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Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 10:56 AM) *
I verbally warned him for the bitch comment not his opinion. I can warn someone for their opinions ... mellow.gif


I really don't care sandraa. You've never really stuck me as a person who was able to see through the fog in these types of situations. It doesn't bother me. Don't worry about the verbal warning.
Sandraaa
Excuse me, I meant 'can't'. >_<. I can't warn you for your opinions and I know that you weren't serious in some of your posts, obviously. But calling someone a bitch and whatever else you said made me warn you verbally. Nothing more.

Ok. Let's drop it ... back to the homosexual debate.

EDIT// @ Steven, oh OK. Phew.
Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 11:10 AM) *
Excuse me, I meant 'can't'. >_<. I can't warn you for your opinions and I know that you weren't serious in some of your posts, obviously. But calling someone a bitch and whatever else you said made me warn you verbally. Nothing more.

Ok. Let's drop it ... back to the homosexual debate.

EDIT// @ Steven, oh OK. Phew.


It's cool.
CowerPointyObjects
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Sep 23 2007, 03:38 AM) *
So, you reported me for my opinion in a debate. Wow, you're 18 years old. Are you still in the "I'm gonna' tell the teacher on you!" phase? When are you going to learn that I don't give a fuck. Hey, while you're out there telling on me for my "ignorant" opinion why don't you go fuck yourself with a tampon. Tell them I said you're a cunt too. Oh, and would you like some cheese with that whine? xD

No, dear, I did not report you for your opinions. I reported you for your other comments. Get with it. And do realized that that was quite likely the first time I reported anyone.

You aren't funny.

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Also, I'm sorry it was so confusing for you. I was merely saying that if you're going to be a flamboyant gay then the chances of not being accepted are likely to be very high because barely anyone relate to your lifestyle.

I guess I feel like a large percentage of these flamboyant gays who aren't "accepted" want to blame it on genes or birth so they can place the fault of not being accepted on something other than themselves. I think that these "extreme" homosexuals should just accept the fact that many people aren't going to accept them because they are so blatantly different. I'll admit, the bloods and the crypts were extreme, but meh... I like extreme.

Confusing? No. Deluded? Most definitely. Perhaps you should consider that people would not go out of their way to find a reason to fit in, so much as that genuinely would be their reason for not fitting in. Much more logical.

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I'll try to be less extreme for your sake, sense you don't seem to understand. I'm sure the people who weren't going out of their way to tear my post to shreds would have understood it.

I understand perfectly. You're just wrong.

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I'm sorry, a flamboyant gay probably wouldn't get accepted by Jocks. Not all Jocks are the same. I agree, but in general you aren't accepted by groups you cannot relate to (this includes myself).

Way to stereotype. Not all jocks are the same...no shit, Sherlock. (Plus, why are you capitalizing "jocks"? it's not a proper noun.) Who really cares whether you can be accepted by groups you can't relate to? Chances are good that you wouldn't actually want to, seeing as you wouldn't relate to them either. Still, sometimes people are capable on connecting on a deeper level than just looks and interests.

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I apologize for being such a narrow minded idiot. I'll tip toe around every bush I see from now on. Try not to put words in my mouth next time. You should probably stop shoving that stick up your ass. I've heard that if you shove it up to far, internal bleeding may occur. That may not be your period blood when your taking a shit. On the other hand and based upon the majority of your posts, you may just be on an eternal menstrual phase. Either way, you should definitely consult a doctor. ;]

Oh do stop talking if you can't say anything useful.

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I am revolted... no I'm not. I'm just laughing at you for being so upset. Oh, before you tell me you aren't upset and that you don't care, I guess I assumed you were upset because you took the time to sit there and tell me how insanely revolted you were.

Why should you be revolted? I'm not the idiot here. And I hate it when people do that ridiculous thing where they tell you not to say that you aren't upset...because maybe I actually am not. Don't bother trying to pigeonhole me like that.


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She is Menstruation. Find it in the dictionary, you'll see her face even though it's not in her profile. Watch out, she'll tear your bloody head off.


^Click the tiny purple arrow to see where she wrote it.

I was only playin... xD

You still aren't funny. But it is sad to see that no one here understands what I find humorous anymore. Oh yeah, that's why I left.
CowerPointyObjects
QUOTE(Steven @ Sep 23 2007, 09:15 AM) *
Cower if you're going to report a post for being misguided and using mean words, you should probably make sure that you take out all your cussing and insults as well, because that just makes you look foolish.

I see no reason to exclude profanity. Amd that most certainly is not why I reported him. The part where he was misguided wasn't entirely pertinent either, so much as true.

Do you not see the part where he said he'd stop "acting Chinese and tell [her] off"? Sorry, in what way is that acceptable? Especially since he then proceeded to call her a bitch.

QUOTE(Steven @ Sep 23 2007, 10:45 AM) *
My bad, but if you're that offended by what he's saying, yet you still mention that he's "spewing shit" multiple times, w/e imo.

I wasn't offended, I was pissed off by what an insipid jackass he is. Now, I take no issue with profanity. I Have no problem with even using it in order to describe people, but directly calling them names in a debate shouldn't be condoned. But really, I just don't think he should get away with the Chinese comment, because even if it was supposed to be a joke, it wasn't funny.


Can we maybe not assume that I'm the one who doesn't know what she's talking about here? Becuase that is most definitely unture.
Steven
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 11:27 AM) *
I see no reason to exclude profanity. Amd that most certainly is not why I reported him. The part where he was misguided wasn't entirely pertinent either, so much as true.

Do you not see the part where he said he'd stop "acting Chinese and tell [her] off"? Sorry, in what way is that acceptable? Especially since he then proceeded to call her a bitch.
I wasn't offended, I was pissed off by what an insipid jackass he is. Now, I take no issue with profanity. I Have no problem with even using it in order to describe people, but directly calling them names in a debate shouldn't be condoned. But really, I just don't think he should get away with the Chinese comment, because even if it was supposed to be a joke, it wasn't funny.
Can we maybe not assume that I'm the one who doesn't know what she's talking about here? Becuase that is most definitely unture.


Or you could get upset over his comments. If you don't like what he says, ignore it. Plain and simple. Some people say things just to get a reaction out of people. When people react that way, it lets them know it's working.
S-Majere
Obviously a scary debate.

I'm of the unpolitically correct view that there is no such thing as being gay, just being misinformed and hormonally imbalanced.

Cue rant.
CowerPointyObjects
QUOTE(Steven @ Sep 23 2007, 12:36 PM) *
Or you could get upset over his comments. If you don't like what he says, ignore it. Plain and simple. Some people say things just to get a reaction out of people. When people react that way, it lets them know it's working.

That makes no sense. Why would I get upset over his comments? It's the internet. Fun to argue over, fun to act indignant without the emotional involvement tied into real indignation. But of course, I'm not going to ignore his comments, because then there would be no point in debating at all. I also think it's more important to let him know that he's a stupid f**k thank just to follow the warped philosophy of 'ignore him and he'll go away.'

Besides, what kind of mod are you, just letting his awful statements go- and I DON'T mean his opinions- when there's very specific debate forum guidelines listed at the top of every page?


QUOTE(S-Majere @ Sep 23 2007, 01:23 PM) *
Obviously a scary debate.

I'm of the unpolitically correct view that there is no such thing as being gay, just being misinformed and hormonally imbalanced.

Cue rant.

Global warming is a myth and the holocaust never happened, either.
S-Majere
Global warming is a myth!
brooklyneast05
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 01:50 PM) *
That makes no sense. Why would I get upset over his comments? It's the internet.

then quit bitching and crying about josh
im with steven, just ignore it if u aren't actually offended by anything.

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I wasn't offended, I was pissed off by what an insipid jackass he is

u piss me off
i better go report u thumbsup.gif


QUOTE(S-Majere @ Sep 23 2007, 12:23 PM) *
Obviously a scary debate.

I'm of the unpolitically correct view that there is no such thing as being gay, just being misinformed and hormonally imbalanced.

Cue rant.

i wouldn't go so far as to say there is no such thing, what do u mean by misinformed though?
Michelle
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 01:50 PM) *
That makes no sense. Why would I get upset over his comments? It's the internet. Fun to argue over, fun to act indignant without the emotional involvement tied into real indignation. But of course, I'm not going to ignore his comments, because then there would be no point in debating at all. I also think it's more important to let him know that he's a stupid f**k thank just to follow the warped philosophy of 'ignore him and he'll go away.'

Besides, what kind of mod are you, just letting his awful statements go- and I DON'T mean his opinions- when there's very specific debate forum guidelines listed at the top of every page?


Steven has already verbally warned Josh.


Oh god, please no more Tama cards. -_-
Sandraaa
OK. Everyone could you quit with the witty comments and get back on topic? Thank you. I truly do not want to start issuing warnings. Totally uncalled for.

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I'm of the unpolitically correct view that there is no such thing as being gay, just being misinformed and hormonally imbalanced.

Care to elaborate?
Steven
I'm a mod who says what they feel like saying. I'm not going to sugar coat everything and bite my tongue because I'm a mod. That's bullshit.

Yes global warming is happening, but there's another thread for that, in which I've voiced quite a bit of personal knowledge in.

Homosexuality I think is a combination of nature and nurture. Nature in the fact that everyone's different and has different preferences, but nurture in the fact that upbringing has some to do w/ homosexuality.
CowerPointyObjects
It's amazing how good you are at missing points.

You realize that if you were to say 'just ignore it' to everything that is posted, the boards would be full of spam and mindless bashing. That is what was meant by the mod comment. And for what it's worth, I mentioned global warming as a joke, not to start another debate.
Steven
Well you see, I try to be as lenient as possible, as I'm not typically uptight etc. Sure I have my moments, but whatever. I'm of the opinion that that which is governed least is governed best. If I think it's out of hand etc, I'll say something about it, but if you're getting bothered or "worried about the boards" over one person, maybe you should either apply for modship next time around, or realize that there will always be this kinda stuff in the world and get over it. The sooner you get over it, the happier you'll be thumbsup.gif

Also, I'm not so sure I missed the point as much as you missed my counter point.
CowerPointyObjects
Oh, now I get it. You're new enough that you don't realize that I was people staff for a really long time, then head staff. While I was definitely the lenient sort either, I was also aware that "ignore it" was not the answer. Are you also so new that you can't remember when there was rampant spammage, because no one felt like bothering to say anything worthwhile?

Now for god's sake, why can I not carry on a decent argument anymore with all this "get over it shit"? I have nothing to get over. This used to be fun.
brooklyneast05
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 04:15 PM) *
Oh, now I get it. You're new enough that you don't realize that I was people staff for a really long time, then head staff. .


wow u were on people staff and head staff?!?!?!?!?!?!
UR SO COOL!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111111
Steven
Get over it. Things change. Used to be's mean nothing now. Yes I'm new enough to not know you were staff. I do know, however, about the history of cB. Michelle has told me plenty, and she's been around since April 04.

You can carry on a decent conversation, but condescension is not the way to go about it :)
Sandraaa
What the f is going on here? Can we all please stop deviating and get back on topic? You're all ruining the vibe. Personal arguments should be taken care of through PMs.
Steven
No.
This all started because of this topic, so I'll continue to reply so long as the argument pertains to the report from this topic.
Sandraaa
Steven, you're OFF topic. So, yes, you should stop. For the love of God, we're talking about homosexuals and not about who was head staff and who should get over it. This is ridiculous.
Uronacid
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 04:43 PM) *
It's amazing how good you are at missing points.

You realize that if you were to say 'just ignore it' to everything that is posted, the boards would be full of spam and mindless bashing. That is what was meant by the mod comment. And for what it's worth, I mentioned global warming as a joke, not to start another debate.


Listen scorpion woman, staff isn't on a witch hunt any more. They aren't burning members at the stake for every semi-profane thing that's being said on a forum. Do you think that your insults towards my intelligence (ironic, no) are any less offensive than me saying the word "fuck" or the phrase "go fuck yourself"?

Get real, you calling me ignorant or "a stupid fuck" is just as bad as me saying, "go f**k yourself", among other things. You're trying just as hard to offend me with your comments as I am trying to offend you with my own. You're just as bad as me, but I'm better at insulting you. Look, I have a lot of practice. The other thing that helps is the fact that I really don't give a fuck about you and the tings that you say. For the most part, I only reply to you so I can see you piss and moan. You never fail to do so.

I will admit, there are times that I try to throw in a few comments towards my side of the debate. Truth be told, I think you believe I'm so ignorant that even if I posted something to completely blew your side of the argument out of the water you would still find a way to disprove what I was saying in your own minds eye. So, I don't even bother with you. Instead I just try to make you upset, and it makes me feel very happy.

QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 23 2007, 05:15 PM) *
Oh, now I get it. You're new enough that you don't realize that I was people staff for a really long time, then head staff. While I was definitely the lenient sort either, I was also aware that "ignore it" was not the answer. Are you also so new that you can't remember when there was rampant spammage, because no one felt like bothering to say anything worthwhile?

Now for god's sake, why can I not carry on a decent argument anymore with all this "get over it shit"? I have nothing to get over. This used to be fun.


No, you don't get it. You can't get so serious that you're calling people "stupid", "idiot", and "ignorant" as if it's a fact. Debates don't work like that. If people treat me like that, I treat them the same way back except about 10 times worse.

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Josh, I am revolted that you are still spewing your shit in this topic after all these months.


I'm revolted that you are still spewing your shit on this website after all these years.

all these years

YEARS
Sandraaa
Josh, you spelt intelligence wrong. Your version is ugly. pinch.gif :D

OK. I have a question, it's about homosexuals. What about people who testify saying that they knew they were gay since they were probably 3 years old? (I didn't care to read the other pages. Sorry if it's been explained).
Steven
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 04:36 PM) *
Josh, you spelt intelligence wrong. Your version is ugly. pinch.gif :D

OK. I have a question, it's about homosexuals. What about people who testify saying that they knew they were gay since they were probably 3 years old? (I didn't care to read the other pages. Sorry if it's been explained).

I could testify the same thing. Doesn't make it true. I hope it doesn't make it true. If so, uh oh. I'm a bad homosexual.
brooklyneast05
i don't see how someone knows they are gay at 3 years old

i don't remember thinking how straight i was at 3 years old, who knows their sexual orientation at 3?
Sandraaa
How about if I told you that I've been bisexual since 'forever'. Meaning, I've been into girls since I was VERY little. And no, I'm not making this up. Whatchu say about that?
Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 05:41 PM) *
How about if I told you that I've been bisexual since 'forever'. Meaning, I've been into girls since I was VERY little. And no, I'm not making this up. Whatchu say about that?



I wasn't even into girls at three years old, you must have been one horny three year old.
Steven
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 04:41 PM) *
How about if I told you that I've been bisexual since 'forever'. Meaning, I've been into girls since I was VERY little. And no, I'm not making this up. Whatchu say about that?


I say. Witch!
Sandraaa
I didn't say I was 3. pinch.gif I had my first kiss by a girl at about 9 - 10. But I already did 'sexual acts' prior to that. I don't remember making a choice.

Maybe I'm a witch afterall. fallen.gif
NoSex
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Sep 23 2007, 04:42 PM) *
I wasn't even into girls at three years old, you must have been one horny three year old.


Didn't know you had to make a choice yet?
Insurmountable
Well my god I would hope he wouldn't have to make such a choice at 3 years old.

Honestly to the point and well commenting about others. I can say now I don't even remember when I was 3..and since obviously most people didn't even know they were supposed to be in to one sex or the other then obviously I have to say that its a choice later in life that people are up to make on their own and their decision will end of reflecting off their experiences in life.
NoSex
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Sep 23 2007, 11:18 PM) *
Well my god I would hope he wouldn't have to make such a choice at 3 years old.

Honestly to the point and well commenting about others. I can say now I don't even remember when I was 3..and since obviously most people didn't even know they were supposed to be in to one sex or the other then obviously I have to say that its a choice later in life that people are up to make on their own and their decision will end of reflecting off their experiences in life.


Are you saying that their "decision" is determined by their past experiences?
Doesn't sound like much a choice to me.
Sandraaa
Does anyone remember choosing to be straight?
Steven
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 24 2007, 09:43 AM) *
Does anyone remember choosing to be straight?

Do you remember choosing to learn to communicate?
brundleswat
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Sep 21 2007, 09:46 PM) *
*baby comes out of vagina in doctors hands* Oh here you go you have a new gay baby boy, congratulations.
Your turning more and more every day Holly.

I disagree. I think homos are born homos, and can also turn homos by influence from flamboyant homos. Jumping up and down, throwing glitter homos. Using too much gel and making noises homos. Those are the homos you need to worry about. As for the Indians, they most certainly are gay. But they're dead, well most of them anyways. Go drink some more! You're unique in the fact that you're body doesn't metabolize alcohol the way normal people do, so you stay drunk for longer you goddamn red homos. How did the great white man not know right away the red man were homos? They were jumping up and down by the fire, shooting arrows and masturbating on everyone and everything. Definitely signs of the homos.
Luciadus
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 05:41 PM) *
How about if I told you that I've been bisexual since 'forever'. Meaning, I've been into girls since I was VERY little. And no, I'm not making this up. Whatchu say about that?

I'd say that is something a homosexual would say.

QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 24 2007, 10:43 AM) *
Does anyone remember choosing to be straight?

oh yeah, I can remember it like it was yesterday. God was like
"Eh yo Johnny,"
I was like "Oh shit, what up god. Whatchu want nig ga"
He was like "Yo man, who you want to fu ck? Bitches or punk bitches?"
I was like "Yo, who you tryin to play son. Bring on da bitches, leave da punk bitches at the door."
He was like "Alright my brotha. Yo momma still havin a barbeque on tuesday?"
I was like "Three o' clock mutha fu cka"
he was like "Alright my ni gga, I'll see you there. Asalam Alaikum"

good times, good times
CowerPointyObjects
QUOTE(Steven @ Sep 24 2007, 12:21 PM) *
Do you remember choosing to learn to communicate?

Communication is necessary to survive in society. Heterosexuality is not.

Note that I'm talking about on an individual basis, not that if everyone stopped having sex and reproducing, the species would still survive.
brundleswat
umm, its bad to be a homo.
NoSex
QUOTE(The-Abominable-CPillar @ Sep 24 2007, 12:45 PM) *
umm, its bad to be a homo.


Are you trying to make an ethical argument now?
I'm curious, what makes being a homosexual "bad?"
Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 23 2007, 05:55 PM) *
I didn't say I was 3. pinch.gif I had my first kiss by a girl at about 9 - 10. But I already did 'sexual acts' prior to that. I don't remember making a choice.

Maybe I'm a witch afterall. fallen.gif


Ok, and do you think that sexual acts at the age of 9-10 are normal? I personally don't. You lead an abnormal life, but I don't look down on you for it. Keep your head up, and keep swimming. you were young, and made subconscious decisions based upon the life that you were given and the choices you had to make. As a 9-10 year old, you aren't intelligent enough to make complicated decisions.

QUOTE(NoSex @ Sep 24 2007, 12:47 AM) *
Are you saying that their "decision" is determined by their past experiences?
Doesn't sound like much a choice to me.

QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 24 2007, 01:34 PM) *
Communication is necessary to survive in society. Heterosexuality is not.

Note that I'm talking about on an individual basis, not that if everyone stopped having sex and reproducing, the species would still survive.


Decisions are decisions whether they're subconscious or conscious and necessary or unnecessary. There are decisions you make every day that are subconscious. The way you communicate, the things you enjoy, they way you react to events in the relationships you have... You consistently make a subconscious decisions in all of these areas, and the decisions you make in these areas are based upon the setting you grew up in and the things that you held onto throughout that life. Do you remember making the choice to like the things you like, love, and the enjoy the things you like, love, and enjoy in life itself?

For example, I really enjoy playing video games. Not everyone enjoys video games, but I highly doubt they would consciously choose not to enjoy something so prevalent in society today (You can't turn a corner without hearing about the release of Halo3). I didn't get up one day and say, "I really like video games! I think I'll play them!" No, the kids at school enjoyed video games, and I thought they were cool. I started playing them, I was encouraged to play them, I became better and better, and with each step of increased video gaming skill I was encouraged more and more. People can come up with reasons for my love of video games, but did I really make a conscious choice to enjoy them? Not at all, I enjoyed them because the environment I grew up in taught me to enjoy them. In the same way, I was raised in an environment that encouraged me to like women.

Ok, now before you say, "Josh, you are so ignorant. How the hell are gay people encouraged to be gay?! Choosing to be a homosexual is absolutely insane. Why would you want to lead a life of constant persecution?!", I'll answer your question:

The truth is, people do irrational and illogical things all the time. We are ALL different people. No two are alike and we choose our paths based upon what makes sense to us even though it may not make any sense at all. For example:

-there are many cases where people who were raped end up consistantly craving sexual attention even though they were physically abused.

-there are many cases where codependents seem to force themselves away from fun because they don't think that they deserve to enjoy life.

-there are many cases where people who are depressed make their situation worse by hurting those around them through verbal and physical abuse, loosing all their friends and family, and then complaining about how they have lost everything.


So, are any of those decisions logical? No, they aren't logical at all. The person who was raped will just degrade him/herself, codependent will loose more and more self-worth, and the depressed person will probably loose everything... do you think that these people are doing these things because they want to do them? I highly doubt it. Each and every one of them has the ability to physically stop at any point in time, but they probably won't because their characters are firmly planted in their bodies by the life that they've lead and the choices that they've made conscious or subconscious.

The way you interpret the influences in your life that guide your character in this world will determine who you are.

QUOTE(NoSex @ Sep 24 2007, 03:41 PM) *
Are you trying to make an ethical argument now?
I'm curious, what makes being a homosexual "bad?"


He is very serious. Don't mess with him.
Steven
QUOTE(CowerPointyObjects @ Sep 24 2007, 12:34 PM) *
Communication is necessary to survive in society. Heterosexuality is not.

Note that I'm talking about on an individual basis, not that if everyone stopped having sex and reproducing, the species would still survive.

I'm just using it as an analogy. I'm not saying it's the same thing. The point I was trying to get across is that quite often you don't choose to do something, it just comes to you naturally. Until someone (a scientist) can prove to me that you choose or have a gene that chooses for you, I'm going to believe that it just happens from a combination of nature and nurture.
CowerPointyObjects
QUOTE(Steven @ Sep 24 2007, 05:13 PM) *
I'm just using it as an analogy. I'm not saying it's the same thing. The point I was trying to get across is that quite often you don't choose to do something, it just comes to you naturally. Until someone (a scientist) can prove to me that you choose or have a gene that chooses for you, I'm going to believe that it just happens from a combination of nature and nurture.

And all I meant was that I didn't think the analogy worked very well.
Steven
Well, I was in a rush for time and figured that the analogy could at least get the point across. What I was trying to say, since people I guess don't get it, is that you don't just "choose" to do many things you do on a regular basis.
brundleswat
QUOTE(NoSex @ Sep 24 2007, 03:41 PM) *
Are you trying to make an ethical argument now?
I'm curious, what makes being a homosexual "bad?"

Being a homosexual is bad. Bad Nate. So stop it. No...what did I say? Don't make me get the newspaper. I will...no. Stop it.

It's bad enough having shit stains on the back of your drawers, you really want them on the front too?
Sandraaa
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Sep 24 2007, 09:53 PM) *
Ok, and do you think that sexual acts at the age of 9-10 are normal? I personally don't. You lead an abnormal life, but I don't look down on you for it. Keep your head up, and keep swimming. you were young, and made subconscious decisions based upon the life that you were given and the choices you had to make. As a 9-10 year old, you aren't intelligent enough to make complicated decisions.

In some cases, true. At age 9 - 10, curiosity kicks in because of the media. I mean, I always saw people kissing or touching (in movies). My neighbour and I were very curious and wanted to know what it felt like, kissing / touching. Secretly, I thought she was very pretty and I liked her. I absolutely do not recall making a choice or anything of the sort. My sister who was brought up in the same environnement (I spelt it the French way, too lazy to dictionary the word) is straight.

You, Josh, are straight not because you chose to be, just because you are. Although I do believe that there are people who choose to live an homosexual life based on past experience or curiosity or whatever.
Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 26 2007, 12:38 PM) *
In some cases, true. At age 9 - 10, curiosity kicks in because of the media. I mean, I always saw people kissing or touching (in movies). My neighbour and I were very curious and wanted to know what it felt like, kissing / touching. Secretly, I thought she was very pretty and I liked her. I absolutely do not recall making a choice or anything of the sort. My sister who was brought up in the same environnement (I spelt it the French way, too lazy to dictionary the word) is straight.

You, Josh, are straight not because you chose to be, just because you are. Although I do believe that there are people who choose to live an homosexual life based on past experience or curiosity or whatever.


Look, I'm not saying you make a conscious choice. You yourself said, "I always saw people kissing and touching (in movies)." The media influenced you to become bisexual. I'm not saying you made a wrong choice. I'm just saying that, whether you meant to interpret it that way or not, you did make a choice to pursue that curiousity. You could have interpreted it a different way, but in the end you wanted to do something, did it, and it effected you.

I'm not looking down on you for it. I'm just saying you weren't BORN that way. Nothing more nothing less. Also, you and your sister, although born into the same environment, are totally different people who lead totally different lives, have totally different experiences, and interpret those experiences in totally different ways. You aren't the same person. Yes, you're parents are a huge influence in you life, but you're parents can only influence you. They can't force you to believe or think a certain way.

You choose to interpret life around you in much the same way you interpret this post. You could take my post entirely out of context if you wanted to. Who knows, you could be doing that right now... STOP... Only I know the true context for which this post was written, the right way to interpret this post. Trouble with life is, there is "right way" to interpret it. You can't ask life the true context for which it was meant to be understood therefore you are left to interpret it for yourself. This is where you make the choice. Conscious or not, you make the choice to interpret life the way you want to.
Sandraaa
Granted but you failed to understand one point. Before I even kissed my neighbour or did anything of the sort, I already thought of her as very pretty. I watched her from my window whenever she came home or went out. The only area the media influenced me was the kissing part. Seeing couples (men & women) kissing made me want to try it out with a partner (male or female but it happened to be female).

I already liked her wayyy before the media kicked it's bullshit into my head.

EDIT// I'm not taking you out of context. It's a debate =p
Uronacid
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Sep 27 2007, 03:41 AM) *
Granted but you failed to understand one point. Before I even kissed my neighbour or did anything of the sort, I already thought of her as very pretty. I watched her from my window whenever she came home or went out. The only area the media influenced me was the kissing part. Seeing couples (men & women) kissing made me want to try it out with a partner (male or female but it happened to be female).

I already liked her wayyy before the media kicked it's bullshit into my head.

EDIT// I'm not taking you out of context. It's a debate =p


No, I don't think you are taking me out of context. I just can't debate that. If it is as you say it is you may or may not have been born that way. I honestly don't think you were, but I can't debate that you weren't. I could say something to the effect of,

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There are plenty of factors in your life that could have lead homosexual ideas and thoughts to "click" inside within your brain. Brains are complex. Sometimes you think or feel things that seem like they don't make any sense. In the end, it's the way you interpreted life around you.


but I think it's just a waste of time. If you believe that you were born that way then I can't change your mind. I believe you weren't. There are supporting arguments for both sides, but there is no proof on either side of the argument. The main reason I choose to believe that they weren't born that way is because I feel like many homosexuals are just going to use the "I was born this way!" as a big fat crutch. At least you're not as ignorant as some of the rest of the members on this site.
brundleswat
I think it's fair to say that it's f**king both. Stop being a gay, both of you.

There are definitely people who are born a gay. I've grown up around people who later came out, and you could tell even as kids that there's something different about them. We went to the same school, knew all the same people, did a lot of the same things, yet now he's a gay and Im not.

It's like what Chris Rock says, "He didn't turn gay, he was gay then. You was playing ball, he was jumpin' rope."

And of course, there are people who later turn into gay, either by being "influenced"(NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) or just not feeling satisfied with how things are going and want to experiment (Anne Heche anyone. OHH!!!! Can I get an AMEN!). And these are usually the people you hear about turning back.
Now the whole effeminate voice thing is definitely a factor. You dont exactly choose your voice, it just develops into the final product. You can change the pitch of your voice to your liking, I do it everyday. But your voice, if it's in the G-Pitch(Gay Pitch), it's more than likely you are a gay.

If you ask a buddy what his favorite Madonna album is, and he answers anything other than "I don't listen to Madonna," You've got a gay.

Just some things for you to remember folks. Besides, we're all people. If it makes them happy to love eachother, by golly let them love eachother. Besides, Gay has been around for-f**king-ever. If it bothered God that much, he'd have gassed them all by now. Let the Gays do what they want, who cares anymore. But if everyone can support my Ban On Blacks(B.O.B.), Id greatly appreciate it. Thanks again.
Uronacid
QUOTE(The-Abominable-CPillar @ Sep 27 2007, 09:17 AM) *
I think it's fair to say that it's f**king both. Stop being a gay, both of you.

There are definitely people who are born a gay. I've grown up around people who later came out, and you could tell even as kids that there's something different about them. We went to the same school, knew all the same people, did a lot of the same things, yet now he's a gay and Im not.

It's like what Chris Rock says, "He didn't turn gay, he was gay then. You was playing ball, he was jumpin' rope."

And of course, there are people who later turn into gay, either by being "influenced"(NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) or just not feeling satisfied with how things are going and want to experiment (Anne Heche anyone. OHH!!!! Can I get an AMEN!). And these are usually the people you hear about turning back.
Now the whole effeminate voice thing is definitely a factor. You dont exactly choose your voice, it just develops into the final product. You can change the pitch of your voice to your liking, I do it everyday. But your voice, if it's in the G-Pitch(Gay Pitch), it's more than likely you are a gay.

If you ask a buddy what his favorite Madonna album is, and he answers anything other than "I don't listen to Madonna," You've got a gay.

Just some things for you to remember folks. Besides, we're all people. If it makes them happy to love eachother, by golly let them love eachother. Besides, Gay has been around for-f**king-ever. If it bothered God that much, he'd have gassed them all by now. Let the Gays do what they want, who cares anymore. But if everyone can support my Ban On Blacks(B.O.B.), Id greatly appreciate it. Thanks again.


I swear Jeremy. You always insist upon stealing all my Gay. We should build an underwater city where people inject Gay into their bloodstream and gain super powers. Quite frankly it pisses me right the fuck off that you steal my Gay. Now go get stomped on by a big daddy, would you kindly?
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