hey what do you have to do to be legally engaged?....cause...i think i might be....? long story short he got down asked if i would marry him i said i do and here i am....wierd...

Okay.

So there's no law prohibiting engagement at any age, but the age of legal consent for marriage is now eighteen in all fifty states.

*points at what Kaycee said*

How do you think you are engaged..? That makes no sense.. And umm, I know 2 couples who are engaged that are my age. One seems to be working out quite well, but I can't say the same about the other..

You'll be lucky if you ever see him again after you tell your parents.

No age. Congrats! Good luck on the marriage! While you're at it, you should enter MTV "Engaged and Underage" Have fun. :)

lol theres a big age difference...which makess it all the more interesting...like 6 years...god this sounds ridicoulous... ...so im 12 years old, gay, and engaged to a phedophile....i have alot of explaining to do...

....this guy is 18? and hes with you...a 12 year old?

i hope there had been no sexual action done at all and i hope your parents dont know...because if theyre alright with that, there's something wrong with that

nice

Aw! Well, maybe you can post up some porn vids on the internet and sell them. People are into that kinda stuff these days.

ahahahahaha.. Talk to you in a week, when you'll be telling us how he broke your heart.

i thought gay marriage was bannned....

REMOVED

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Wow..umm..well, you need parental consent if you're gonna get married, but not for engagement I don't think. Mind telling the whole story?

:|

As far as I know engagement is a cultural thing.

A cultural thing you just raped and pillaged.

you are an idioooooootttttttt.

Well, like the others said, there is no age to be legally engaged. But...you just have to be sure its what you want. I'm not even sure if its legal for you guys to be together but...alright. Good luck with that.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same-sex_marr...e_United_States

Say what? 12 + 18 yr old engaged. lawlz. Okay, so the person asked you and you said yes? That's it? what the f**k?

so he lives in the one state where it would even be done lol...but on the other hand hes about 6 years too young....

Whoa.... Engaged at 12. If I would have been engaged at 12, I would have lost my mind. The guy would have been shot for one. lol. And I would have been grounded for life.

There is a young girl that goes to my church. Just got married this weekend. Got Pregnant at the age of 15... Got Married Saturday.... Baby is due in September. She's 16... and She is not ready for marriage by any means.

I just think it's sad what the world is coming to these days. :(

I think it's sad that there making her get married.

making who get married?

did he give you a ring?

Actually they're not. Gay marriage is ban here in Wisconsin. I'm not sure about other states, I just remember this being a big issue not too long ago.

Who do you think?

Well I don't know if that "reply" was meant in a rude way ... but if you are talking about my post with the 16 year old pregnant girl.... No one made her get married. She chose that.

Um. Don't take things like that seriously, especially at your age. Sure it might be sweet and stuff, but you're so young! XD
And you can't be "legally engaged" ...

AND AN 18 YEAR OLD.
Holy shitt.
The age difference isn't even the main issue. The difference in maturity is. You may be mature for your age etc. but you won't be able to see things the way he does at age 12.

First of all how can you think you might be engaged? Its a yes, or no question, did he have a ring?


Wow, if I was your parents I would ground you for life. Getting engaged at 12 how stupid can you be, thats going to mess up your WHOLE LIFE. People are always going to be like: *wispers to another person as you walk down the hall* shes the girl who got engaged at 12 hahahahahahaha. Your also probably going to be one of those girls that get engaged, gets pregnat, gets married, gets a devorce, and your man leaves you with the kid to raise by yourself.

Theirs no age to be legally engaged, but im not sure if its even legal for you two to be together.

^Are you reading? It doesn't look like the person is going to get pregnant O_o.

You can have sex and sue him for statutory rape.

I remember you saying that you're not even sure if you're gay or not.

Yea I read it lol. Im just saying she might decide since their engaged to have sex and she might get pregnat.

I just hate it when people post questions they already know the answer to.



I assumed there was pressure for her to get married, since you said that she wasn't ready. If she knows she isn't ready, why is she getting married? In hopes that the boy won't leave? Because her parents or her society thinks it's right?

I saw my sister go through this. No one should have to go through that, not even if you made a mistake a made a baby. Marriage is sacred, and it's absolutely devastating when not only do you have this baby, but you forced yourself to marry this man who doesn't really love you.

My cousin was lucky, she got pregnant (not at 16) but married a man that did end up actually loving her. Sadly she lost the baby.

These type of things have to be thought about. If your friend loses the baby but is married to this boy, will that effect the marriage?

1. Doom's a boy
2. Therefore, he can't get pregnant

YES HUH.

Lol, people don't read anymore.

Oh my. Do you (you and your 'fiance') know what marraige is all about?

Wait a second ... man, this is FREAKY. You're still a little boy, marraige should be the last thing on your mind.

*Faints*

Well, if someone gets down on one knee, asks you to marry him, and you say yes...that pretty much means you're engaged.

But you're 12.
I'm sorry if this might not be what you want to hear, but it's not going to last.

you're still really young. while your boyfriend carried out the action of proposing, i don't think your engagment is true or really means anything.

i remember that you posted that you got a boyfriend like only a few weeks ago. it seems very irresponsible of your boyfriend to jump to such a commitment so soon. you're 12 and that is hardly a age to get engaged. also, i think your relationship is very iffy and suspicious.

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Wow, if I was your parents I would ground you for life. Getting engaged at 12 how stupid can you be, thats going to mess up your WHOLE LIFE. People are always going to be like: *wispers to another person as you walk down the hall* shes the girl who got engaged at 12 hahahahahahaha. Your also probably going to be one of those girls that get engaged, gets pregnat, gets married, gets a devorce, and your man leaves you with the kid to raise by yourself.

Theirs no age to be legally engaged, but im not sure if its even legal for you two to be together.

being engaged is not that horrible. in fact, adults make horrible engagment choices too. being engaged is not important as being married. i know couples who call themselves engaged and i had two friends who were engaged in 5th grade. trust me, no one would whisper in the hallways about his "engagment" because everyone pretty thinks of engagment as a joke if it's between two teenagers.

LOL wow. :T i wonder if you're really serious or not.

wtf.


This is so ridiculous that I don't even know what to say.

I think you're making it up.
Either that, or you and that man make really reckless deciscions.
Or your "boyfriend" is incredibly stupid.

I think in India (not 100% sure) the fathers look for a male friend in which has a child of the opposite sex, (most of the time the fathers are friends) and if they're pleased with each other's family and their children (assuming their manners, health, morals etc...) they marry their children as young as 8-9 years old. BUT! All they do is make a permanent bond with the kids, and they separate each other to grow up and then come to each other to be together forever.

So basically it takes away the idea of children later on fornicating and having random relationships as they grow older.

So the idea of children being engaged isn't all that bad, but of course in the western world we associate sex with engagement and marriage. It's the norm in our society... premarital sex is even acceptable. In other parts of the world it's frowned upon.

The western thought of this 12 year old being engaged is nasty. But in a worldly view it's just part of a culture(s). Now if the topic read, "12 year old children fornicating after engagement", then maybe I would have to say, "OMFGWTFBBQ?!??!"

Anyways, that's my .02 cents.

^ what the heck are you talking about? apparently you've never actually been to other parts of the world (i.e. Europe) premarital sex is prevalent and from what ive been told, very normal. Heck, you could even watch a few international films to figure that out.

Back to the topic, i do find it odd that this 18 year old guy is asking a 12 year old to marry him, prolly just to get in his pants...well thats just me judging not knowing all the facts but whatever.

I'm technically not allowed to post to his topics anymore, but screw that bullshit.

I, personally, didn't think of sex at ALL when I read that he had "gotten engaged". See, Tama, you don't seem to understand that in India, it's actually going to happen, no matter what the kid says. In their culture, being a virgin is very much sought after, and yes, it helps these children think, "That is my husband, I will save myself for him" but it will also make them sob hopelessly. It's not a game for them. It's life.

But that has absolutely NOTHING to do with this case. His parents DIDN'T plan it, his parents AREN'T planning his marriage, and his boyfriend didn't even propose the cultural way that OUR society does things (Ring). So why should we as Americans even believe in it?

You love blabbering on about American culture, I would think you understood a bit of it by now.

Engagement is cultural, and in American culture, an 18 year old doesn't propose to a 12 year old. Why? Because that is the way it is done, just like in India.

This has nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with this kid thinking marriage and engagement is a game, which it absolutely isn't.



Who thought it was nasty? A bunch of 14 year olds? A bunch of 14 year olds on a forum represents all of America?

WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? He is a 12 year old boy who got engaged to an 18 year old. India or no India, it is not right.

You enjoy blabbing from what I've seen.

He's a babbler.

Why is that???
I'm new and learning!

I was just givin my opinion about engagement at young ages and a culture which practices it.

yobaka, I'm reporting you again for the 2nd time. Keep it up.



Because she was specifically told not to reply to any of my posts by a moderator, since she has a problem with me and keeps making attacks no matter what the topic is about.

WTF? You attack EVERYONE in the debate forum yet Yobaka has some kind of 'restraining order'? What the f-ck?

Whatever for? Because I posted my opinion? This doesn't make any sense Tama, your just trying to silence me because you can't backup your own arguments.



Yes, apparently the moderators took his side.

Also, Tamacracker, if Yobaka bothers you that much, why not block her?