(btw, i've decided to stay with him and that i kno eventually he will trust me. the good times with him are too great to give up...)

but where do you draw the line during those alone times with your bf/gf when you want to wait to have sex?

i dont want to do the dirty with him just because i dont want to run the risk of getting pregnant cuz even with condoms and birth control, theres still a tiny risk that i dont want to take. therefore i am waiting.

but idk where to draw the line between what i want to do and can safely do and then what i want to do but know it will lead down a path i dont want to take yet.

so where would you guys draw that line?

Well I'm definitely not having sex before marriage. ruins plans and such and it gets messy... I'd get as far as making out but my clothes are staying ON. If he sees me in the pool with a bathing suit fine but I'm not buying and pretty undies for anyone but me...

yeah, well i know i am keeping my pants on....cant do much about my shirt since thats already come off. lol. idk tho...

I think I'm just going to keep my virginity until 16, although I love my boyfriend very much, he has asked me to have sex with him, but I rejected him, we only have oral sex since he wanted sex so much, he understands what I'm thinking, so we're just going wait until my 16th birthday next year.

do you draw the line at oral sex then? and thats as far as you go?

No I don't draw the line at oral sex, and that's as far as I'd go for now.

okay

So, what's your bottom line?

Guys sex is not badis not like o my god im going to get pregnant if you do it its not that its very hard to get pregnant sometimes things happen and you get pregnant but trust me its very hard i was stupid for a while and my girlfriend and i never used a condom and she was not on birth control either i loved her and if she did have a baby i would have been fine with it i would have taken care of it but if you do have sex you know just make sure your both ready for the consequences if there is any

well i'm not ready to take the risk of getting pregnant even how small it is with birth control and protection...

If you're so worried wait til you're 18 and can make your own medical decisions and get an abortion if something completely unexpected comes about. Get the abortion good an early so you don't have to worry about the guild trip of killing "something that's alive OOOOooOO". That and you can get yourself on birth control which is pretty damn effective.

Learn to use a period.