get marry I'll have sex every night hahah.

yeah, ok but that doesn't mean it's going to be good sex. a lot of marriages end because the sex sucks and the reason they cheat.

so your telling me and me and my husband will end up breaking up cause of bad sex and he cheats ? ookay. im not even married yet, so who know what will happen.

I lost mine at fourteen, and sometimes, I regret it more than anything. We're not together anymore, and it kills me. I gave my virtue (the most precious gift God has ever given me, along with unconditional love) to the one guy I've ever really and truly loved... This was not a teenage fantasy, it was the real deal.
Don't take sex lightly; Maidenhood is not something to be lost on a spur of the moment choice.

I'll say this for all of you virgins; Congratulations.

(By the way, we're not desperate just because we've had sex.)

i wonder do people think of hymen reconstructive surgery. i saw on tv this couple was doing it and couldnt have sex for 6 weeks. was pretty expensive too for a 1 second thing and plus she could have broken it again doing daily things or something. i guess mental?

anyways, i think if you dont have your virginity it shouldn't matter to your partner at marriage. if you don't cheat with anyone in your past.. then why would their past sex partners matter now?

I agree Jeanna. Most women break their hymen before sex, hence the reason some bleed and some don't.
Hymen reconsruction seems a bit precipitous. It really shouldn't matter to your future husband/wife. I can understand the rejection they may feel because they weren't your first, but afterwards its probably not going to matter.

yeah i guess a lot is mental on virginity. i wonder how many people on CB have slept with, number wise. i use to be ashamed of my number but then i tell someone and they are like, "what? other girls i know have much MUCH more." i can't change it and it's not like i'm sleeping around now anyways. i've been celibate for 1 year and 2 months. what pisses me off about when i say that is other people say, "oh yeah me too." there is a difference between saying NO to sex and NOT getting any lol.

Haha! Yeah.

I'm gonna say "hurrah!" for everyone who says waiting until marriage is the best route, because it is!

I'm not ashamed, nor am I proud. It's nice to know it was with someone I cared about, instead of a random guy off the street. We'd known each other for awhile, but I will say that the relationship was a little forced; we both knew trying was a mistake, but it all turned out well.

I associate my virtue with love; I couldn't of made the choice I did if I didn't care.

Adults scare teenagers with sex to prevent pre-marriage pregnancy. Little do they know that it just makes us curious to try; few people are really in love when they have their first sexual encounter.

By the way, I think if you can't say the word 'sex' openly, you shouldn't be having it; just a thought.