I've been in one long term relationship
And no short term
so i have a problem with guys
I mean i love guys
i just i guess im afraid that i don't have the right one for now
so i kinda flirt and then send mixed signals
I can't stand it, cause what if the next guy is the right one?
and i push him away like all the others?
can it be that im not ready for a relationship yet?

Yes.

its been almost 2 years!!

Maybe you should go into a life of stoicism.

haha dont think so. but ive been trying something new. have you guys read the book "the Secret"? its really good

You have so many relationship problems ... well quite a few at least.

Maybe you should concentrate in your education. After that, do you. As in figure yourself out... discover who you truly are. Because if not... relationships will never work out, I mean it may work out, but I'm speakin of compatibilities.

By the way, I hate to say it.. but finding the right one, is like finding diamonds on the beach. You have to go through every grain of salt/sand/dirt till you find a diamond. There's many people who are perfect for many people... it's just up to you to keep them or not. Hopefully you find one that is fully compatible.

i think that of course u have to go through a lot of salt.. but i mean im a very good student and it will always be my priority to make it stay that way..

its just idk.. w/e the hell withh relationships.. lol

you're scared of commitment.

To be honest, you aren't ready for any relationship. You should be focusing about school, interacting with just friends, family, clubs, and be a normal typical girl.

Understand yourself first. Educate yourself. Discover.

It's important to be a solid staple person before you're wrapped in confusion with many relationships. Know who you are. Don't get wash away by some people. People can confused you, if you know yourself well; you can't let someone screw your mind.

Can't keep your minds off boys? Do work that keep your mind busy. The busy you are, the better your mind is able to concentrate without the boy problems. Take APs classes, join community clubs, or be an active supporter of foundations.

Be a strong independent woman first.


edit

oh man. someone posted exact same idea as me. Dam. what a waste of my time. Oh well. I hope mine can be a bit helpful.

Don't rush yourself into being in a long term relationship. You either feel it or you don't. It seems like you're on your quest to find Mr. Right, but you can't expect to stay in a relationship if you know you can't trust yourself. Stay out of a relationship for a while, and set your proirities. Figure out what you really want before you hurt others and yourself.

I have the same problem. I got out of a long term relationship about 3 months ago... then I start to think I like someone and kind of lead them on.. but then I realize I don't really like them as much as I thought. Cause I can't stop thinking about the guy I used to be with.. and how I want him back.. not sure if that part is your case.

hm I guess I kinda figured I'm not ready for another relationship just yet. I'd rather not have another guy help me get over my last guy.. but let myself get over him on my own, then move on to better things.
Maybe it's the same for you? I would say wait a little..even though 2 years does seem like a while... :/ hmm

or if you meet a guy you think you might like..spend some time with them and get to know them first.. but try not to send messages that you like them until you are really sure of it.

Flirting with guys..then sendin mixed singles...i do tht all the time!
and i learned it gets me no where!! im in no condition 2 give u advice cuz im lost in my own so called luv rite nw..but wut i think is tht u shud wait for the right guy to cum 2...there is sum1 out there tht wants 2 make u happy...
and in my opinion..there is no need 4 short term relationships..maybe sum fun from time to time..but y date a guy wen u no itz nt gona last right??

jus wait 4 ur heart 2 lead u =)

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did you say ... " just wait for the right guy to come" ...


How would you know which guy was right for you when you're going to turn him away.

which guys doesnt want their girl to be happy in a relationship. i'm sure everyone does.

You cant possibly know how long you're going to last with this guy. it really depends on their relationship, sitation, commitment, and who they are.

And you know someone with a ten inch dick right?