xRaZnXqUiCk3rX
Jun 14 2004, 08:10 PM
ok. im 13 and im not really that mature yet, but i like this girl, and shes pretty, and she used to like me and i liked her, but she doesnt like me anymore because i got shy everytime i saw her for some reason. before my "trustable" friend told the girl that i liked her, we used to flirt all the time, but we were good friends, and none of us told the other person that we like each other. i wish that life right now can go back to the old days, when we were friends and not shy to talk to each other and laugh and stuff, but since now im shy with her, i barely talk to her. what should i do to overcome my shyness?
XxKrNqTcUiTyxX
Jun 14 2004, 08:30 PM
ive had this happen to meeh once. i rilli lyked this guy and his sister told meeh he lyked meeh. so i got rili shy and stopped tlkaing to him for a bit. then i started tlaking to him more, and we went out for a few weeks

sooooo, i think you should just wait a little bit for her to get over that fact you like her, and then gradually start talking to her again

hope this helps....
177emories
Jun 14 2004, 10:03 PM
to overcome the shyness you need to break the ice! and to do that, you need to open up more or talk more...
iheartsimba
Jun 14 2004, 10:05 PM
*sigh* same thing happened to me...except i was the girl....but it just takes time you no? just wait, eventually you'll get used to being aorund her things should get easier
simplysweet259
Jun 15 2004, 01:17 AM
try to find little things that you both like to talk about and you'll soon be comfortable around each other. =)
mglbaby
Jun 15 2004, 01:39 AM
try to talk to her more...n soon u guys would be comfortable w/ each otha...
orionpax
Jun 15 2004, 01:50 AM
dude, u gotta swallow ure pride man. u've got one thing going for u and that;s the fact that u KNOW she used to like u. now alot of guys dont have this luxury. now it doesnt mean that she's gonna like u again 100% but at least u got a better chance then others.
now the way i see it, its a gamble. sure u might be friendly to her and she might just give u the cold shoulder, but its just a risk man. if u dont ever try, u'll NEVER know what could've happened. for all u know she just might like u man. think of the possibilities!!!
if u like her, and u know that she used to like u, then its a worth a try man. dont go in too strong mind u. test the water abit u know...give her a smile, see if she smiles back...say hi...no response? try again another time. eventually try to strike up a conversation and just let it flow. if u get hurt, its just ure pride man. ure only 13 dude...trust me, u'll get over it.
g'luck dude
Note
Jun 15 2004, 02:48 AM
drink coffee or something to get hyper. that should lossen you up and make you talk more. this should be in relationships.
::jerry::
mai_z
Jun 15 2004, 10:21 AM
mm.. ya that happened 2 me once, me n this guy were pretty cool wit each other, i liked him, n he liked me...but then it got awkward cuz ppl started telling me that he liked me n then it wuz just embarassing... i'd say act like it never happened, or if that doesn't work, just straight up ask her out
XaZnX07
Jun 15 2004, 10:39 AM
dont wait for you to get confortable with her ok if you wait it may be too late and you two might lose it so call her its easier to talk to a peerson on the phone then face to face so talk to her and then when you get comfortable on the phone start talking to her face to face and bam strike your pray and ask her out lols i sound funny oh well good luck man
:tOny:
SarahxJoy
Jun 15 2004, 03:34 PM
Something like that sort of happened to me. LoL. I had this huge crush on this guy. We were good friends and all, we'd hang out after school sometimes and in school. Stuff like that. But one night, a bunch of us and our friends were hanging out at the movies and his sister told me he liked me. I didn't want to believe it, but then I started noticing that he kept on glancing at me. That's when I hit the brakes and went into total shy mode.
But I could still talk to him online because it's not like he was really there. So, I guess that helped and things got back to normal. Then the next week he asked me out. LoL.

We ended up going out for almost a year, but then I had to move. Umm..so yeah. Try talking to her online or writing her notes. See how that works. LoL.
Disappearing Boy
Jun 15 2004, 08:33 PM
just talk to her but yeah breaking the ice is a good move..
xRaZnXqUiCk3rX
Jun 16 2004, 02:23 PM
Thanx for the advice guys. this is me, the original topic starter. my friends call me sad and sissy now cuz i dont talk to her. i try my best by the way. and were going to the same high school so i got 4 more years!
silentstalkerdude
Jun 16 2004, 02:35 PM
u sould just go talk to he a face it man
Pretty in Pink
Jun 29 2004, 02:41 PM
make the first move, cos you know, she's probably shy too
Mini
Jun 29 2004, 03:41 PM
just tell her. b4 its too late.
LaZazn
Jun 29 2004, 03:46 PM
4 Years. It might be too late dude. Just suck it up and go talk to her. So what if you're shy. Girls like it when guys are shy...or at least some of them. Just talk to her and ask her out before it's too late.
Jordan Inc.
Jun 29 2004, 04:50 PM
maybe u can get more help if u post this in relationships
lidoaznboi89
Jun 29 2004, 10:36 PM
hmm.. i think you should ask her.. get it all straigthen out.. i have the same problem as you too.. ahha.. and im trying to help someone out.. isnt taht nice.. so dont wait to long.. or it can be to late.. so take the risk.. but you dont really need to.. since were all YOUNG.,. and got like over 20 years on us.. lol
DavidxN
Jun 29 2004, 11:22 PM
haha theres this technique that ben stiller used in the movie "something about mary" right before he had a date with her, if u saw it then you might wanna try it, if not, then u gotta build your confidence and impress her. with confidence you can overcome your shyness, try accomplishing something big to build your confidence
Viggen
Jun 30 2004, 12:10 AM
By shying-away from your friend does give-off to her the impression that you are rather closed-minded and not willing to open-up your feelings. Selfish, really, and that turns her off.
For the sake of not being a pussy, I suggest that you open yourself to her once again and talk about it. It doesn't hurt to admit you feelings to her, afterall she is your friend and that is what friends are for. You are a young one, and you will have a lot to learn about friendships and communicating with others in the long run. Take it like a man.
Sorry, I had to read this five times before I got your point across. Big run-on sentences there.
JlIaTMK
Jul 15 2004, 03:34 PM
i no how it is.... ive been thro that.... i duno.... u can try talking to her lol
DrEaMgUy2K1
Jul 15 2004, 04:10 PM
its great ur starting early and liking girls haha, but take it easy man enjoy video games and stupid cartoons b4 u get bored of it and end up heart broken and moppy ;]
x_swtangel
Jul 15 2004, 04:34 PM
just b yourself
sheepy
Jul 15 2004, 05:10 PM
er dis happened to me b4 .. not too suree.. just try to overcome ur shyness nd talkk
defjam_gangsta
Jul 17 2004, 09:09 AM
Greetings!!
if ya not shy to tell ya us prob, wat's stoppin ya of talkin wit her. be da man!! okok. be da BOYEE aight?! sometimes, there are some things which are beyond our control. learn to deal wit tat aight?! and best wishes DUDE!!

CHEERS CB!!
islandkiss
Jul 17 2004, 01:47 PM
just hang around her more often.. you'll start to get comfortable to have her around.. then you'll start talking
babieshortie
Jul 19 2004, 12:05 AM
hehe break the ice by like taking bout stuff u guys used to talk bout bfore..like the times wen u enjoyed...u gotta remember dem ryte??

lol
u gotta gather ur ur confidence man...nd by dat tyme...itll b no problem
strwbrryluv8
Jul 19 2004, 01:58 AM
QUOTE(babieshortie @ Jul 19 2004, 12:05 AM)
hehe break the ice by like taking bout stuff u guys used to talk bout bfore..like the times wen u enjoyed...u gotta remember dem ryte??

lol
u gotta gather ur ur confidence man...nd by dat tyme...itll b no problem

^

what she said...
wen ever u want to talk to her...
juss think that... "she duzent kno i like her... wen shuld i tell her...? hmmm..."
that'll keep you away from "hesitating"

...
"gather up ur confidence"... totally agree...
it might be harder than it actually seems...
but... u gata overcome ur fears... so go for it...
xsweetdreams12x
Jul 19 2004, 05:12 PM
Talk to her online. After a while you'll grow to be more comfortable around her and able to talk to her in person.
That's what I do.
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