So for 6 amazing months with my boyfriend, nothing went wrong..we never got into any arguments, nothing like that. He was like my best friend, we laughed, talked, joked around etc.
Then May rolled around, and usually we would hang out alone once a week, so as usual i asked him to come over...as the weeks went by he kept making excuses as to why he couldnt come.
Well, the day before our 6 month anniversary, i invite him over, he says yes...and i get all excited and such, because i hadnt been alone with him for a month.
Turns out, he was coming over to break up with me Now of course im in total shock, and i can hardly speak, but i manage to ask him "why?"
He said he just hasnt felt right lately, and of course he gives me the "its not you its me" line...

My question?
How do you go from being so "inlove" as he told me many times....to just gradually losing that feeling?

Now the thing is, im stuck with all these questions i want to ask him, but i have no way of contacting him since its summer. The fact that i actually fell inlove with him, and he's just been taken away from me kills...

&& another thing, if i ever do get to speak to him online or something, how do i even begin to have a conversation with him about our breakup? we will eventually have to have it, seeing as he still wants to be "really good friends"

Maybe he was never "in love" and was just throwing it around. Relationships come and go, people move on.

It happens, feelings change and feelings fade. I've gone through it. It sucks, and I don't know exactly how it happens, but it does. Or he could be lying, but I'll try and be optimistic here.

It happens. I know from experience. My ex and I went out for 6 months. We were totally and completely in love with each other. I seriously thought I wanted to be with this guy forever, we were even engaged. Then...idk why...but the relationship just didn't feel right to me anymore. I couldn't shake that feeling...and I ended up breaking up with him. I still love him, in a way, so it killed me to have to do it...but I just was not at all happy in our relationship anymore...I wish I knew why, but I don't. So...I've been in your boyfriend's position. Sometimes...hard as it is...these things just happen.

^ i think i understand what you're saying...because when he was telling me everything, he said it was killing him that he didnt know why he felt like that, and he just couldnt shake off the fact that he didnt feel the same way anymore.
Though, the thing is, when i was with him i had the strange feeling that i just didnt wanna be with him anymore, but then i realized when i hung out with him that it was just a matter of me missing him...and that feeling went away, but i guess everyone is different.

I don't want to sound like an a-hole. But true, pure love, is something that sticks with you forever. You can't fall out of true pure love. You could fall out of infatuation and or lust. But I don't think it's possible to fall out of a true pure love.

Just my opinion as well as a few philosophers, but that's all that it is.

That's very true. But sometimes you can seriously believe what you feel is love. Which is why it's so confusing & heartwrenching when your feelings change. Though at the same time, love can really be there...but in some situations, love just isn't enough to hold people together. You have to consider lifestyles, personalities, etc. I believe that you can honestly love someone deep down inside of you...but if[in some cases, not all] it isn't a healthy relationship, then other feeling may change even though the actual love is still there. And you just can't be with that person anymore even though it breaks your heart.

idk if that made any sense at all but...yeah idk.

Sorry, but maybe it's because he probably didn't in the first place.

Like everyone's said, things just happen. People change, feelings change. I've been in your boyfriend's position, and it just...sucks. Don't think you did anything wrong and linger on it; just move on. It's the only thing you can do.

most likely, he wasn't so in love.
i get how you feel.

way too lazy to explain it, since i'm tired of telling the story over and over again to friends who thought we'd never split.

thats why yo uhave to find a better partner. i think guys get bored of bitches easily


my dream girl would
a. switch it up a lot
b. shatter my heart every 3 or so months
c. make me her slave


try to act like you have no interest in him rite, then f**kin lead him on and then shit on his heart
HE"LL COME BACK FOR MORE!

Because he never loved you. Yo, that's just something stupid teenagers say when they get all warm in their pants.

Well, I have to say I disagree. I think plenty of people have been in true, pure love, and they still manage to f**k it up. And by this, I don't mean teenage relationships, I mean actual "old, mature" people who really loved.



Anyways, it may have felt amazing and all, but most of the time when you're younger, everything changes, and it's almost impossible to stay "in love". Maybe one day you'll look back on this and realize that you are way better off without him. ^_^

I agree. I think thats very true.

Like everyone said, people change, and feelings change.

I too, know how it feels to have your heart shattered in front of your very eyes. We were perfect, always called eacher, said we loved eachother, hugged, etc. etc. then one day out of no where he decided he wanted to break up. I havent talked to him since summer started. He likes me again. End of story.

Well to tell you, honestly the line "ITS NOT YOU ITS ME" is actually appropriate sometimes. like i used it once for a lack of words and thats truly how i felt. i mean yes its a cliche and tossed around a lot but maybe you should also try to understand that maybe he was trying to tell you all along and then let your gaurd down. maybe he was trying to tell you and you didnt see the signs. in anycase im not siding with him. i know how both sides feel like. its not easy breaking up with someone. but your still young and there are so many other guys and better that can be there for you and you just have to move on. hmm maybe i should follow my own advice. anyway hope things go well for you.
GOG BLESS.